A wonderful marriage
Boss your feelings around. Most of us grew up believing that we don’t choose feelings; they choose us. How misleading! Have you ever yelled at your mate out of anger, only to regret it later? In her research for The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, Feldhahn found that men and women in great marriages work to stop negative thoughts and actions and replace them with positive ones, and not just because it’s the mature or “right” thing to do. As these couples explained, positive thoughts and actions produce positive feelings. And of course… it also works the other way around. So the next time you’d like to slam the door on your other half, try giving him a hug and watch your anger melt away.
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