Most lucky people not only receive more good fortune, they also put a positive spin on anything. What most people would view as unfortunate, they express as ultimately lucky.
This is the simplest, yet perhaps most powerful of all the luck-building principles: When you notice, appreciate, and actively look for serendipitous, lucky experiences in your daily life, you not only augment your awareness of good fortune, you also increase the likelihood of it occurring.
Cary Vera-Garcia of Coral Springs, Florida, had plenty of reason to be cursing her bad luck. She shared with me the following story familiar to many men and women struggling with the pain of infertility.
"I spent over 10 years doing fertility treatments, determined that I would someday have a child. After continued treatments that cost over $5,000 a month, I finally became pregnant. But my water broke at 20 weeks and the baby was too premature to survive. Although I was devastated by my loss, I was able to look on his tiny face and I knew that someday, somehow, I would hold a child once more.
"We had no money. We debated if it was even worth calling the attorney back because we thought we wouldn't be accepted, since we didn't have the necessary legal funds.
"Knowing the love that was in our hearts, we went for it. We borrowed the money we needed for the adoption. We trusted that God would somehow bring this child into our lives. We trusted that the birth mother would not change her mind. Our daughter was born at 3:00 a.m. the day after Mother's Day. She is now almost 9 years old. She is a loving, sweet child who has been a blessing to us in every way.
"What is even more amazing is that she looks just like me. I tell her that my body was not able to give her life, and God found a way to bring her to us. I can't imagine life without her. But, if we hadn't trusted enough to make that call to the attorney, go through the adoption, ask for the money we needed, trust we would have the funds to pay it back, trust that God was giving us a gift, we never would have had our daughter.
"We are a very lucky family."
Is the story of Cary Vera-Garcia's life one of good luck or bad? All that wasted money on infertility treatments, the horrific grief of losing a premature baby, her inability to fulfill her dream of being a biological mother--doesn't she have reason to claim membership in the club to which none of us wants to belong--the unluckies? Surely she has plenty of reason to say, "Poor me."