I can't tell you why your friends and so many young people are killed or why there is so much suffering and death in the world. But they are there, and each of us will experience them.
The question is: How do we live full lives with any joy in the face of such a horrible event like the death of our good friends? The biblical character Job had everything taken from him--his loved ones, his health, and all his wealth. God never told him why. His friends and wife told him to curse God and die, but he did not do that. Job was angry and deeply hurt, but he never ultimately lost faith in God or the future of his Life. Slowly his suffering lessened, and he began to see joy again. To lose faith in God is to lose faith in Life, and vice versa.
Sometimes we just need to hold on until the pain gets less horrible. In the meantime, we can honor our friends and family who do die. We can grieve their loss, as you are doing now, and we can remember their lives. We can let them live on in the world through us, and through how they have helped us to be better people. We can appreciate those of our friends who are alive right now.
Live today to the fullest!
Blessings on you and may God grant you peace,
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