They wanted to know where he was going, what the purpose of his trip had been. "I guess someone on the plane was uncomfortable with me," Naveedsays.
Someone on the plane must have seen his brown skin and dark hair and decided that he was a troublemaker.
Making others uncomfortable has become a reality for today's Pakistani-descent Americans, as we have all become aware of how other, more "American-looking" people perceive us. For Naveed, making others uncomfortable and being uncomfortable himself has been a lifelong struggle.
He always knew he was different. He was even more advanced than hisolder brother in his Qur'anic studies, being in a higher level Arabic classand having read the Qur'an twice by the age of 12.
But it went beyond that. Often, he reacted differently than his older and younger brothers. He was convinced something was wrong with himself. He looked in the mirror and saw looking back at him a short, dark, ugly boy who was not growing as much as his white American friends were.
He hated himself. He wanted to be anything but himself, but he didn't know exactly how to solve this problem. He lifted weights and pored over body-building magazines. He trembled with intensity as he read them.
Naveed's uncle had told Naveed a story about how Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h.) had come upon two men having sex with each other. The Prophet, according to Naveed's uncle, condemned the acts instantly, driving his point home by striking his staff into the soil, where blood immediately burst forth from the earth.
Yet, on October 12, 1982, Naveed realized as he wrote in his diary that day not that he wanted to be like the bodybuilders in the magazines but that he wanted them to love him.
Soon after he realized he was gay, Naveed vowed to tell no one. He was on a course to end up like another uncle of his, who had hidden his homosexuality his entire life, even marrying a woman.
But Naveed's religious life was in a tailspin. "I felt like all the devotion I had for religion was for naught," based on his immediate presumption that no room existed within Islam for those who are gay. Naveed's sexuality and religion came to a roadblock: "If I really believe in Allah, and I knew I was a good person, yet homosexuality was such a bad thing, somewhere there has to be a division between God and religion."
Angry and frustrated, he says, "I was furious, like I had volunteered for a community and lifestyle that wanted to kill everything I was." He was so upset because he had not made a choice to be gay. He had not consented to his own condemnation.
"You think you know what God is, but you don't," Naveed would say ferociously to the people at his mosque, for he had the knowledge that God had made Naveed into something that was abhorred. As the Qur'an says, "But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah knoweth, and ye know not" (from Surah Al-Baqara 2:216).
"Allah really made me gay," Naveed felt, but now the people of Allah were going to turn their backs on Naveed. He knew acutely that while judgment was Allah's unique province, the interpretations made by man would cause man to judge.
He told his family he was gay and prepared himself to leave their lives forever. He even moved away. "I had just done the most shameful thing," Naveed says, saddling his parents with an issue they could not even begin to comprehend. Their son was going to be in that category of people that were, at best, ignored.
Amidst his father's reactions, Naveed's mom told Naveed, "You don't have to tell me. I know everything about you."