How To Grieve and Heal
By Elicia Brown
Even today, I can still hear those awful thuds. Even today, I am awed that so much power can be packed into one little ritual. One by one, relatives and friends took their turns, shoveling the damp earth over my grandmother's casket. Sweaty and solemn, their funeral outfits ruffled by the activity, they would continue for a long, long while. As is customary in Judaism, the cemetery staff would barely lift a finger. As is customary for a Jewish mourner, I felt comforted, sheltered and cared for by my community.
What follows are nine coping strategies inspired by Jewish mourning traditions. You needn't be Jewish to draw from this wisdom.