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Is Jesus the Only Way to God?

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Is Jesus the Only Way to God?

Is Jesus the Only Way to God?

Another Cardiac Unit Insight…

Is Jesus the only way to God?

I am often asked, “What did Jesus really mean when, in John 14:6, he is purported to have said, “I am the way…no one comes to the Father but by me?”

I was raised to believe that Jesus was saying, “I am the ONLY way to know God…if you do not believe in ME, you have condemned yourself to eternal separation from God.”

Is that really what Jesus meant?

I think not.

I thought about this during my brief hospital stay. A heart attack, even a mild one, has a way of bringing you face to face with your own mortality.

There are two reasons I know this is not what Jesus meant.

1. One, it would be completely out of the character and teachings of Jesus to exclude anyone from God who did not get his or her “beliefs” just right, even “belief” in Jesus. Such dogmatism was precisely the thing that irked him the most by the exclusivist religion of his day that was always drawing boundaries around those who were “in” and those who were “out.”

2. Second, clearly Jesus was a teacher of spiritual things – virtually everything we know about him…from him…comes to us as a teaching…a path to follow…a lifestyle to adopt…and, therefore, his words here simply mean, to borrow Thich Nhat Hanh’s brilliant analysis – and this from a Buddhist monk, not a “Christian” theologian:

“When Jesus said, ‘I am the way,’ He meant that to have a true relationship with God, you must practice His way. In the Acts of the Apostles, the early Christians always spoke of their faith as ‘the Way.’”

“The Way is not an asphalt road”…

     (as in a paved, rigid system of beliefs).

“But we must distinguish between the ‘I’ spoken by Jesus and the ‘I’ that people usually think of. The ‘I’ in His statement is LIFE itself, His life, which is the way. If you do not really look at His life, you cannot see the way. If you only satisfy yourself with praising a name, even the NAME of Jesus, it is not practicing the life of Jesus…The way is Jesus Himself and not just some idea of Him…Many who have neither the way nor the life try to impose on others what they believe to be the way. But these are only words that have no connection with real life or a real way” (Living Buddha, Living Christ by Thich Nhat Hanh).

I’d rather walk the way of Jesus; not just recite words about Jesus.

Isn’ that what it really means to be Christian?

Dr. Steve McSwain is an author, speaker, counsel to non-profits, faith-based organizations and congregations, and a spiritual teacher. His books and blogs inspire spiritual seekers all over the world. He is a devoted follower of Christ but an interfaith activist as well. He is frequently heard to say, in the words of Mother Teresa, “I love all religions; but I’m in love with my own.” Read more from Dr. McSwain on his blog Your Best Life Now.

The 50th Anniversary of the Vietnam War: Remember, We Must…

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This may surprise you, but what we commonly call the Vietnam War, or the Second Indo-China War, was technically the “Vietnam Conflict.” The US Congress never officially declared war against Vietnam. They viewed our participation in the conflict as a means of protecting South Vietnam from Communist takeover.

What was our involvement in the war that began fifty years ago?

According to America’s Wars Report, issued by the Department of Veterans Affairs (May, 2010,) 8.7 million service members were involved. To put that number into perspective, that’s over half the number of all US service members who were involved in World War II. About 5.4 million lives were lost to the Vietnam War.

It may seem small in comparison, but that is over twenty times the number killed in the American Revolution. Over 153,000 Americans were wounded in the Vietnam War.

At the height of hostilities in January, 1968, US forces heavily bombed the borders of Cambodia and Laos. The Communists launched the Tet Offensive, but failed to gain control over South Vietnam. The American public grew weary of government policies and suggestions that we were winning the war.

Even though the Paris Peace Accord in 1973 called for a cease to hostilities, and was agreed to by all parties, the war dragged on until April, 1975. Our involvement in the war ended on August 15, 1973. By 1976, both North and South Vietnam were reunited.

