The Purpose of Grief
God built the grief response into us for the purpose of mentally, emotionally and spiritually processing loss-producing events. Those events are integrated into our altered world, and help us move on to a state of greater strength, resourcefulness, resilience and faith. If we are not willing to face the grieving process, or if we try a short-cut, we’ll be left adrift in our sea of pain, never reaching the shores of healing that the Lord intends for us.
As drill instructors repeatedly remind your husband during basic training, “Pain is simply weakness leaving the body!” In a similar fashion, “Tears are a way God has provided for sadness to leave our body.” If we resist this mechanism, our sorrow may never lose its intensity.