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You know, I can totally understand your feelings becasue I am in the same situation. I'm 31 and even though I have had a few boyfriends I can easily say that none of these relationships was peaceful or joyous. I always seem to pick the wrong men, either the ones that treat me casually or the ones that want to possess me to the exclusion of everyone else and watch my every move. I too long for a happy, fulfilling relationship in which similar minds can meet and there can be abiding trust, friendship and love. yet, I never pray for one because I have always felt it too selfish to pray for this for myself. Now I realize it isn't. We all deserve to be loved and us 'strong' ones need a bit more I think! I pray for you to find fulfillment this Christmas and may it be an abiding and joyous one. Please God, answer this lady's prayers.

I understand where you are in your life and I know how lonely it is to be there. Sometimes the harder you try for a goal the more elusive it becomes. I too am in my 30's and alone,but I am divorced and raising a 9 yr old boy by myself. I too pray for a good man to help me raise my son son and teach hi to be a man and to just love me. but I want you to know that a bad man in your life is a horrible thing so I believe that God wants a good man to enhance your life not justsome guy off the "rack". I know that I am not who God wants me to be yet to enter into the relationship He has in store for me and I am not seeking so diligently anymore. If you let God help you be happy with You--just you-- when you aren't looking love will stroll into your life. My prayer for you is to receive you christmas wish but to also just be happy to be yourself.

I am making a prayer for you. Love yourself first, it is the most important love affair you will ever have. When you realise that you are the image of God and that he is inside you, this is easier. Stangely enough when you are no longer attached to the result you will feel happier and radiate warmth and charisma - this is very attractive and you are more likely to find a mate at that time. Meditation is an excellent medium to discover and love your authentic self. Love yourself first - it's the best gift you could get this Xmas. Bright Blessings - Crystal.

Finethings,
Im sure you have heard this a million times, true love will happen when you least expect it.Be patient and wait for the right one. At the early age of 20 I rushed into what I thought was true love only to find myself a young mother and the wife of an acholic. After 10 years of a horrible marriage I divorced. Making a promise to myself to love myself and my child first and be a good mother. I spent 10 long years alone after the divorce dating off and on but never finding my true "soul mate". Then at the end of December 2000, I met him. The man I had asked God to bless me with so many times on those lonely nights. We met online and chatted back and forth and decided to meet. From the moment I laid eyes on him thanked God for sending him to me. I have truly found my "soulmate". And I tank God for him every day. My prayer for you is that the good Lord bless you with your Soulmate. Love yourself and never settle.

Heavenly Father, I thank you right now for my sister Finethings, I pray Lord that you Bless her and open doors to places where she might meet her "Soulmate". And we are believing in our hearts Lord that the man you have chosen for her will be beside her forever. In Jesus name we pray.

I understand how you feel. I was married at age 19, divorced at 23 with a newborn baby. Didn't date much and it seemed all any man wanted was "one thing". After being single 6 years, I met my husband taking my child to daycare. He was single with a child too. Never planned on meeting someone at daycare of all places. What I'm trying to say is love will come when you least expect it. Love yourself, have faith and your true love is worth the wait.

I had a similar situation to yours. My parents had divorced when I was young and my sister was divorced and my other sister had problems with her husband. All three had married young. I didn't think it had such a lasting impression on me, but as I get older and look back at how I behaved, it definitely had a profound effect on how I made decisions. I too longed for a significant other to share everything with, but had no luck. One day I met a wonderful man who quickly became my good friend. I tried very hard to be friends with his wife as well, but she isn't the type to like anyone, including herself (unfortunately). I foolishly began to have feelings I should not have had for a married man. They were not reciprocated as such but the marriage was not a good one and when it ended, I was the friend he could talk to because I would actually listen. Our relationship quickly became much more. We were married almost 4 years ago and I feel it was the right decision for all of us. I was 30 years old at the time and this is the only man I have ever dated and I'm glad. He has 2 children from his first marriage and this has made things difficult at times due to their mothers jealousy, but praise God things have gotten better. The reason I have shared my story with you is because I had to learn to love myself before I could share with another. I wasn't what I was radiating to the opposite gender that was impeding me, it was what I was feeling that made ME hold back. You're longing for something that will be right for you when you're actually ready. You and the Lord will know when. In the mean time, don't go chasing something that won't work in the long run. That will prove to set you back and you might not give yourself another chance. Don't be in a hurry! You've got plenty of time. And if you don't think so let me let you in on some other success stories. My mother actually became a stronger person who chooses to be independent since she can be herself now. My one divorced sister remarried her true love and has two beautiful children and is very happy. My other sister stuck it out with her husband and they worked through their problems and she now has two beautiful children as well and has answered her call to the Lord. And I am very blessed to have a loving husband, two wonderful and special stepsons and we are all expecting the newest addition to our crew next year. Yes, miracles happen! God bless and keep you! You're special too!! Stop praying for one answer to life, go live it in his glory and he will provide. You MUST trust!!