As of May, 2010, in the above cited report, 7,391,000 veterans were still alive. That number is three times more than the number involved in Desert Storm.

What do the numbers mean?

The numbers give you a snapshot of our involvement, but scale the numbers down to just one, where you can understand it personally.

Every number represents a loved one… each with a unique personality, with extraordinary talents and aspirations, each one with a life ahead of them.

How could they have known that their American Dream would turn so horribly into a hellish nightmare? Many were too young to understand. They did not have to wait long to find out.

Many of them were sent home in body bags. Even more came back with limbs amputated by landmines, suffered shrapnel blasts and bullet wounds. Many became blind. Others were deafened from the continual strafing, screeching, and thudding of aerial bombardment, machine gun fire, and explosions. Many are confined to a wheelchair for the rest of their lives. Many came home unappreciated, rejected, and spiritually devastated. Even today, many of the survivors of that war will not speak of the atrocities they witnessed or the hell that they suffered.

The horrors of war, the memory of loss, the chronic pain; it’s just all too agonizing to remember.  But remember we must, even if it is too difficult for those who actually endured the horrors of that war.

Remember Our Service Members…

America owes a debt of deep gratitude and appreciation for the service members who fight for the freedoms we far too often take for granted. Let us not turn a blind eye or a deaf ear to our own. Let’s remember every last one of them. If you have opportunity, visit the Vietnam War Memorial in Washington in person. If not, visit The Wall USA, a non-profit established by veterans of the 4th Battalion, 9th Infantry Regiment to honor those who died in the Vietnam War.

It is here you’ll find the poignant words: “If you are able, save for them a place inside of you and save one backward glance when you are leaving for the places they can no longer go. Be not ashamed to say you loved them, though you may or may not have always. Take what they have taught you with their dying and keep it with your own. And in that time when men decide and feel safe to call the war insane, take one moment to embrace those gentle heroes you left behind.” (Major Michael Davis O’Donnell 1 January 1970 Dak To, Vietnam Listed as KIA February 7, 1978)

As we remember the 50th anniversary of the Vietnam War, let us…

Resolve to end all war, respect and accept all persons, and pray daily for peace.

To remember does not mean to simply recall or bring to mind. It holds even greater significance. When you RE- anything, you are doing it again. Redo. Reapply. Reassure. Whether or not we are a service member, we are all an individual members of a greater organism called humanity.

When we join together and stand united as one, in strength and purpose, this is how we RE-member.

And, rightly honor the memory of our soldiers.

10 Steps to Inner Peace and Success…

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Be Love to Others

Perhaps this is what inner peace looks like to you. Photo Used by Permission

Perhaps this is what inner peace looks like to you. Photo Used by Permission

We are born for love. Not just to be in love and to be loved, but to BE love. You see, love isn’t just something you do. It is a constant state of BEING. It is a place of abiding from within the deepest part of ourselves.

As human beings, our highest calling is to be in alignment with all that love is… to be profoundly tender, to be deeply affectionate; to be more understanding. When we offer compassion, empathy, and kindness, as a natural outflow of who we are, we open the doors to fostering friendships, promoting peace and reconciling relationships.

Remember also that we are born for connection. As the late John O’Donohue said in Eternal Echoes, “it is the nature of your soul to belong.” The greatest happiness comes from remembering this ancient truth: that we come from Love and that we are, in fact, love.

Create Quality Memories Now

In the busyness of life, we tend to not pay attention to what really matters. The thrust of our energy is spent on achieving, of earning rewards, on getting ahead. But, the question is… what investments are we making in our own future happiness?

Every day, we are given 86,400 seconds. With each, we are trading our lives for something… but for what? Is the trade worth it? How much of our time is invested in creating quality memories right now that we will enjoy looking back on for the rest of our lives?

Consider that happiness is an ocean floor. It is that settled peace found deep within you. Nothing beyond that depth perturbs you as it is too far removed from the circumstances and external events at the surface. Think of this depth within you as the place where you store all your happiest memories, your finest moments.

