A wonderful marriage
Have Factual Fantasies. Do you think if your wife really wanted you, she’d seduce you every day? Have you ever felt that if your husband really cared he would hang in there in an emotional conflict instead of withdrawing for an hour or three? Well, you might just have to adjust those beliefs. It turns out that one of the main things that makes couples unhappy is unrealistic expectations. But in her study for The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, Feldhahn found that many of the marriages became happy when they stopped longing for something that was difficult or impossible for their mate to deliver – and instead noticed and appreciated what their mate could give.
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