The saying, "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" is NOT true! When you're in an argument, with your spouse, don't say things to simply hurt their feelings or get a rise out of them. The goals in every conflict should be to learn something, develop a resolution and find common ground to move forward. Saying rude or mean remarks will only cause the other individual to get upset and it will not solve anything - no matter how bad the situation is. Be constructive not destructive!