Elevate Your Thoughts

Imagine an elevator inside your brain. It goes up, down, and sideways. Your subconscious is the operator, but you can consciously override it. Your thoughts enter the elevator and instruct the operator where to go. The mood of the occupants regulates the motor. Extremes in temperature, such as being hot under the collar or giving someone the cold shoulder, cause the motor to malfunction. The elevator comes to a screeching halt!

How does the elevator go sideways? When you allow other people to push your buttons, to make decisions for you, or when you’ve lost sight of which way is up or down. It also goes sideways by adopting a holistic approach, where both hemispheres of the brain work in harmony to bring you inner peace.

If the words are debasing, mean-spirited, or negative… the elevator leads down. If our thoughts are inspiring, motivating, or encouraging… the elevator goes up.

Forget Kissing the Frog: Be the Frog!

Remember the Brothers Grimm fairy tale of the reluctant princess who kissed the ugly frog? The frog then transformed into a handsome prince. In popular culture, this story is often referenced to remind people, “You’ll have to kiss a lot of ugly frogs before finding your handsome prince.” In other words, you’ll make many mistakes before making the right choice.

What about the “ugly frog,” however? Do you ever feel you are neither the lovely princess nor the handsome prince? More like the unacceptable frog instead?

Most people have a hard time accepting themselves. They are quick to regard others as a prince or princess but quicker still at disregarding themselves. Inner peace and success requires that we respect others and revere ourselves as well. Jesus put it like this: “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” When you have done the latter, the former will take care of itself.

Keep a Healthy Perspective

Do you tend to look at things only as black and white? Do you choose to see the world through rose colored glasses? Did you know that the way you see life determines your health?

Thanks to the many years of pioneering work by Dr. Bruce H. Lipton, we now have scientific proof that our perceptions and beliefs control our biology, and our overall health. For example, he cites that 95% of cancers in our body are a direct result of our thinking. Does this surprise you? It may, but it shouldn’t.

Here’s why: Thoughts based in love lead to co-creation, procreation, and recreation. They support creativity, growth, and flourishing. Thoughts based in fear find us reacting to life rather than responding it. They cause adopt protective behavior, and release toxins into the bloodstream. The healthiest perspective we can adopt is to operate from our highest self; that is Love.

Know Your Why!

Thoreau once said, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.” What was he getting at? His point is that we have so much more potential within us than we ever realize. If we live out our days without a sense of purpose, without being intentional as to its direction, without ever considering our place in the grand scheme of things, we are merely existing; not truly living.

That’s no way to BE, and it certainly is no way to be happy either. If we get bogged down in the hustle and bustle of the workaday world, we lose sight of our own inner beauty. Tapping into our potential and the unique gifts God has given us, we discover our WHY, our reason for being, our main purpose for being here. When you know your why, you know your way!

Nurture a Sense of Humor

“Laughter,” said the late Grady Nutt, “is the hand of God on the shoulder of a troubled world.” If this is true, make it your practice to be one of God’s gloves. In other words, let humor and laughter fill your life. Few things will release stress faster than a good laugh.

To bring more laughter into your life, try surrounding yourself with people whose outlook and attitudes are positive. Negative people will drag you down. Optimistic people, on the other hand, generate an energy that positively impacts the atmosphere around them. By spending more time with people like this, you discover their spirit reproduces itself in you.

Second, balance your information intake. In other words, in our world where the news everywhere is almost always negative, make certain you balance this digestion of information with reading that enriches and uplifts you. Otherwise, instead of inner peace you’ll have indigestion.

Rid Yourself of Toxic Thoughts, Chemicals, and Habits

Speaking of the mind, there is another step necessary for you to take in order to move closer to a life of inner peace. Rid yourself of all toxicity, whether toxic thoughts, chemicals, habits, and foods.

