Realize That It's an Emotional Subject
"Every year there is a battle between my husband and me over which gifts are going to be the Hanukkah gifts and which are going to be the Christmas gifts," says Gloria, whose Jewish husband agreed to raise the children Christian. "It suddenly hit me this year why there is tension over this same issue. I know my husband is feeling, If you give the nicer gift at Christmas, does that mean that Hanukkah isn't as important? And this year when we got into that debate, I found myself bursting into tears. It's amazing to me that even though we've been together 25 years, these issues still exist between us."