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Ephesians 4:29,”Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouth. But only what is helpful according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen”. This is a verse that is sometimes hard to wrap our brains around. Trying to not let any unwholesome talk come out of our mouths every single day is such a hard concept to understand. It is hard to take and to understand because we don’t always want to benefit others through the words that come out of our mouths. Some days were angry and don’t want to talk nicely to people. Some days it’s easier than others. But isn’t it easier to be the one who is nicer to people than being a jerk to others? Some people only live to be negative. It is unfortunate because life is too short to be anything but nice to people.

Granted we all go through times when many bad things come out of our mouths such as curse words, gossip, lies, and other things. We only normally think about the bad things that are coming out of our mouths can ruin friendships, relationships and drive families apart, only once they are out of our hearts, minds and are coming out of our mouths. Once we let things come out of our mouths, we realize we can’t take them back. Our words not only hurt others. Our words can make people doubt themselves . For us, any unwholesome talk can make it even harder to believe in God’s true plan for our lives and it can cause us to doubt ourselves. You don’t want to be the one who caused a friendship to go awry, or a relationship to break off, just because of something you said, do you? Always watch what comes out of your mouth and think about everything you’re going to say before you say it.
At times we get so fed up and so angry at ourselves and with other people that we forget to watch what comes out of our mouths. Remember how words affect you, and they also affect others as well. Remember once things are out of your mouth they can’t be taken back. You can say sorry to someone you hurt but then it’s their choice to forgive you or not. Even if they don’t forgive you at least you made a conscious effort and were the bigger person and apologized for the things you said.

We should be quick to listen and slow to speak and slow to get angry. That verse is another hard concept to fully understand. It is very hard to keep our mouths shut, especially in the heat of the moment. At one point or another everyone wants to give someone else a piece of their minds. We have all been there. But it is always better to be the one that keeps your mouth shut in the middle of an argument. If you do that and decide to take the high road and not give the other person leverage over you, then they also can’t use your own words against you later.

It is hard to take and to understand because we don’t always want to benefit others through the words that come out of our mouths. Some days were angry and don’t want to talk nicely to people. Some days it’s easier than others. But isn’t it easier to be the one who is nicer to people than being a jerk to others? Why bring others down when you can be a person who brings others up.
When we are always talking negatively about ourselves, we sill, unfortunately, start to believe the lies we tell ourselves. No matter what others may tell us, we only hear the doubts and the lies that we say to ourselves. You know where that comes from don’t you? It comes from Satan. He wants you to be miserable in life because he is miserable. He doesn’t want you to find joy and happiness in your life. Nor does he want you to speak positively over your life, declaring God’s plan for your life. He wants you to stay in the same broken-down rut of your life.

He wants you to stay in the same place of your mind and believe that you have no purpose, no livelihood, no real drive to go after your dreams and that your friends and family don’t care about you. He wants you to believe any lie that he can make you think of, such as your relationship isn’t going to make it. Don’t believe that him. Trust God and speak those positive life-affirming sayings over yourself. Say things like, “I’m God’s child. I may not understand this pain now, but I know He has a purpose for it.” “I’m God’s child, He saved me, He loves me, and He is with me.” If you speak the word of God and speak from your heart, God will fill your heart soul and mind with His truth and take away the negativity and Satan’s lies.