Toxic thoughts are angers, resentments, and even regrets. Let go of thoughts drenched in hostility or inner peace will be more elusive than a butterfly. Holding a grudge or nurturing a resentment, observed Nelson Mandela, “is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”

Certainly, there are habits that hinder our experience of inner peace. Drinking too much alcohol, failing to balance work and play, activity and non-activity, and relying too heavily on medications instead of the body’s nature capacity to heal.

Even the foods we eat, or fail to eat, contribute to one’s inner state of peace. Practice listening to your inner voice; it will tell you what is toxic.

Stay Connected to Your Power Source!

Since the advent of computers, laptops, and cell phones, etc., power strips have become a household necessity. Power strips provide multiple places to plug-in to a power source and recharge your devices.

Similarly, everyone needs to be connected to a spiritual power source. Some people call the source of this spiritual power “God.” What is more important than the title, however, is whether you actually get in touch with this Divine source.

Prayer and meditation are two viable methods of connecting to the spiritual power source. While most westerners are familiar with prayer, meditation may not be as familiar. What is meditation? It is the practice of progressively slowing the mind and bringing of one’s inner world into a state of peace and solitude. To tame the mind, however, takes practice.

If you master the mind and slow down its almost incessant activity, your daily reward will be inner peace.

When You Have a Choice, Always Choose Kind

The first of these ten steps to inner peace was “Be Love to Others.” This last step takes that first step one step further.

Start each new day with the resolve to do one thing for someone else they would not likely do for themselves. It could be as simple as a smile and a hello to the clerk while standing at the counter of your favorite coffee café. Has it ever occurred to you how infrequently people smile either at themselves or to each other during the course of a day. Your pleasant smile and warm hello are gifts they might otherwise seldom receive.

If you find yourself in a disagreement with someone, resolve to always be kind. “Never repay evil for evil,” counseled Saint Paul, the spiritual teacher credited for much of the New Testament. Instead, “be kind in any and all circumstances.” Inner peace is your reward.

Dr. Steve McSwain is an author, speaker, counsel to non-profits, faith-based organizations and congregations, and a spiritual teacher. His books and blogs inspire spiritual seekers all over the world. He is a devoted follower of Christ but an interfaith activist as well. He is frequently heard to say, in the words of Mother Teresa, “I love all religions; but I’m in love with my own.” Read more from Dr. McSwain on his blog Your Best Life Now.

God and the Power Pivot

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God and the Power Pivot.

The Power Pivot

God and the Power Pivot: The Pivot may provide the power; but the power is not the Pivot.

Maybe you’ve seen this new gadget marketed by Quirky as the Power Pivot. It has become wildly popular. This one is now in our home and it is providing power to multiple products all from its resting place under Pam’s side of the bed.

Pam has become quite the techy one in our family. She has more electronic devices than some people have credit cards. To keep all of them charged simultaneously, however, she has discovered the traditional straight power strip just does not work.

The Power Pivot, however, does. Instead of the single strip that limits the number of devices you can connect at one time, the Power Pivot is flexible, allowing for several devices to be connected all at once.

Given how I’m wired, I could not help but see the spiritual parallels.

God and the Power Pivot…

We all search for a power source, do we not? It is the nature of the human experience. The famous passage from The Confessions of Augustine goes like this: “You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it rests in you.”

Throughout all of human history, one can find a kind of restlessness in search of a Divine connection.

God and the Power Pivot have many names.

What the Power Pivot does is no different than what the traditional Power Strip does. They both provide a connecting point to the source of power. They just have different names and shapes.

It’s the same with God, isn’t it? Zeus to Greeks; Brahman to Hindus; Allah to Muslims; Yahweh to Jews; and, Jesus to Christians. And, these are but a drop in the proverbial bucket of Divine names.

