Keeping the Romance Alive
Because love is an emotion, many of us think that love will just carry romance along through its own momentum. This is a tragic misconception.
Here’s why: love is an emotion, and emotions are the result of automatic, subconscious appraisals. We experience many emotions all day long and they come and go depending on our everyday experiences. We can be happy, sad, disappointed, resentful, grateful, satisfied, angry, passionate, proud, guilty, anxious, confident, jealous, admiring etc. all in the same day and even more than once in the same day.
Lovers have good times and bad times. But what carries the relationship through long term—not over just days or weeks but over many years?
The answer is: the hard work of thinking. In fact, we believe that making a relationship work long-range, that is, achieving enduring happiness, requires as much hard thinking as having a successful career.
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Edwin Locke, PhD, a world-renowned psychologist is he co-author of The Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love with Passion and Reason. He is an expert on Ayn Rand’s philosophy of Objectivism. For more information visit www.selfishromance.com.