The wedding proceeds with traditional or non-traditional greetings offered by the officiating person (who, even if you are being very non-traditional, still must be legally authorized in that jurisdiction to perform weddings). The greetings are followed by whatever exchange of vows have been agreed upon – again, traditional or not.

Then, the couple goes to the stand. Each takes their carafe and pours some wine into the larger carafe. The Groom then takes the larger carafe with the combined red and white wine and pours some in a glass for the Bride.

The Bride then takes the larger carafe with the combined wines and pours some into a glass for the Groom.

He toasts his Bride with, “Now Our Lives Are One” and drinks from the glass. She responds the same.

They place the wineglasses back and face back to the officiant. Who states:

This ceremony represents the two individual lives which are now combined like the two wines into one single life. The drinking of the combined wine signifies the commitment you now make to live your lives as one family. May you remember this day of commitment you have sealed with drinking of the new wine joining your lives as one.

He may also announce that immediately after the service others may drink the new wine of their commitment to one life if they so desire.

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In India, the Hindu wedding ceremony, the “samskara,” can last weeks or days. It has many components, is quite beautiful and is filled with chanting, Sanskrit blessings and rituals thousands of years old.

Few Christian pastors are going to agree to perform any ritual that evokes the presence of Hindu gods, so you will have to do a bit of creativity to incorporate the Seven Steps into a church wedding. For example, the traditional ceremony calls for the lighting of a sacred fire, created from “ghee” (clarified butter) and woolen wicks, to ask the Hindu fire god Agni to bear witness to the ceremony. That’s not going to happen at First Baptist.

However, there are key portions of the rite that are culturally neutral. Traditionally the Bride’s sari would be tied to the Groom’s formal costume – or a shawl might be draped from his shoulder to her sari. Together they walk around the fire. He leads with his pinky finger linked with his, taking seven steps as the seven vows for a strong union are recited.

With each step, the couple throws small bits of puffed rice into the fire, representing prosperity in their new life together. This is considered the most important part of the ceremony, sealing the bond forever.

Step One:
Groom: My beloved, our love has become firm by your walking one with me. Together we will share the responsibilities of the home, food and finances. May God bless us with noble children to share. May they live long.
Bride: This is my commitment to you, my beloved. Together we will share the responsibility of the home, food and finances. I promise that I shall discharge all of my share of the responsibilities for the welfare of the family and the children.

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