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Relationships in this day and age are harder than ever before. It takes constant work to remain faithful to the one you love. Lust is all around us and it is our choice to take the high road, and stay faithful or to tear the relationship down. Just because there are arguments in every relationship, doesn’t mean that every relationship is doomed to fail though either. That lie that every relationship you are in is doomed to fail, is so far from the truth. Relationships take time, work, effort and above all, they take love. It also takes constant effort to remember the reason why you fell in love with each other in the first place. No matter what happens between you two don’t expect perfection. Every argument has an ending in sight. It is important to always talk through things and forgive each other. Once an argument happens, take a few minutes or hours to calm down, and re-center yourself. Ask God to calm you down and give you the right words to say to your significant other. Ask God to help you both be able to forgive each other and move past the argument and put it behind you.
God created relationships with one goal in mind- so that we can work together in our relationships with one another and in our relationship with Him. We are created to serve God. There is nothing better than to serve God in a faith filled, fun relationship. Pray for each other and with each other. Prayer opens doors no man can shut. Having a person that knows how you feel and prays for your needs and the needs of the relationship is an amazing feeling. Prayer will not only change the relationship, it will also help you embrace each other and learn about one another more as you grow in faith. Prayer can also become your stronghold when tough times descend upon you and your significant other.
If you’re young and with someone, don’t listen to the lies that people tell you. You are not stupid for falling in love with someone. Falling in love is never wrong. You may be seen as naive, but you will learn the ins and outs of love as you go along. You will learn to work together as equal partners and enjoy each other’s company. You will learn the others likes and dislikes, pet peeves, and you will learn what makes each other click.  If you get married young, you have all the time in the world to learn about each other.
Remember to never expect perfection from one another, because that will only cause resentment between the two of you. The only one that is perfect is your heavenly Father.  Don’t try to make your significant other change and do things because you want them to do things a certain way, or to look a certain way. That is called being controlling and domineering. Controlling your significant other is not healthy in any relationship. It doesn’t matter whether you are just starting to date someone, or you’ve been going steady for years, or are engaged to that person or even married to that person.   If there are any control issues in the relationship, they need to be talked through as soon as possible, so the relationship doesn’t continue down the wrong path.
If there are control issues in either your family or in your significant other’s family and you see it, you both need to talk about that too, in as calm a manner as possible. The issues and the truth may not be seen right away, but once you see those kinds of issues, you have every right to talk about them. But, be forewarned, though, going up to the person you love and saying something out of anger in your heart about his or her family, is not going to help things between both of you or between their family and you. It most likely will only make things worse. Again, this is where prayer comes in. Even with anger in your heart, you can still ask God to take away whatever you may be feeling and ask Him to replace those thoughts, with the thoughts and words that can only come from Him and Him alone. Ask God to calm your heart and calm your tongue before speaking about anything with your loved one’s family member. Ask God to give you the right words to say at the right time. Pray that your loved one will accept what you say with understanding and let them know that both you and God are both there for them throughout whatever happens. Even though you both don’t fully understand why things happen the way they do, you can and will eventually learn to accept what is and let go of what you can’t change. Don’t try to be the Savior. That job is already taken by Jesus, Himself. No one expects you to be the Savior. Just be the person your significant other knows, trusts and loves. Be the person you always were and the person that is there to help them in their individual journey and to walk with them as your journey through life continues together.
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