bleed the same

Have you ever been driving and listening to the radio and suddenly, a song just hits your right in the heart? I had that happen to me not too long ago. I heard the song “At the Cross (Your Love Ran Red”) by Chris Tomlin. It was the first time I’d ever heard that song because I don’t listen to him too often. But the lyrics are so powerful and so true. It really made me stop and think just how blessed we all are to be saved by Jesus and by His love running red for us on the cross. The lyrics are as follows:
First verse: “There’s a place where mercy reigns and never dies. There’s a place where streams of grace. Flow deep and wide. Where all the love I’ve ever found. Comes like a flood. Comes flowing down. At the cross, at the cross. I surrender my life. I’m in awe of you. I’m in awe of you. Where your love ran red. And my sin washed white. I owe all to you. I owe all to you, Jesus.”
His mercy reigns forever. Thankfully it never dies. Only when we know Jesus and His love for us to we experience His never-ending grace and mercy. When you feel overwhelmed by God it is often a feeling that you can’t fully express, because you feel love, unlike any other and peace that surpasses all human understanding. His love comes flowing down at unexpected times when we need it the most. At the cross is where we can surrender our lives and be in awe of Him. We can surrender our lives to Him. Who wouldn’t be in shock and awe of God’s love when we finally get a glimpse of what it truly feels like. We’re loved by the king of kings, so feeling overwhelmed and in awe is only natural. His love ran red when He bled for us on the cross to take away our sins and to save us from eternity in Hell. His love ran red and our sins washed white. How can we not be in awe of Him because of the ultimate sacrifice He made for us?
Second verse: “There’s a place where sin and shame are powerless. Where my heart has peace with God. And forgiveness. Where all the love I’ve ever found. Comes like a flood. Comes flowing down. At the cross, at the cross. I surrender my life. I’m in awe of you. I’m in awe of you. Where your love ran red. And my sin washed white. I owe all to you. I owe all to you.”
How often do we really stop and think that we’re in a place where we can come to God? Do we realize how big of an honor and privilege we have in front of us? With God sin and shame are powerless. You can find peace with God no matter where you are in your life. Forgiveness is the greatest gift He could ever give. We owe all to Him because of His ultimate sacrifice. When His love ran red for us, our sin washed white and all of our past sins were wiped clean off the map. We are blank slates because of His sacrifice.
Bridge: “Here my hope is found. Here on holy ground. Here I bow down. Here I bow down. Here arms open wide. Here you save my life. Here I bow down. Here I bow. Chorus: At the cross, at the cross. I surrender my life. I’m in awe of you. I’m in awe of you. Where your love ran red. And my sin washed white. I owe all to you. I owe all to you. I owe all to you. I owe all to you, Jesus, Jesus. Your love ran red. Your love ran red. “
God’s arms are always open wide in order for us to receive Him into our lives and for Him to change our lives. But we have to be willing to receive what He has planned for us in our lives. He saved our lives so why not let Him have the controls over our lives? When we try to control everything in life, we give ourselves unneeded stress. None of that stress is worth it. Whatever we are stressing about, we can give it to God and ask Him to help us live with peace in our hearts. We can surrender our lives at any time and we can even surrender to God daily. In fact, it is a good idea to practice daily surrender unto Him, because only then will we find true peace that we deserve. Why carry all of our burdens when we can turn them all over to Him. We should be worshiping Him and being in complete awe of Him like the song says, instead of worrying about our day to day life. Find the time to get to know Him again and He will put that awe and peace into your life, your soul and mind and your heart. Seek Him and you will find Him.

negativity

Have you ever felt like no one knows you or that no one pays attention to you? Do you feel like everyone doesn’t know the real you? Do you feel like other people judge you because of the things you do or because of your mistakes? All of us can learn to not be as judgmental as we are. Casting Crowns gives us a glimpse into a girl’s life through the song, “Does Anybody Hear Her”. She is going through being judged by others because of her mistakes and she is longing for things that she hasn’t ever had in her life. The lyrics are as follows:

First verse: “She is running. A hundred miles an hour. In the wrong direction. She is trying. But the canyons ever widening. In the depths of her cold heart. So, she sets out on another misadventure just to find. She’s another two years older and she’s three more steps behind. Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see? Or does anybody even know she’s going down today? Under the shadow of our steeple. With all the lost and lonely people. Searching for the hope that’s tucked away in you and me. Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see?”
Anyone can go through times where we feel like we are three steps behind and getting older without doing anything with our lives. Maybe that’s what this woman in this song is going through. We try but everything sometimes falls apart. We feel as though no one even notices our struggles and we may even feel as though we are being ignored. We set out on adventures in our lives only to find out that we’re only getting older and that we haven’t done as much with our lives as other people. We notice that people judge us for the things we do and don’t do, so it can make it hard to keep up with others.
Does anybody hear us, does anybody see us in the middle of what we are going through? Does anybody even know that we could be going down in our own sadness? If you’re that sad, depressed or angry about something, or even that stressed about something, please talk to someone you trust. There is nothing worse than going through any emotional rollercoaster alone. Remember, there are many other lost and lonely people in the world. They are searching for the hope of God that is tucked away in you and me. Take the opportunity to tell others about God and the peace, not to mention the hope you have through having a personal relationship with Him.
Second verse: “She is yearning for shelter and affection. That she never found at home. She is searching for a hero to ride in. To ride in and save the day. Then in walks her prince charming.  He knows just what to say. A momentary lapse of reason and she gives herself away. Chorus: Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see? Or does anybody even know she’s going down today? Under the shadow of our steeple. With all the lost and lonely people. Searching for the hope that’s tucked away in you and me. Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see?”
Everyone has gone through a search for self-fulfillment and affection that we don’t always get. Whether we don’t get attention from our family, our friends, or from others in our lives we look to fill those holes in any way possible. We often look to fill the void of the shelter, section, love, and friendship, partnership or relationships that are missing. We look to fill those voids with substances, sex, or alcohol or relationships with people who are bad for us. When we fall for someone who isn’t good for us. We search for someone to help us and save us from ourselves. When someone comes into our lives we expect them to save us. A momentarily lapse in judgment blinds our better judgment and we give ourselves away, because we weren’t thinking clearly, or at all. Does anyone notice the sadness in our eyes, in our voice or even anything that is on our minds? No, people probably won’t, unless you tell them how you feel.
Bridge: “If judgment looms under every steeple. With lofty glances from lofty people, who can’t see past her scarlet letter. And we never even met her. If judgment looms under every steeple. With lofty glances from lofty people who can’t see past her scarlet letter. And we never even met her. Never even met her.”
We can’t judge people when we don’t even know them. Why be like that? We will always get glances from people and starring will always be a factor. If we can’t see past someone’s scarlet letter, then we will be judged in the same way by God, when we get to Heaven.
Chorus: “Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see? Or does anybody even know she’s going down today? Under the shadow of our steeple. With all the lost and lonely people. Searching for the hope that’s tucked away in you and me. Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see? Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see? Or does anybody even know she’s going down today? Under the shadow of our steeple. With all the lost and lonely people. Searching for the hope that’s tucked away in you and me. Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see? He is running a hundred miles an hour in the wrong direction.”
Remember, people will always judge us for the things we do and don’t do. But rather than being judgmental to others, be the person that points people to Christ. God doesn’t judge us for our sins if we ask for forgiveness. We shouldn’t judge others either, just because they sin. After all none of us are perfect.

