Tip #2 You Cannot Control Her Choices
Many stepmoms have a passionate heart for their stepkids. And it infuriates them when the mom sabotages the relationship with lies, threats, withholding visitation, or other destructive actions. Accepting that a stepmom cannot force a mother to do what is in the best interest of the child is paramount for sanity.
When a mother is determined to make life miserable for her ex, everyone suffers, especially the children. The stepmom’s role is to learn the things she can control and how to become a bridge toward peace, and to let go of the things she cannot control.