Saint Augustine would make a great talk show guest. His Confessions stands as a fourth-century memoir of his life makeover through God's spiritual fitness program. Augustine says that confession is therapeutic. It alleviates depression and empowers the weak. Hearing about "past errors"--Augustine was probably a party animal before his repentance and makeover--is also helpful to others. Confessing and listening strengthen the person who confesses, as well as his or her listeners.
The Oprah Winfrey Show is renowned as a place of confession. Oprah talks about her own "past errors," guests tell their life stories to inspire or to offer cautionary tales. Fans say they appreciate that Oprah is an open, nonjudgmental listener as she hears from a wide range of guests. Her interview subjects have ranged from ex-presidents to ex-prostitutes, from convicted child molesters to such moral heroes as South African archbishop Desmond Tutu. Oprah's guests have confessed pedophilia, rape, murder, infidelity, addictions, physical abuse, and all manner of crimes and misdemeanors.
The October 1, 2004, show, "I Shot My Molester," illustrates Oprah's mix of materials and guests to get her point across. Real-life stories from two guests are shown; then the show shifts to promote the movie Woman Thou Art Loosed, based on a novel by popular preacher Bishop T. D. Jakes, who drew the material for the novel from his experience counseling abused women. Jakes also plays himself in the film. "How does coming forward help the women?" Oprah asks the pastor in her interview. Finding out you're not in isolation helps, says Jakes, who, like Oprah, turned experience into a cautionary tale.
Secrets are told for a number of reasons--to confess to doing wrong, to unveil a wrong done, to repair a harm, to seek help with a hidden problem. On the show "Confronting Family Secrets," which aired November 12, 2003, a man who acknowledged molesting his sister, a filmmaker, tells why he agreed to participate in a documentary she made about her abuse. "I decided that by not speaking that I would be contributing to the culture of silence that pervades this issue, and that is wrong. That needs to be addressed," he says. "Nothing changes in America until it is spoken about," says Jakes on the October 21, 2004, show, "Sexually Abused Women Come Forward."
The September 21, 2004, show, "Secret Lives," features two gamblers and one shoplifter, all women, and Terry Schulman, a former shoplifter who is now a therapist working with shoplifters. On the show, Oprah can play devil's advocate, posing questions that a skeptical person might ask--"I don't understand why this is an addiction"--and eliciting information that others in similar circumstances could use to face their secrets. Two guests say they wanted their stories to serve as cautionary tales. "I want to get the message out that you don't have to live in shame and secrecy," says Alice, a shoplifter. "If you're involved in something like this, reach out and tell someone," says Anne, who embezzled from the Catholic high school where she had worked in order to support her gambling habit. Secrecy harms the one harboring the secret, as well as those directly harmed by the behavior. Fear of being found out, a need for dishonesty that becomes chronic, and shame compound the original wrong. Keeping something secret also makes it impossible to repair harm. Disclosure is a step toward changing the situation for the better for wronged and wrongdoer.
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