In my capacity as a Catholic marriage counselor who has done over 10,000 hours of exclusively Catholic counseling since 1999 with a very seriously Catholic population, I can tell you that outward signs of piety speak little to what is in a person’s heart. You would be shocked to know the kinds of things daily communicants, fifteen-decade a day, Eucharistically devoted people are capable of. Just trust me on that one. People–even pious people–are broken people. Sin affects us all. Public piety, and outward compliance with the rituals, guidelines, and requirements of the faith can be an expression of a rightly ordered heart (indeed, a rightly ordered heart must give God his due through such expressions), but we have only to look to scripture and see Jesus’ condemnation of the Phasisees to recognize that there can often be a very dramatic difference between how one looks and how one’s heart is ordered…
and, this, which is very important:
4. Stop putting your faith in people. Even pious people are just people. They will never fail to disappoint you. Only God deserves your admiration and devotion. Only Jesus is your hero. Accept no substitutes.
And I post this, not because I want anyone to take an undue interest in someone’s personal life, but because it seems to fit the discussion brewing here over the past week.