When the soul of a relationship is lost
self-help books appear on the coffee table.
When grace is not experienced
behavior is scrutinized carefully.
When harmony is missing
the talk is about "my needs," and "your needs."
When the relationship is dying
loyalty and fidelity are demanded. Return to your heart.
Here is where your relationship must live. "Working on a relationship"
can be an illusion.
Trying to carve your relationship
into an idealized image
will damage you both.
The real thing lives
within each of you.
It can't be forced,
only allowed to emerge.
Can you see it?