Beware of the deceived dater
If you say to me, “I have real peace from God about marrying this person,” I would probably say, “yeah, right!” Sounds like blasphemy, doesn’t it? After all, if you have real peace from God it’s a slam-dunk and you can move forward. Right?
Wrong. "Now don’t get me wrong," writes Arterburn. "God can and does give you his peace about a lot of things. You seek him, you feel his presence, and everything aligns and creates peace. But you have to be careful when it comes to huge, emotion charged decisions like who you are going to marry.
"What you think is peace might be you in a state of denial. Your peace may come from your refusal to or inability to see the truth about this person. You might have peace because you have a real blind spot about people in this particular area. You just don’t see it. Or you could have a real peace because you are emotionally unstable and this person is one milligram more stable than you so you feel great when in reality you are both in the same boat. It is very easy to mistake terrible for not so bad and it is easy to be very confused when you are in love.
"So, if real peace is your number one criteria for moving forward. Please step back and at least be willing to consider that there might be a degree of sickness or silliness in your real peace."