It's All About You
Remember, you're a duo not a solo act. Consider how your decisions and actions could affect your spouse. It shouldn't always only be about you and your feelings. Be considerate of the other person's feelings and how your actions will change their life.
Ask your spouses' opinion and feedback on major decisions that will affect your family. Consider what they have to say before you react. The two of you are in this together, so your decisions should not be pointed in one direction.