appreciating everything

Want to have a better life? Change the way you speak about yourself. Change how you think about yourself as well. If you only think negatively about yourself such as “nothing ever goes right for ” or “I’ll never get the job I need,” or “I’ll never be able to do the things I need to do in my life”, or “How will I provide for myself and my family?” Then you will believe you won’t be able to do anything in your life. Don’t let your mind be warped by Satan’s lies. Don’t let yourself believe the lies. You have to start thinking about all the things that will go right in your life as long as you believe in yourself and have a positive mindset. Start saying positive things in your everyday life. Say things such as ” I am blessed loved and I’m God’s child. There is nothing I can’t do with God on my side.” ” God loves me and will give me the tools to be able to do anything in His name and with His guidance.” ” no matter how difficult things look now or how difficult they can get, God will always love me, and He will give me a way out. ”
It is better to speak and think positive about yourself than anything negative. If you speak positive better things will happen. You’ll feel better and have more confidence and faith in yourself. You’ll start to believe the truth about yourself. You’ll start to believe the truth about yourself which is the truth that God has placed in your life. It is better for you to believe God’s truth than to ever believe Satan’s lies.
Start speaking Scripture to yourself daily and pray daily too. Speaking scripture over your life and throughout your day can help you immensely if you struggle with anxiety or fear or depression or anything that causes you to doubt yourself and God’s plan for your life memorizing and reciting scripture over your life can help you keep yourself grounded in your faith walk too. Philippians 4: 6-7 is one of my favorite verses. Philippians 4:6 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” This verse literally reminds us that we don’t have to be anxious about anything. Even though it may seem as though things aren’t going well now, they will get better and we can always turn to God. He doesn’t want us to be anxious or nervous. Instead, He wants us to pray about everything that is happening in our lives. It brings so much more peace after you pray about any situation and have faith that things will work out. His peace is the peace that transcends all human understanding. That is how you know the peace is from God when you don’t fully understand how you feel it, but you know you’re experiencing His true gift of peace.
Another verse to memorize and remind yourself and to speak over yourself is Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” If you’re having a tough time with a task at home or at work, remember who gave you the power within you to do anything you set your mind to in the first place. If you say you can do all things through Him who gives me the strength that I need to do them, and you believe it with your full heart, then even no matter how difficult the task in front of you may seem, you will be able to accomplish it. God wouldn’t allow anyone to see that verse if it wasn’t 100 percent true. All scripture is God ordained and God-breathed.
Praying daily takes a lot of guidance and even more so, a lot of patience and discipline. We often forget to pray because of our hectic schedules. But remember, you don’t always have to pray out loud so that anyone hears you either. In fact, God even urges us to pray to Him in secret, away from the public eye. If we pray in front of people, we are merely looking for anyone to say something good and reward us for praying. We don’t need any reward for praying because the ultimate reward is that God Himself always hears us. You can pray out loud or in your heart and in your head. No prayer towards Him ever goes unheard. It is a constant struggle and takes discipline to remember to pray every day. But, if you start thanking Him and praying about the trivial things that have happened in your everyday life, then it will honestly become way easier to thank Him for the little blessings in your day to day life. Those little blessings often times become the bigger blessings in life. If you learn to thank Him even in your time of need you will find that it is easier to pray even when things are going great. For instance, in my family, I’ve heard both of my parents say, “thank you, Lord.” When they get a good break in between cars when we pull out of one of the side streets. It is little things like that that have helped me see the little blessings.
Try to think of anything that you’re thankful for and say it out loud to yourself every day. Think of even one thing, big or small that you’re thankful for. When you give thanks for the small things and speak positive things about your life, you realize God is good all the time. All the time, God is good. Try speaking positive affirmations about yourself and give thanks in your life more often. It could change your perspective quite a bit.