Love one another! How?
Remove the word “but” from your vocabulary as you apologize. For example: “I’m sorry for humiliating you every Christmas, but if you weren’t so annoying with your tap dancing, I wouldn’t have to make fun of you.” When you say “but,” and add the last half of the sentence, you cancel out every good thing you just said. Merely apologize. Don’t cancel your apology by justifying your actions. Apologize for your own behavior. Don’t couple your apology -- and cripple it -- with an accusation.