We all have stories of not being able to find the right love. Jesus showed me through patience that he would send me my soulmate. We measure everything in time, but our Heavenly Father offers eternity so there is no hurry for him. I pray that Jesus teaches you to not focus so hard on finding love and love will find you. Jesus hears your prayers, so stay strong and believe that he will send someone to you that will lift you up, make you smile, and give you comfort always. In Jesus's name I pray. Amen.

I feel your loneliness. I am thirty, although I have been in many relationships, I find myself lighting a candle hoping that some day like you I will find someone that will love me unconditionally. I don't really look forward to the holidays this year because I too am going to be alone. Even worse I have to see the man who supposibly was "the one", spend his Christmas with what was going to be his ex-wife. After months of being his best friend and helping him through what was an ugly divorce procedure they decided (unbenounced to me)reconcile. There's a lot of hurt and pain to deal with but we'll just have to look inside ourselves and pray that someday we'll find the that happiness...

Dear finethings:
I understand your situation and have felt the same lonliness you felt. However, I met the love of my life when I wasn't really looking. I concentrated on meeting new people (not just men), I got involved in activities that interested me at church, and *BOOM* there he was!

It would be nice if God would just deliver Mr. Right to our doorstep :) but if you haven't done so already, get out there, meet people- join a single's group, or the gym, or go out walking in the park... Smile at everyone you see (this spreads good will, too!) And keep praying. But, you have to work to find a good parnter these days - so get on out there! :)

Dear Finethings, "May you be made strong with all the strength that comes from God's glorious power, and may you be prepared to endure everything with patience, while joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has enabled you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the light" (Col. 1:11-12). I pray that our God, who cares so much for you, will open the eyes of your understanding so that you may know that the plan God has for you is for good and not evil. In your moments of despair, I pray that the love of Christ will fill your heart to overflowing and that he would shine his light so you may see your own love, your own goodness, your own worth. As you delight in him, may he give you the delight of your heart. Amen.
Finethings, people have shared their own experiences and their own heart with you. I believe what they are sharing is truth that God, in his love, wants you to hear. Since you are trusting in God for your soulmate, believe that he hears AND is answering your prayer right now. Perhaps you are placing a time-frame on God as well as asking him to send the 'right' person. There may yet be some work that needs to be done in both of your lives before you meet. Perhaps also, and this may be difficult to accept and I write this with love, it might help if you could know and experience that you can be a whole, fulfilled person without a man in your life-- even for a short while. There is much pressure from everywhere for women to have a boyfriend or husband that sometimes we feel unworthy if we don't have one, and sometimes we feel too dependent on them if we do. With all these prayers joining yours, you can be sure that God will help you to understand your situation and yourself better. You are a miracle as you are and God has a wonderful plan for your life. May he help you to see it and give you many miracles this Christmas. Amen.

I would like to ask for prayer for me and my daughter that God will soon send someone into our lives to share all yhe love we have to give. I have been a single parent so long and now it's time for a father and husband! In jesus name I ask this. I am so tired of not having a partner, especially with the holidays coming! Please ask God for a miracle, in His name I pray. Thank you all! Merry Christmas!

Finethings, keep on praying, and remember that things don't always work out in the timeframe that we want them to; sometimes the Lord has other plans for us, and we have to trust Him. I think almost all of us have been in a similar situation, where it seems like you'll never find that special person, but I promise you that God loves you and wants you to be happy! Hang in there; we're praying for you.

first thing you need to do is trust yourself and only yourself and god hes the only man you can count on. for most change after you get together with them. they tell you what you want to . hear and let you thing you are no one and then some way they change and you are in the wrong, so take hep love god you can trust him not to change so to yourself a good deed love god and your self. pastor linda sue mills email pastorlmills@aol.com

If you pursue happiness, I am sorry to say, it will elude you, but if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.....

