Edie: How do you live your Bliss?
Chrissy: To me, bliss is a life filled with impact and purpose and connection to God. My entire life is my spiritual practice and that includes the mundane tasks. I had to learn to do this as a mom of 3 very young children 1 year apart and stuck in an abusive marriage on welfare and food stamps. My bliss became and still is realigning with the present moment - regardless of what it is - and feeling filled up by the knowledge that God is in me, around me and supporting me in whatever circumstances are doing down in my life. I know you have been through your own personal hell and emerged triumphant on the other side.
Edie: Would you be willing to share about your experience?
Chrissy: My husband almost killed me January when he returned from Afghanistan. He slammed my head into a cabinet after beating me up for almost an hour with my 5, 6 and 7 year old upstairs. My head exploded in blood and I ran down the street to get help. When I returned he had called the police on me, and in an unbelievable twist of what a normal reaction would be upon seeing such an injured woman, the police officers arrested me, brought me to the ER, handcuffed me to the bed, the ER doctor stitched up my head and they brought me to jail. I wrote a blog about this experience 48 hours after getting out of jail. All I did was tell the story. It went viral. Thousands and thousands of women united in sisterhood to help me rise up out of that situation - from connecting me to an incredible lawyer in LA to sending me gift cards...and that's just the tip of the iceberg of the gifts I received. I learned two very important things that I would say to any woman reading this: that telling one's story is more valuable than a Harvard degree and two, you have sisters out there so speak and you will be heard and we will align to support you.
Edie: What would you say to other survivors of domestic violence to encourage and support them?
Chrissy: The #1 thing I would tell women who have been or are still experiencing domestic violence is this: Don't Be Ashamed. There is nothing to be ashamed of! It's not your fault. (And boy do they try and make you think that!) When I blew my story out on my blog, thousands of women told me their stories because I told my story, which told me that not enough women are telling their stories because either they don't see the value in it or they are ashamed and stuck. The truth is I am a highly educated, well read, well -traveled woman, and it happened to me. Your background and education and circumstances do not reflect your self-worth and what you are deserving of. The #1 thing that gets you out is this: God. Pray. Believe. Trust. Go within. Work your mind like it's your only purpose on this planet. Omit negative thoughts. Surround yourself with positive affirmations. Reach out to sisters online. Do this, and the answers designed specifically for you....WILL show up.
Edie: What phoenix arose from the ashes?
Chrissy: I grew wings.When people call me or email now and say, "I am in darkness surrounded with toxic people," I remember how I spent 7 years in a violent marriage surrounded by low energy field people, and I say, "Shine your light. Shine your light. Be the light. God gave you the assignment. It's not they who are wrong. It's you who is right. You are the beacon." I learned this practice in my darkness and truly, I rose up out of my circumstances by divine forces because I made myself so that God could find me. By shining so bright in light and positivity and above all SPEAKING YOUR TRUTH (and that sometimes means saying NO, swearing, being a swan protecting her nest with a fierceness that doesn't look spiritual), your light pulls God towards you and everything and everyone God-like. Despite all the manifestations of fear surrounding us in other people - the criticism, worry, anger, anxiety, doubt...we must do this each day, and every sometimes, every hour. This is what it is to fly in this world.
Edie: Please speak about Clueberry World.
Chrissy: In short, Clueberry World is a map of life. It's not your typical map. It's a map of the mind. I wrote a book of lessons that goes with it and has activities etc called The Clueberry Book. In this book, the map is a wrap-around cover readers can refer back to as they work through the lessons in the book in order to see where they are on the map. The world shows us what negative and positive thoughts look like in cartoons. A train track runs through the world. The first lesson in the book is "You are the train." This means that your "train of thought" is what moves you through the world. It's a literal and metaphorical look at how our thoughts cause us to be "on track in life" and our fear causes us to be "derailed."