Let your kid be a kid!
Ask them which activities they want to keep…and which they want to toss. Gently explain to them that swimming, Scouts, gymnastics, and twice-a-week piano lessons is too much “doing.” Ask them to figure out their least favorite activity (or maybe two) and then cancel it.
“You may be shocked by what they tell you they want to quit doing,” says Levine. “If your son has been on the swim team for several years and seems to love it, you may be shocked when he asks to quit. Sometimes our kids do things because we want them to, and somehow we failed to notice their heart has never been in it.”