Dear Finethings: When we pray to God for what we need then we let God handle the outcome. It's called Letting Go. I
too want someone in my life, for Christmas and for always, but a man does
not make me whole, only God can achieve
that for you. We all want a life partner, the ones we want are not usually what God wants for us. There is someone I like quiet a bit, his is sweet, kind and generous. I have to give this man to God to see if God wants
us to be together or not. We get along
very well as friends, and I can trust him with anything. For now, I am very
glad we are friends. I am 45 years old.
I have never been married, but I have had boyfriends in the past, I don't consider them a mistake, just a learning
experience, I have lots of friends praying for me, and I just give it to God and hope for an outcome that is God related, not Me related. God be with you
and don't loose the faith in him, he will do what is best for us in our time
of need. AFG 1986

Dear Finethings,

I understand your need. For I too was in a similar situation, but what you are feeling is loneliness. If you focus on GOD he will give you the desires of your heart. You may not be ready for the man GOD has chosen for you. Do you know the role of a wife? What marriage is really about? I recommand reading The Secrets of an Irrestible Woman by By Michele Mckinney Hammond. God said,"It's not good for man to be alone". Not women. Your husband will come when GOD is ready to release him, not when you feel your prayers aren't being answered. God doesn't owe you anything. Learn to love yourself and before you know it he will be proposing. You have given your prayer to GOD now let him answer it. You also must believe that he will answer. Now lets vision it. Hold your hand up and look at that big diamond on your finger (the diamond GOD has placed there). Now close your eyes and see the dress and your wedding party. It is all about having faith. If you don't want to be alone for Christmas, then think about the kids at the orphange who don't have family either. Maybe you can be a big sister to somebody else who has no family as well. I already have confirmation in my spirit that your husband is on his way. Please hold on and have faith. Stay in his word and lean on him your husband should be there no later than October of 2001.

Oh most merciful Lord. Thou who has created man from the dust of the earth, and created woman from man, and they shall be one flesh. Oh Lord, women cries day and night for a mate. They seek your help. As your son, Jesus,said "come unto me those who are heaven laden and I will give you rest. Blessed is the name of Jesus. I pray, now, Oh Mighty Father, let the love of your son, Jesus, overflow the hearts of all women who are looking for a mate. Give the the strength, courage, and most off all the faith and trust in Thee. Amswer their prayers and may it be your will, that each women prayer will be answered according to your purpose. May all women prayers be answered, and may they all gorify your name above all names. In Jesus All Mighty Name I pray. Amen.

DEAR FINETHINGS, PLEASE BE VERY CAREFUL AND DO NOT SETTLE. IT IS ALL TOO EASY TO WIND UP IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT HAVE THE BEST OF INTENTIONS. IT COULD BE DISASTROUS TO BECOME INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO KNOWS YOU ARE LONELY AND IS MORE THAN WILLING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU IN EVERY WAY POSSIBLE. EMOTIONALLY, FINANCIALLY...
I AM 33, ALSO ALONE. TWO OR THREE YEARS AGO I WAS HAVING A VERY HARD TIME WITH IT. I COULDN'T UNDERSTAND WHY I WAS THE ONLY ONE I KNEW WITHOUT SOMEONE. THEN SOMEONE CAME ALONG WHO "LOVED" ME. I HAD RESERVATIONS, BUT LET MY HEART OVER-RULE MY HEAD. IT HAS TAKEN ME THIS LONG TO GET BACK ON MY FEET, REGAIN MY CONFIDENCE AND LET GO OF SHAME AND GUILT.

SO PLEASE, BE VERY CAREFUL. THERE ARE WORSE THINGS IN LIFE THAN BEING "ALONE". I HAVE FOUND FRIENDS, ACTIVITIES AND A GREAT JOB. AND I BELIEVE IF I LET GOD DO THE CHOOSING, I WILL FIND THE BEST MAN FOR ME.

Hi, Finethings. I understand, too, how you feel. I am 27, and I have never had a steady boyfriend. I have been involved with men who only wanted to play around. It has been frustrating to be alone and look around and see others with their boyfriends and husbands. I ask, "Why them, and not me?" I have come to realize that we all need to focus on God first, and He will give us the desires of our hearts. He will never forsake us, and He keeps His promises always. The Lord has WONDERFUL things in store for those of us who are alone right now, and the best is worth waiting for. Don't settle for anything less. Things will be better than you could ever imagine, don't despair. Trust in God's plan for you. Continue to pray, and ask Him to show you the way. For Finethings, myself, and all the other women out there yearning so deeply for their soulmate...I pray that we all achieve the desires of our hearts in God's good time, whether it be this Christmas or next year. Hear our calls, O Father, and bless us with true love through Yours. Amen

I ask for prayer for myself that God will send a partner into my life, it's been so lonely and I have so much to give to someone, so will you ask in prayer with me please? I know to some it may not sound important, but when you walk in these shoes it sure is! Thank you so much for reading this and praying with me!

