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“Hindsight is always 20/20.” This is a favorite of mine. We all look back on our lives and wish we had done some things differently. But we have learned from them, gaining what we call wisdom. Another way we gain wisdom is to benefit from the wisdom of others who have gone before. If you are new to full adulthood, specifically not yet 26, here are 26 pieces of wisdom you might want to tuck away.

You Are Now Fully Responsible for Your Choices

You may say you have always been fully responsible for your choices, but not really. Growing up, you were gradually allowed to make more and more choices independently, and your parents let you make some poor choices and live with the consequences. But they also protected you from making some really poor choices – the big ones that would have longer-term consequences. That’s all over now. Develop a process for making decisions, by honestly listing the pros and cons. Another good practice, especially when decisions may involve values, is to think of someone who has been a model of integrity. Ask yourself if that person would be okay with your choice.

"One of the best 'tests' of a problem, a decision, or a 'crisis' is to ask yourself if this issue will matter five years down the road."

Gain Perspective About Life’s Bumps

As a teen and even through very early adulthood, we tend to exaggerate our problems and crises. Thus, failing a test or losing a first love rises to the level of life-changing. By the time you are 26, it's important to put bumps into categories. One of the best “tests” of a problem, a decision, or a “crisis” is to ask yourself if this issue will matter five years down the road. If it won't, then deal with it and put it to bed.

Stop Judging Others

Wayne Dyer once famously said “Judging someone else doesn’t identify them as what you judge them to be. It identifies you as someone who needs to judge.” Beyond that, however, the need to judge is a huge turnoff to others, except those who need to judge too. When you accept others as they are, it is so liberating. You do not have to choose the beliefs, values or lifestyles of others – they are on their own paths as are you. Embrace diversity and the richness it provides.

Go for Experiences Not Things

You probably can’t remember all of the birthday and Christmas presents you received during your childhood. But I bet you remember vacations, your first love, and a high school teacher you loved. These are experiences. Of course, we have needs and some unnecessary “wants,” but beyond that, memories of experiences will never wear out. If you have extra money, take a trip instead of buying that new car this year.

You Have Time

You do not have to “conquer the world” by age 30. Of course you have goals, and that’s a good thing. But take the time to enjoy all of the other things the just living brings – enjoy your meals, your friends and family, nature, books, conversations, and all that is going on around you. If you don’t take time for these things, you will burn out.

You Will Not Please Everyone

Don’t even try. Doing this is buying a one-way ticket to stress and burnout. And you will have no life of your own. Slavery was outlawed long ago, so don’t be a mental or physical slave to anyone.

Don’t Hold onto Anger

Nothing is more destructive. Someone may have “wronged” you – now they are renting space in your head for free. Letting them stay there sours you and takes time from positive thoughts and energy. Let go. Move on. Ad work on forgiveness – it’s pretty liberating too.

Practice Gratitude

None of us has everything we want, whether that is the perfect job, relationship, home, etc. But we all have a number of things we can be grateful for. If we focus on these things, our attitude and our happiness is increased. Holding personal pity parties is unproductive and depressing.

It’s Not All About You

Teenagers tend to be the epicenters of their universes. As the mature into adulthood, they learn that the world is a much larger place with opportunities to reach out to others. Being mindful of the needs of others is a sign of wisdom.

Mind Your Health

Bad health habits begin to take their toll by age 30. Get into good habits now – healthy diet, outdoor activities, no smoking and drinking in moderation. Keeping these habits means later life health too. Think long-term.

It’s Okay Not to Know

One of the best things about life is we learn as we go. You will never know all that you want to, but the journey is part of the fun. Make lifelong learning a goal rather than a mountain too high to climb.

You Won’t Always Get What You Want

None of us do. Life just happens. One of the best things we can practice is adapting to change and to things not going just as we had planned. Every failure is a learning experience, and when you look back on your life, you’ll see that those changes and “failures” pushed you to something better.

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