The mistake almost all people have made throughout history, and still make today, is to confuse the power strip for the power source, the pivot for the person. Whenever this occurs, and it does so in almost every religion, followers wind up arguing for the strip instead of worshiping the source. Protecting their religion becomes more important than connecting to its Source. Doesn’t this explain much of the violence in the news? Much of the widespread departure from organized religion as well? People are tired of this confusion. People are weary of the war waged almost universally between people of varying religions.

To young Timothy, Saint Paul warned, “Do not hold to a form of godliness, but miss the power source behind it” (2 Timothy 3:5).

Whenever you feel threatened and defensive about your religion, haven’t you made this error already?

Haven’t you confused the pivot for the Person? Or, holding to “form of godliness, but missing the God behind it?”

The Buddha said, “The finger that points to the moon is not the moon.”

Or, as we might put it here: The pivot that provides the power is not the power.

5 Easy Rules to Deal with Difficult People

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Difficult People

Dealing with Difficult People

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Bill Butler @WilliamButler.caDifficult People: Insights to Remember in Dealing with Them

At one time or another, we have all had dealings with difficult people. Do you remember the last time you did? Do you recall the last time someone intentionally spoke words to malign your character, question your motives, or to just upset you? It would seem that some go out of their way to make life difficult for others. How did you deal with it? What was the outcome? What can you do next time it happens? It’s a fact of life that we encounter difficult people with a negative attitude, who are toxic thinkers, who oppose what we think, sometimes for no other reason than to just be objectionable. Perhaps they simply don’t like us. Not everyone will, and that’s okay. Some people look for opportunities to trip us up, or will find almost any excuse to start an argument. But we certainly don’t have to go along with it.

5 Easy Rules to Deal with Difficult People

Remember that when you deal with difficult people, what is at stake here is your good name, your character, your higher self. You also need to consider your mental, emotional and spiritual health. How you handle any of this is also a factor to consider in your happiness. With this in mind, consider the following:

1. Keep Your Cool.

What is in your power to control at all times is your frame of mind. Your inner calm and contentment is more important than losing your temper. Remember that you have better things to do with your time and energy than to be embroiled in a heated argument. Even as draining as an argument is, you can recover your energy. But you will never get back the time you spend in an argument with difficult people.

2. Think Before You React.

Before you react, before you formulate a response, think about these things: Difficult people will only bother you to the degree you allow them. As someone has said, “Nobody can ever upset you without your permission.” If you react to someone who has learned to push your buttons, you can trigger an avalanche of emotions and witness the landslide of your own character. Remember, “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” (Proverbs 16:18) You don’t want to get buried under the weight of this unnecessary burden. Not reacting to difficult people sends a clear signal to calm down. Be patient and polite. By doing so, you set observable boundaries.

3. Don’t Take It Personally.

At all times, we are either presenting or perceiving. Usually, someone’s outward expression or reaction is really a reflection of some inner conflict within them. They mistakenly project it, however, onto someone else. You see, the trouble is within difficult people, so there is no need to take it personally. It is of greater help to understand, from the standpoint of compassionate awareness. Remember, too, you don’t know what is going on in the other person’s life. They may be dealing with hardships you know nothing about. These things could be causing a stress reaction in them and they may not even be aware of it. Be as understanding and sensitive to their feelings as you can. When the other person sees that you care, it is very possible they will change their attitude toward you. But, even if they don’t, you have maintained your higher self.

4. Look Within.

Is it possible that you have offended the other person, even unintentionally? Their feelings may be causing them to react negatively to you. If you find this to be true, waste no time in offering a sincere apology. Resolving a matter in a timely matter removes the buildup of animosity and bitter feelings. If this is not the case, know that you are in the clear. Have you said something that may have been taken out of context? If the other person is willing to listen, this may be the perfect opportunity to clear the air.