Finethings,
I know you keep hearing it, but you've got to hang in there and have faith. I was 43 when I finally found my soulmate. We had both been married before(and more than once), had previous live in relationships, and had been told by others that we would never find someone who could understand (let alone stand) us. My name says it all.(He is my dreamguy.) How did we meet? It's hard to say. We have known each other since we were children, but lost touch over the years. I grew up living next door to his grandparents and my grandmother and his grandmother were lifelong friends. Our fathers were friends in their younger days, but grew apart as they were older. We ran into each other about 15 years ago and couldn't stand each other. A little over a year ago, his father died. My mother went to the funeral. All he knows is suddenly he just had to talk to her to find out where I was. After the funeral was over, he went directly to where I work because he had to see me and talk to me right then. When he came in I was busy with a customer. I didn't recognize him. All I knew was he was the sexiest man I had ever seen and I had to meet him. I turned the customer over to another manager because I just had to talk to him. Imagine my surprise when I found out who he was and that he was looking for me! We went out that night and we've been together ever since. I know this whole story sounds strange and there are a lot of "whys?" in it. We came to the conclusion that God was in control and it happened according to his timing and reasoning; not ours.

finethings,

First off, see how many people cared enough to reply to your request. Know that you're loved in God's community and that with Him you are never really alone. Also, feel good about yourself. Few people I have known would be as patient and secure as you in waiting for your mate. What a great gift to give your love when you find him. I too am looking for that love and will be single this Christmas as many before. But this holiday season my prayers with be with you.

Here is a poem someone from my church gave me and it has helped me alot:
On His Plans For Your Mate

Everyone longs to give themselves to someone-
to have a deep soul relationship with another
to be loved thoroughly, and exclusively,
But God to a Christian, says “No, not until you are satisfied,
fulfilled and content with being loved by me,
with giving yourself totally and unreservedly to me
to having an intensely personal and unique relationship with me alone
discovering that only in me is your satisfaction to be found,
will you be capable of the perfect human relationship?
that I have planned for you.
You will never be united with another until you are united with me
exclusive of anyone or anything else
exclusive of any other desires or longings.
I want you to stop planning,
and stop wishing,
and allow me to give you the most thrilling plan
existing, on that you cannot imagine.
I want you to have the best.
Please allow me to bring it to you.
You just keep watching me,
expecting the greatest things,
keep experiencing the satisfaction that I am.
Keep listening and learning the things I tell you.
You just wait.
That’s all.

Don’t be anxious,
Don’t worry,
Don’t look around at the things others have gotten or that I have given them,
Don’t look at the things you think you want,
You just keep looking off and away up to me,
or you will miss what I want to show you.
And, when you are ready
I’ll surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you would dream.
You see, until you are ready,
(I am working even at this moment to have both of you ready at the same time)
until you, are both satisfied exclusively with me?
and the life I prepared for you
You won't be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with me,
and is thus the perfect love.
And dear one; I want you to have this most wonderful love.
I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with me,
and enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting
union of beauty, perfection, and love that I offer you.
Believe it and be satisfied.

Anonymous

DEAR FINETHINGS,

I TOO SHARE YOUR PAIN. I AM 43 AND NEVER BEEN MARRIED. ONLY HAD ONE BOYFRIEND THAT I EVER FELT THAT SPECIAL SOMETHING FOR. HE BROKE MY HEART. I MET ANOTHER 3 YEARS AGO IN A DIFFERENT STATE. WE MEET PERIODICALLY IN DIFFERENT STATES THAT LIE BETWEEN US. I SAW HIM THIS WEEKEND AND I BELIEVE SOMETHING HAS CHANGED FOR HIM. MY HEART IS BROKEN AND YET I PRAY AND PRAY DAY AND NIGHT FOR GOD TO DELIVER TO US OUR TRUE EVERLASTING LOVE. I PRAY FOR YOU AND I ASK ALL OF YOU OUT THERE TO PRAY FOR ME AS WELL. I KNOW THAT GOD HAS TO BE LISTENING TO SOMEONE. I WOULD ONE DAY LIKE TO SAY THAT GOD ANSWERED MY PRAYERS. BUT LIKE EVERYONE SAYS...FIND HAPPINESS WITHIN YOURSELF FIRST AND THE REST WILL FOLLOW. TRY TRY TRY TO BELIEVE THAT. YOU ARE TRULY IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS. BLESS YOU.