Maybe you lost that loving feeling. Every since the baby arrived there is little romance in your relationship. Nice cozy dinners are replaced by late-night feedings. Movie night ends with you putting on kid shows like “Chuggington.” If you are like most moms all your attention and emotion is going to the kids. There is not a lot of sexy going around these days, but you are not alone. The deterioration for men and women happens differently as moms feel it immediately, and the fathers feel a decline in the following months after birth. The problem is people need to work at the marriage harder author Regena Thomashauer of Mama Gena's Marriage Manual said in an interview with Parents.com. “You have to work on it. Pick up your Palm Pilot and schedule in time to take care of your sensual life. If you have time to walk the dog, fold laundry, and cook dinner, you have the time for a real romantic encounter." Although it is still an adjustment, taking the necessary steps to keep the marriage afloat is crucial after having a family. Here are ways to keep the spark alive in your marriage.