5. Finally, Dial It Down.

If you allow your ego the satisfaction of reacting, you will likely escalate the conflict and, as a consequence, rob yourself of your inner joy. Remember: “A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1) There is no sense in adding fuel to the fire, is there? Instead, use every opportunity to de-escalate. If you cannot leave, you can redirect the conversation. At all times, take the high road. Be true to who you are. And, remember one more thing. You may have difficult people in your life at this time, but there is a pretty good chance you have been the difficult person in someone else’s life. Be humble. Be true to yourself. And, above all, be Christ-like at all times.

Dr. Steve McSwain is an author, speaker, counsel to non-profits, faith-based organizations and congregations, and a spiritual teacher. His books and blogs inspire spiritual seekers all over the world. He is a devoted follower of Christ but an interfaith activist as well. He is frequently heard to say, in the words of Mother Teresa, “I love all religions; but I’m in love with my own.”

Would You Want to Marry into a Family of Atheists? Hell No!

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Would You Want to Marry into a Family of Atheists? Hell No!

Would You Want to Marry into a Family of Atheists? Hell No!

I’ve been in a writing mode for the last few days. I’m preparing for a keynote in a few weeks at a banquet for several hundred aviators at Aviation Association’s annual gathering, this year at Belterra Casino and Resort. And, of course, I’ve been writing a book on happiness, too.

Yesterday, however, my writing was temporarily interrupted by a call from one of the producers of HuffPost Live – it’s their live television/internet version of the news. It seems the Pew Forum on Religion in Public Life had recently released a report that a “huge number of Americans do not want atheist in-laws.” They were going to have a live discussion on the subject and they wanted me and a couple of other “experts” – as they called us – I had to bite my tongue to keep from laughing when she said that. I’ve never been an “expert” at anything, except perhaps at “nothing.” Anyway, I agreed and enjoyed the conversation. If you’d like to listen to the archived version, go here: “Why Most Americans Don’t Want Atheists In-Laws.”

I actually read the Pew report, too. If you’ve read it, you know there is really nothing new or earth-shattering in it. In fact, it’s the kind of thing we’ve come to expect from fundamentalist versions of any faith but, in this case, Christianity. Nearly two-thirds of “conservative” Christians would be upset to have “atheist” in-laws.

Would I be upset to have “atheist” in-laws?

Not at all. No more so, in fact, than I am about having very conservative Christian in-laws. Which, of course, I do. What I would find disconcerting, however, is whether my son or daughter or my future in-laws were narrow-minded or, worse, closed-minded, whether atheists or theists.

In Buddhism, there is something known as “wrong view,” which basically means we view reality – any reality – through distorted, narrow lens. This is an affliction that affects everyone.  And, the spiritual goal is, to cultivate “right view.”  Which does not mean, cultivate your view of things as “the right view” and everyone else’s view of things as “the wrong view.”

This is the core error in fundamentalism, whether radical Christian fundamentalism or radical atheism.

The middle way is the better way.  Respecting all persons for their own faith journey, or lack of it, is the healthiest position.

It is, in fact, the only position wherein peace may prevail.

Between Christians and atheists.

Between Israel and Palestine.

Between Sunnis and Shi’ites.

Between Republicans and Democrats.

Between couples of the same faith, opposite faiths or no faith.

Between couples of the opposite sex or the same sex.

The middle way is the only way.

If you enjoy the things I write, visit my blog where you’ll find much more. Go to www.SteveMcSwain.com

Why the Widespread Departure from the Church?

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I am frequently asked, “Why the widespread departure from organized religion?”

I have thought long and hard about this and, for those of you who follow my blogs with the Huffington Post and the articles I write for the Washington Post and BeliefNet.com, as well as my own books, you know I’ve written extensively about this.

I Have Thought Much About This…

While scores have left the church and scores more will leave in the coming years, I understand their reasons perhaps better than most. Many of their disappointments and frustrations I, too, have felt. I have chosen to stay, however, and work inside that world, as I do in the world within which we all live, to fulfill my personal life purpose which is: “To create a more conscious, compassionate, and charitable world.”

