Relationships & MS
A diagnosis of multiple sclerosis (MS) can present profoundchallenges to a relationship. After a companion's diagnosis,a partner may experience his or her own grieving process and mayeven feel guilty about his or her own good health. Communication is a key component in dealing with the addedstress MS may create in a relationship. Openly discussing feelings and thoughts can help couples avoid frustration andalleviate some of the strain they may be experiencing.
FatigueA person with MS will experience fatigue, from general tirednessto extreme exhaustion. Fatigue may be triggered by physicalexertion and improve with rest, or it may take the form of aconstant and persistent tiredness. This has an effect onday-to-day life.Activities that once seemed simple—like grocery shopping,vacuuming, or walking the dog—may now seem overwhelming. Ifpossible, hiring some temporary help may be the answer. Ifnot, reallocation of chores and using time wisely will help reducethe stress and enable couples to work together.
ActivitiesAnother difficulty a couple may encounter is a decrease incommonly shared activities. As the severity of symptomsincrease, couples may have a hard time finding things they can dotogether. More rigorousactivities, like bike riding or hiking, may be too difficult.It is important to not stop shared activities though—try taking awalk or reading a book together.Attempting to continue normal activities as best as possible is important. There may be times when the person with MS may also not be able to carry out the activities she or he once were able to do. This may mean that the partner may need to help out. This may cause strain on the relationship, especially if the partner begins to feel more like a caregiver. Therefore it is vital to find balance in the relationship in order to preserve closeness and ease strain. Realizing and coming to terms with the changes MS brings will help both partners accept the situation. It is important to always keep in mind that MS need not be the focus of a relationship, but just one aspect of it.