Tip #1 Stepfamilies Are Birthed Out of Loss
A death or divorce has occurred. That means fear, rage, insecurity, and grief might still be residing in the spouse, former spouse, and kids. When these emotions are not properly addressed or grieved, they often surface in an attack toward the new wife and stepmom.
A smart stepmom recognizes that the arrows from the former spouse often have nothing to do with her; she is merely the target for unresolved pain. And hurt people - hurt people.