When it comes to the widespread departure from organized religion, however, (which is just a polite way of saying the “Church” – although it is true, there is a falling away from organized religion in general, too, and in many places) but I think one of the reasons for the rapidity of the departure is explained by the Internet itself.

The Internet: “A New Worldwide Congregation of Likeminded

While certainly not the cause, the internet has created a world wide web of interconnectedness, making it possible for the millions of people who have for centuries quietly questioned much of the madness they encountered in organized religion to almost suddenly, with the help of the internet, discover they are not the only ones who’ve wondered about, as well as quietly resisted, the insanity in so much of what is called Christianity.

Is this good? Well, it depends on whether you’re and insider or an outsider. Those inside organized religion are terrified at what’s happening inside their world…to their world. They are scrambling for answers. Most of their conclusions, however, at least heretofore, have been just plain wrong, or misguided, or designed only to lay the blame for the deterioration of the Church on those who have left and are leaving. Consequently, they have only succeeded in making matters worse for themselves. A few of them have been wise enough to ask, “Could there be something that’s wrong with us?” and they have wisely called upon people committed to help them navigate toward a new vision of the church.

If it isn’t clear to you by now, get clear about this one thing: the Church you and I grew up within is gone. Admittedly, remnants of it will remain here and there until the white-haired folks who cling to their memories finally die off. And, they will disappear. Some young, unwise leaders will try, as many of them are doing even now, to rearrange the deck chairs, hoping against hope that their resistance will keep the Titanic from sinking. At long last, they, too, will disappear.

Float Free, My Friends

Meanwhile, if you’re an outsider, you know this already. But I would caution you not rejoice in it, although I know what it’s like to feel as if payback is finally coming. In so many ways, however, it is sad to see the ship sink. It is for me, anyway.

But do not any of you forget, there are lifeboats all around. And, inside these little boats all across the sea called the World Wide Web, there are gatherings of the sacred survivors and seekers who are deeply devoted…not to resurrecting the Titanic…but to the preservation of what was once that which was important to them in the church – real community, real connectedness – naturally – to God, to each other, real compassion for the poor, and a real desire to help make the world “a more conscious, compassionate, and charitable place.”

Know this, these boat people will remain true to their calling; they will maintain their relationship to the sacred; and, they talk to each other and learn from each other, even from other religions, as they drift along in little lifeboats called “The Internet.”

Float free, my spiritual friends. You deserve some calm seas of sacredness. The Sacred is there, too.

If you find the things I write about the spiritual life to be meaningful to you, would you share them with your family and friends? Visit my website www.SteveMcSwain.com too for more like what you’ve just read. Walk with God. But then, of course, you do. How could you not? You were born to do so.

What’s Wrong with Our Prayers? Here’s What’s Wrong…

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What’s wrong with our prayers? Here’s what’s wrong…what we often call prayer isn’t prayer at all.

Let me explain it this way…

I do not pray to be healthy; I pray for wisdom to make healthy choices.

What's wrong with your prayers?

What’s wrong with our prayers?

I do not pray for healing; I pray for strength to endure the suffering that comes to me.

I do not pray for success…for work…for finances…for abundance; I give thanks instead, that I can dream and make plans and take risks and pursue my dreams. Then, I rejoice for all I do have, however great or small, none of which I may deserve anyway, but all of which is a gift from the Unseen hand.

I do not pray for long life either; I pray instead that I may live into the life I have. And, all I have is this moment…even as I write, I cry now…but not with sadness but joy for I am alive. I am living. How could I not be glad? How could I not rejoice? For now, that is…this moment…for this is eternity in an hour, is it not?

I think we’ve got this thing called prayer all wrong.

Why would I pray to be healthy when I innately know whether I’m taking care of myself or not…whether I am resting properly, or eating healthy, or exercising regularly?

I know what I’m doing. Or, better, what I may not be doing. Why would I degrade prayer by praying about such things I know the answer to already?

