Your Charmed Life

Your Charmed Life

30 days to a charmed life — Day 1: Ascertain your advantages

My husband left this morning to visit his mother in Kansas for a month. I decided to take these 30 days, live as magically as I know how, and coach you on how to do more of the same along the way. We’re all different; our circumstances are as varied as can be. And yet, we can all craft remarkable days and lives within those circumstances.

Here’s your assignment: Make a list of your advantages. We always see other people’s advantages: this one’s rich, this one’s gorgeous, this one’s brilliant, that one’s all of the above. Good for them. Now, stand outside your life and look at your own advantages. In looking at mine for 30 days of super-charmed living (and hopefully creating a more comfortable and beautiful home for William when he gets back), here are some advantages I have:
(1) I’ve been at this awhile
(2) I have a flexible schedule
(3) I live in a magnificent city
(4) I know some amazing people
(5) I know how to find things — services, bargains, whatever is necessary
Make your own list. You don’t have to stop at five. You can have fifty if you want.

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So here’s my report on my charming day. It actually started twenty-four hours ago when William and I had a lovely evening together before his trip. We saw two movies, An Education (I loved it: it took me back to when I was very young, lived in London, and fell for an older man), and A Serious 

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Man, a Coen Brothers’ modern retelling of the story of Job. In it, a sweet, sweet man goes through every kind of trial and tries to find answers within his Jewish faith. It’s touching and funny and wonderful. I was at the concession stand to get a refill of hot water for my herbal tea and a lady in her 70s who was also standing there said, “I’m so proud of you for going to two movies: I’ve always wanted to do that.” Afterwards, we stopped in an Irish pub at the very moment the Yankees won a playoff game in extra innings. It was pretty sweet.
Today, the official Day 1, I spent in a food prep class at the Natural Gourmet Institute. Jennifer Cornbleet, author of two of my favorite recipe books, Raw Food Made Easy for 1 or 2 People and Raw for Dessert: Easy Delights for Everyone. We made green juice, a green smoothie, raw granola, zucchini “pasta” and marinara sauce, marinated kale, vegetarian sushi (that was really fun: I’d never made sushi before), and the most amazing chocolate tart with a mousse filling made creamy with avocado — who’d have thought? (All these recipes are in Raw Food Made Easy…).
My lovely friend, Maggie, was there and we traded girl talk. Then I came home and started the warm-season to cold-season clothing switch. Now I’m resting and writing to you and feeling very excited about the next 29 days. Wanna join me? Let me know some of your advantages and what you’re going to do with them. On Monday, we’ll talk about some the basic practices that are simple and free and pretty much required to living a charmed life every day.
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Pat G

posted October 11, 2009 at 9:10 am

Dear Victoria, Thanks so much for your words. Love your plan; I am journaling more these days & appreciate the reminder about lists (for me I like the Gratitude list).
It is very cold this morning & I am planning 2 days of resting and nesting to prepare for Winter. Looking forward to future posts, Your friend/fan…Pat Gallagher

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posted October 11, 2009 at 10:59 am

Good morning Victoria-I agree its always easier to see what others have and take for GRANTED that which youve been BLESSED with.My advantages-I have some but I found yours to be most interesting-Resourseful-Thats great…That alone gave me a different prospective on all of mine.Thank you for the eye opener.

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posted October 11, 2009 at 2:02 pm

my fiance left to work out of town and i welcome and plan to participate . i needed somthing to look 4ward 2

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posted October 11, 2009 at 2:10 pm

Even though I am in bed fighting a bug I am so pleased that I can stay in bed and recuperate. My husband has treated me royally and I am cuddled up with my pets. I only do natural medicine so I am being good to myself. Thank you for your posts and I too, look forward to the next 29 days.

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posted October 11, 2009 at 3:18 pm

This seems like a great time of year to have a 30-day renewal – to be better prepared for the holidays! If I had to state some advantages I have, they would be:
1) Positive, persistent spirit
2) Resourcefulness
3) Deep well of ideas
4) Strong family support
This is a good list to start with. What am I going to do with this? My goal is to get my book published (on names). I have an agent and working well there, but in support of the book, I’m trying to keep my blogsite active. I get busy with everything and don’t post as often as I should. Hmmm. When looking at that list and thinking about what I need more of – time seems to become an issue. Timidity is another issue that comes up – I’ll be honest. I need more courage to feel comfortable living authentically.

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posted October 12, 2009 at 6:34 am

That sounds like fun! Count me in for the 30days ride :-) I’ve already made my list and it looks that my life is quite charming, if only I stop and focus on the positive aspects of it… Thanks for reminding this Victoria. Have a great day.

