Don’t be afraid to be the quietest person in the room. Matt Lauer once said that every time he interviewed Gandolfini, it was as if Gandolfini did not want to be there. Not that Gandolfini was rude—he was just naturally reserved. In today’s look-at-me social media culture, Gandolfini stood out because he wasn’t seeking the limelight. He was a likeable man, in part, because he allowed you the space to like him rather than demanding our attention. When "The Sopranos" abruptly faded to black in that last episode, it left all us wondering if Tony Soprano had been killed. To me, it seemed obvious Tony was killed that night, but David Chase left us some little frayed hopes that maybe Tony was alive. Maybe the show would come back. And now we know it won’t.