Why would I pray, for example, to be healed of sickness or cancer or some other disastrous and unexpected illness that attacks me out of the blue? What makes me special that I should not be subject to becoming ill or growing old or getting sick?

Does it irritate you, as it does me, when people send out the call for “prayer warriors” when someone has fallen ill? They sound an alarm, a kind of call to arms as it were, asking for as many people to pray as possible – as if, by getting more prayers they have a greater chance at being heard or getting healed. As if, by having many people praying, their army is consequently bigger than whatever may be resisting the answer they seek?

What nonsense! What a prostitution of prayer, too! To think, God only gets turned on to my needs, and so responds, when I get enough people praying for help. It’s absurdity and it has nothing to do with spirituality or real prayer.

I must, if I wish to move beyond merely calling myself a “believer”…I must stop this childish way of thinking and believing that the more prayers I can get to “go up to God” the better my chances of averting disaster, either for myself or those for whom I am praying.

That’s the stuff the charlatan preachers on television promote and to everyone’s peril.

But it ain’t so! And, it’s time you know.

Every day, millions of people suffer and die all over this planet, some from starvation, others from violence and bloodshed, still others from disease, aging, and a host of other natural causes.

How many of them, do you suppose, call out in prayer to be spared? And yet, they are not. So, why would I, or you, believe that, when we call out to God…when we plead, beg, offer incense, or amass an army of prayer warriors, that we are going to persuade the gods to look more favorably on our condition, or that of the ones we love? What makes any of us think our incessant begging is going to overcome the odds – whatever their cause?

Is it an attack from Satan we are experiencing? That’s what the Kenneth Copeland’s on television and the Benny Hinn’s of this world will tell you. Satan is often the scapegoat for those who don’t want to attribute suffering and illness to God. “No,” they say, “God wants you healed…it’s the Devil who’s trying to kill you!”

Really?

Well, if you call aging and sickness the attack of the Devil, so be it. But the day will come when we’ll all finally grow up and realize the Devil can be blamed for many things, but the fact remains, we are going to get sick, age, and eventually die, with or without any help from Satan.

Think. Think. Think about this.

Our theology so often is so limited. Our view of God is too frequently distorted, warped, and just plain spiritually immature.

You and I are born and we will die. Period. No one can be “healed” every time from every illness. Tell that to Kenneth and Gloria Copeland. Look at how they’ve aged over the years. In spite of their rants, they grow old, too…and get sick just like the rest of us…and, one day, they, too, will die.

It’s part of what it means to be human.

We must stop blaming Satan or our circumstances for the common cold. To do so makes the spiritual life the laughingstock of the world.

We must grow up in our faith instead. Pray…yes, of course, pray…but let prayer be without the begging, pleading, the believing that we are more special than others and so should not have to suffer like the rest of humanity. We must stop the incessant bastardizing of God. And, we must let go of such childish ways of thinking about God as if he were some kind of Cosmic Santa Claus who gives goodies to the good folks like you and me…who gives health and healing but only to those of us who “have enough faith”…or, who rescues from the jaws of death those “whose time to go is not yet.”

To believe and act in these childish ways does not “prove ones faith.” It undermines it instead. And, furthermore, it’s so unlike the Christ who walked into his own suffering, not away from it…who, yes, in a moment of weakness, prayed, just as we sometimes pray in weakness and fear, “Take this cup from me…” But, once he voiced that weakness, once he embraced his fear, he was able to step beyond both, just as the Buddha counseled all of us long before Jesus ever showed up: “Resist not what is…for, to do so, is to suffer all the more!”

In so doing, Jesus was able to pray the genuine and perfect spiritual prayer, “Not my will, but thine be done.”

When we can pray that prayer, spiritual maturity will have arrived.
Until we can pray that prayer, however…well…the Copelands, and the Hinns, and those of immature faith like them, will have to do, I suppose.

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