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posted October 12, 2009 at 9:59 am

Count me in! My husband was gone over the weekend, so I attended a film festival, had a fun time with girlfriends and completed my winter closet transformation (one of my favorite things to do). He returned last night so we had a special vegan dinner and a romantic evening. He left this morning for another week away. Today I am going into the office to get work out of the way, I am going to call a personal raw chef to see if I can have some of my meals catered this week, I am calling an organizer to work with me one afternoon (I will do some cleaning out before she arrives to make the best use of her time). Advantages: 1) Flexibility with work responsibilities 2) Organized and willing to make things happen for myself 3) Spiritual “Seeker” 4) Transitioning since I took our youngest to college 4) Open to what my Higher Power has in store for me Thanks Victoria! Diana

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posted October 12, 2009 at 2:41 pm

I have many advantages in my life.
(1) Beautiful, bright, active, healthy children
(2) A great mind and a wonderful education
(3) A wonderful home with a big yard and a view of the mountains and lots of good neighbors
(4) Plenty of work
(5) Sobriety
(6) Good health

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posted October 12, 2009 at 2:53 pm

I have many advantages in my life too!
(1) I am a two time cancer survivor (most recent event January 09 – currently in remission).
(2) God has filled me a passion for living.
(3) I have the gift of tenacity!
(4) I have the abilty to dream.
(5) I have THE MOST awesome grandson (two years old) who helps me see the world through his eyes. What a GRAND view it is!!!!
(6) I am surrounded by people who love me and support me no matter what the circumstances.
(7) I have a deep spiritual faith that is the vehicle that drives me through life.
(8) I have the promise of each new moment which is mine to make the most of.

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Dorma Ruth

posted October 12, 2009 at 4:52 pm

I am game!
1. Two good and healthy children with fine spouses.
2. Two of the best Grandchildren.
3. A nice new home.
4. Financial Stability.
5. Two good jobs.
I don’t work alot of hours a week so need to find somethings to fill in but am determined to do so this month.

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posted October 12, 2009 at 7:04 pm

I want to join in on this “magical” journey. I have many advantages in this life:
1) 2 beautiful and healthy daughters
2) A supportive and awesome mother
3) Flexible Job
4) Deep faith that everything will be okay
5) I have a strong belief in achieving my dreams

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posted October 13, 2009 at 10:58 am

This is so inspiring… I’m a few days late, but here are my advantages…
1.I am youthful
2. I have creative energies and the universe has been so good to me by helping me bring so many of them to fruition
3. I love my work, and get to work from home, which makes me feel like I’m shining form the inside
4. I have amazing friends and family and so many lessons to learn each day from each of them
5. I have a dog at my feet
6. Later today I’ll get to practice yoga
7. I enjoyed my education and am putting it to use
8. I am beautiful (I am watching my mind to see what it does as I type that statement)
9. I feel guided in my life
10. I have so much to be grateful for every split second of my life.

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posted October 13, 2009 at 12:26 pm

This is so exciting and couldn’t come at a better time for me! Here are my advantages:
1. I know myself pretty well at this point
2. I am surrounded by truly warm and loving people
3. I am fortunate to be determined in what I do
4. I am funny-even on bad days
5. I am considerate of others at all times
6. I carry hope with me every single day
7. As I write this, and my eyes are watering, I realize that I am
also very sensitive and I’d like to stay that way.

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posted October 13, 2009 at 1:21 pm

Thanks for sharing this opportunity with us all.
My advantages include:
*I have a great job with a great schedule
*I own my own home, single mom
*My family is in good health
*I have a loving family & friends
*I have opportunities for learning & growth
*I am passionate, adventurous, and a curious person
*I have strong faith

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posted October 13, 2009 at 3:32 pm

Thank you Paulina for posting this on the wellness guide and Thank you Victoria for facilitating this:
1. I am healthy
2. I have worked hard at creating my own business and am proud of my accomplishments
3. My cat who was hit by a car this week is alive and will live on 3 legs and still be a part of our lives
4. I am in a peaceful, happy and loving partnership and will be married in June
5. The work that I do in this world heals and helps others during times of need
6. I am grateful to have lived this long :)

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posted October 13, 2009 at 4:54 pm

Thanks for the movie rec’s.
I love raw granola!

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posted October 15, 2009 at 7:44 pm

I have a loving family and great friends
I’m creative and have lots of great ideas
I have a can do attitude
I’m gorgouse
Everyday I get to give, learn, love and play
I can see the bigger picture

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posted October 22, 2009 at 2:13 pm

I love this! I’m in the midst of reading your amazing book, “Living a Charmed Life,” and I’m so excited to do the 30-day plan at the same time.
My advantages:
1) I have a loving, supportive, and wonderful family and circle of close friends
2) I am kind and a great listener
3) I am open-minded
4) I have many talents and interests, from acting/art to travel
5) I am funny! In a goofy way :)

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posted October 22, 2009 at 2:28 pm

I won’t be able to comment much in the next 30 days because my laptop goes funny every time I comment here, but I will be following and getting the benefit! (I had a rocket, veg and fruit smoothie today, thanks to your wonderful wee book!)Here are some of the ups in my life:
~I get to write in a warm home and be here to welcome my kids and husband home every day.
~Scotland has fresh air, clean water and greenery.
~I’m starting to feel better after a bout of ill health.
~My husband has a job.
~I was born with creative gifts and a supportive heart.
And loads more, but I talk too much!

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posted November 1, 2009 at 2:03 pm

1. I’m alive with hope and possibilities.
2. I have a steady income.
3. I have years of life experience to tap into each day.
4. I have the support of a wonderful weight loss coach, Janice Taylor.
5. I have access to this wonderful blog. Thank you, Victoria! :)

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posted November 6, 2009 at 9:26 am

I am sooo excited about this blog. I just found out about it and am looking forward to reading more. I’m so glad you mentioned your “sweet moment” of walking into a pub at the moment the Yankees won. Sometimes I have those days where “sweet moments” like that just happen right after another and I feel so blessed, connected and alive. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one who gets excited about those little moments.

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