The question hung in the air for a moment. Then the auditorium detonated with thunderclaps of approval. Plainly the men had detached and moved forward, leaving the women to birth and raise the children alone. This sort of behavior is too common in a society that continues to glorify men as masculine poachers and females as objects to be prodded.
Lost in the ritual is the sanctity of a child's life and the sobering fact that from one's parents, a child learns what love, anger, and affection are. From one's parents, a child learns how to navigate and express his emotions. From one's parents, a child can also learn spousal abuse, adultery, dishonesty, and drugs.
That is why, I want to take this Father's Day to talk about the responsibilities of men as fathers. Every time a man has sex with a woman there is a chance it will result in the creation of a child, a child who will need a father. It is a shame when a man fails to live up to that obligation.
Yes, many mothers, through no fault of their own are forced to raise children on their own. Likewise, the mere presence of fathers does not guarantee the best home environment. But if parents are dedicated and loving, their chances are far greater.
What if my father had abandoned my mother to raise ten children-eight boys and two girls-alone? If we did not have a loving father to teach us humility, discipline, the value of hard work, respect for our elders and authority figures, and reverence of God (just to name a few), where would we be today?
It is no picnic raising a child. It takes maturity, understanding, patience and discipline, and a strong faith in God. Many who believe they are ready to take on that responsibility later find they cannot cope with the many demands on their time, and stress and selfishness overpower them.
If that dedication is absent, society suffers in the end. Most kids can barely take care of themselves, let alone a husband or wife and family. It is a shame that more adults and institutions are not teaching and setting an important example of personal responsibility and accountability. When young people lack that example, it sends them the wrong message. We must do better. The failure of American society and cultures abroad are at stake.
Men who abandon their duties as a father to pursue drugs or some other vice not only show a lack of their own self-worth, but also display to their peers their inability to cope with the all-too-important duties of life. We all suffer. Why must we continue to learn the hard way? They may believe things will get better once they are gone, yet they abandon their own future when they walk out on their children and the mother of their children.
History has shown us that nothing really has changed. This disease of the spirit and the conscience persists, permeating everything. It touches our homes, our schools, and our streets. We have to put an end to it before it completely destroys our moral compass.
We cannot continue to encourage escapism. Abandoning those who love and need you is wrong. You do have a responsibility to yourself, yet your obligation and responsibility to your children binds you more than anything else. Fathers betray that trust when they try to escape this God-given duty and sadly pass it on to their offspring. The truth is, whether good, bad, or indifferent, children will always ultimately emulate their parents' behavior.