So you’re a hopeless romantic. You throw yourself wholeheartedly into relationships, fully committing yourself to the experience. You know what you’re doing, and you know that compromise is the key to keeping your partner happy as can be.

But in the throes of love, can you tell when you’ve compromised too much?

Nearly everyone finds themselves acting a little differently when they’re swept off their feet by an alluring partner. We style our hair a little differently, buy new clothes, and maybe even hit the gym. As the relationship progresses, we find that we need to compromise on certain things—maybe spend a little less time at work, and a little more time helping around the house.

But this can go too far when we start changing the core values, beliefs, and worldviews that make us unique individuals. Being committed to your relationship doesn’t mean that you have to give up who you are. It doesn’t mean sacrificing the essential You in order to hang on to love.

But sometimes, that’s exactly what we give up, and because of the blinding power of love, we don’t even know it. To help you safeguard your essential self, let’s take a look at a few things you should never, ever give up in order to please someone else.