The man widely regarded as the father of Christian marriage ministries is filing for divorce from his wife of 42 years and plans to remarry. Ray Mossholder, whose Marriage Plus Ministries (MPM) is credited with saving more than 11,000 couples from divorce, says he is "ashamed and disgraced."
Mossholder, 64, announced the news of his marriage break-up in a letter to supporters in which he referred to "the story of the shoemaker who was so busy that his own wife had to go without shoes." He added: "I have been that shoemaker. I make no excuse for it. I won't even blame the devil for what has been my own fault."
MPM was the first ministry of its kind when Mossholder founded it in 1971. He has written three books including "Marriage Plus"-endorsed by the likes of Jack Hayford and Pat Roberston-and spoken at seminars across the country and in more than 20 other countries. Mossholder and his wife, Arlyne, were board members of the National Association of Marriage Enhancement, and had been heard by millions on their radio and TV broadcasts.
The ministry was born out of struggles in the early years of the couple's marriage, when he almost left for another woman. They shared the testimony of their healing, but Mossholder wrote in his letter that he was "often hypocritical when I talked about how great [our marriage] was. What I taught was truth; however, it seemed that we were never able to apply it in our own marriage."
Terry Kirk, pastor at the Mossholders' Central Christian Assembly of God in Baltimore, Md., said he had reacted with "shock and disbelief" when told of the split. He also felt "great sadness for the potential fallout that it could have not only to his family, but to the kingdom of God."
Mossholder told Charisma News Service that unfaithfulness was not an issue and that he was seeking a divorce on the grounds of irreconcilable differences. He had developed a "close friendship" with a woman through his ministry but had not left his marriage for her. "The problem was not another woman. The problem was a marriage that ultimately I could not live in." Now that he has decided to end his marriage, he and the other woman plan to marry after she gets a divorce.
The Mossholders have three grown children and eight grandchildren. They also took in and raised several other children. Mossholder has moved to California and left his wife to close down MPM.
Arlyne Mossholder said her husband's departure was "heartwrenching, not only personally for our family but for the ministry." She added: "It is absolutely horrendous to see the unraveling of a man, a marriage and a ministry."
The Mossholders' eldest son, Tim, dean of students at a Christian college, said his father had suffered a number of ministry setbacks over the last 18 months. "The final chapter has not been written," he said. "We are believing that God will intervene in his hurt and pain and frustration."
