Sex After Menopause
Menopause does not signal the end of female sexuality. In fact, many women find that intimacy is enhanced in midlife. Several years ago Judy realized she was no longer getting her period, her vagina was drier than usual, and sexual arousal was taking longer. She began to worry that her sex life would soon disappear.She had heard that women lose their interest in and ability to have sex after menopause. But since she started using a little artificial lubricant and adjusted her expectations, she's found that she enjoys sex more than ever. She especially likes the extra time that she and her husband spend stroking and cuddling before they try to reach orgasm.Like Judy, many women fear that menopause signals the end of their sexual desirability and pleasure. This fear comes from stereotypes about older woman as unattractive and asexual. In addition, loss of the ability to bear children may become confused with loss of sexual desire. The reality is that the need for and capacity to have satisfying sexual relationships does not disappear as a natural or irreversible part of aging in women or men. How you perceive and deal with the changes can have a significant impact on your sexual health and pleasure. Some women have a reawakening of sexual interest when they are no longer concerned about getting pregnant and adult or older children require less time and attention. However, the experience varies from woman to woman.
Changes at Menopause That May Affect SexualityPhysiologic changes at menopause can sometimes affect sexual activity and desire in some women. Changes may occur in lubrication, the vaginal walls, arousal, orgasm, and sex drive that make sex less comfortable and enjoyable.
Vaginal Dryness and Pain During IntercourseThe most common problem is vaginal dryness, although not every women will experience it. The vaginal walls may also become thinner and less flexible. Itching, burning, and occasional pain may occur during intercourse.Over-the-counter water-based lubricants can help with vaginal dryness. Do not use petroleum-based lubricants, such as Vaseline, because they may cause latex condoms to weaken.If lubricants are not sufficient, vaginal estrogen cream, rings, or tablets may be helpful. These products are prescribed by your doctor.
Stimulation and OrgasmSome women have fewer and less intense orgasms when they reach menopause. It may take more time and stimulation to become aroused. For all women, having intercourse or masturbating regularly can help increase sexual responsiveness and pleasure. Kegel exercises, contractions of the pelvic muscle near the vagina, can also help strengthen the vaginal muscles.
Sexual DesireLoss of interest in sex, temporary or long-term, occurs in some women during and after menopause. There are a range of possible causes for this, such as:
- Difficulty sleeping
- Bladder control problems
- Relationship problems
- Psychological issues
- Side effects from medicine
- Hormonal changes
- Discomfort from the physical changes of menopause