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Being Pleased With Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

In the interest of keeping the Valentine Day energy alive for this entire week, I will be posting messages to stimulate your love for the Queen of Your Self. I recently received this wonderfully refreshing letter from a sister Queen […]

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Valentine Self Care

posted by Donna Henes

In the interest of keeping the Valentine Day energy alive for this entire week, I will be posting messages to stimulate your love for the Queen of Your Self. Today is Valentine’s Day and I am sick. I have been […]

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On Valentines and Vulvas

posted by Donna Henes

From the beginning, women were exalted as the image, the echo, the counterpart companion of the Goddess. Their access to ecstasy, imbued with spiritual significance. As priestesses, they tended the fires and fanned the generative flames from Her sex, the […]

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Women’s Power – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

 Women’s Power – Part 3By Max Dashu Female mavericks were also active in the arts and sciences. The renegade nun Okuni originated the Kabuki theater, from which women were soon banned. In Moorish Spain, the poet Walladah bint-al-Mustakfi rejected the […]

Women’s Power – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Women’s Power – Part 2By Max Dashu There’s a striking interplay between women’s spiritual and political leadership, especially in indigenous societies. I’m thinking of of the Evenki shaman Olga who was both chieftain and religious leader of her Siberian village […]

Women’s Power – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

This article was written by a brilliant colleague, who I very much admire. She founded the Suppressed Histories Archives, an archive of hundreds of thousands of images of women of power throughout the ages and across cultures. The piece is […]

Powerful Words

posted by Donna Henes

Here are some wise words of inspiration in regard to your relationship to power. Take them in and feel their energy work on you. The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.- […]

Tend and Befriend: The Power of Women’s Friendships

posted by Donna Henes

“Men walk, women talk.” The veracity of this the popular saying was recently proved in a landmark study conducted by two women scientists at UCLA. The long-held idea that the familiar “fight or flight” mechanism was the universal human response […]

The Power of a Woman

posted by Donna Henes

We have just surpassed 175 entries! See below for information about a book give away.** Here is another response to my call for ideas and stories about women and power. Thank you, Tiffany. The Power of a WomanBy Tiffany Mitchell […]

Pretty (Damn Powerful) in Pink

posted by Donna Henes

I wrote this for the March 2009 issue of The Queen’s Chronicles. It stirred up quite a bit of interest and two goddess temples, The Goddess Temple of Qrange County in California and the Southern Oregon Temple of the Goddess […]

Women and Soft Power in Business

posted by Donna Henes

 Here is an interesting article from the Harvard Business Review that adds another dimension to this ongoing exploration of women’s relationship to power. Women and Soft Power in BusinessBy Vineet Nayar The leadership of women in politics, business, and society is […]

The Queen: Lioness of the Psyche

posted by Donna Henes

After putting out the call for thoughts and stories about women’s relationship to power, I received this note: Dear Donna, In a marvelous synchronicity, my latest blog post, which came out this morning is about the exact same thing: how […]

I Just Stood Up for Myself

posted by Donna Henes

Here is a response to my request for empowerment stories. Thank you, Mambo Queen, for your candor and your courage. Good for you! I Just Stood Up for Myself…And It Feels GoodBy Mambo Queen My ex-husband has been putting the full-court press […]

The Mighty Queen

posted by Donna Henes

The mighty Queen, the great and wise, brave and compassionate woman ruler, the reigning commander of Her domain, is an expansive, expressive, accessible, energetic archetype who represents a mature female power, authority, responsibility, and influence worthy of our emulation. There […]

What Is Right With You?

posted by Donna Henes

What Is Right With You?By Kim Mailhot, NH So my amazing friend, Paula, from Little Scraps of Magic, is participating in the Reverb10 writing prompt challenge to examine your 2010 and to set intentions and focus for the New 2011 year […]

Imagine A Woman

posted by Donna Henes

The last line of yesterday’s post, “The Decade of the Woman is Upon Us,” was “I’m imagining a world run cooperatively by conscious men and women. How about you?” What a wonderful segue to this well known and well loved […]

The Decade of the Woman Is Upon Us – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

The Decade of the Woman Is Upon Us – ContinuedBy Marcia Reynolds Men created the companies, the leadership models and the systems that are breaking down in today’s world. Here in the United States, the rate of change is so […]

The Decade of the Woman Is Upon Us

posted by Donna Henes

As we embark on a new decade, let us make resolutions to live in our sovereign strength. Let us claim, embrace and use our considerable power to create a world that is safe, sane, compassionate and sustainable. The article below […]

The Queen You Are

posted by Donna Henes

Yesterday I posted the glorious “A Creed For Free Women” by Elsa Gidlow. The subtitle is “(and such men as feel happy with it.)” As it happens, many men feel happy with it. Real men, that is. Men who are […]

The More Queenly I Become

posted by Donna Henes

Another post in the series of pieces about women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth. If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story. And many thanks to those of you who […]

A Woman Recognizes Potential in Herself

posted by Donna Henes

For the rest of the week, I will continue posting stories of and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth. If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story. And many […]

I Envision Only Positive Outcomes Today

posted by Donna Henes

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories of and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth. If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story. […]

The Power Of Awakening Your Authentic Soul

posted by Donna Henes

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth. If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story […]

True to Myself

posted by Donna Henes

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth. If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story.  […]

Confidence Queen

posted by Donna Henes

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth. If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story. Confidence […]

The One Flaw In Women

posted by Donna Henes

Women have strengths that amaze men….. They bear hardships and they carry burdens,but they hold happiness, love and joy.They smile when they want to scream.They sing when they want to cry.They cry when they are happyand laugh when they are […]

Native Sheros – Part 5

posted by Donna Henes

On Thanksgiving, we always tell the story about how the native people helped the pilgrims to survive and ultimately thrive in the new world. This is well and good, but there are so many other inspiring stories that could be […]

Native Sheros – Part 4

posted by Donna Henes

On Thanksgiving, we always tell the story about how the native people helped the pilgrims to survive and ultimately thrive in the new world. This is well and good, but there are so many other inspiring stories that could be […]

Native Sheros – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

On Thanksgiving, we always tell the story about how the native people helped the pilgrims to survive and ultimately thrive in the new world. This is well and good, but there are so many other inspiring stories that could be […]

Native Sheros – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

On Thanksgiving, we always tell the story about how the native people helped the pilgrims to survive and ultimately thrive in the new world. This is well and good, but there are so many other inspiring stories that could be […]

Native Sheros – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

On Thanksgiving, we always tell the story about how the native people helped the pilgrims to survive and ultimately thrive in the new world. This is well and good, but there are so many other inspiring stories that could be […]

The Queen of Thanksgiving

posted by Donna Henes

Sarah Josepha Hale was born on a farm in 1788 in Newport, New Hampshire. Her early education was provided by her mother and her brother Horatio who taught her what he had learned at Dartmouth. Later on, Hale was self-taught. […]

Two Queen Events of Interest

posted by Donna Henes

Many women send me announcements of upcoming events and occasionally one or two stand out as being of special interest to Queens. Here are two events, both taking place on December 2, 2010. One is in Brooklyn, NY and the […]

Farewell to the Chief Queen

posted by Donna Henes

In honor of Aung San Suu Kyi and to celebrate her release, and with a nod to Election Day, this week’s theme is admirable women leaders of democracy. Farewell to the Chief Queen Wilma Mankiller the first female Chief of […]

The Queen Who Would be President – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

In honor of Aung San Suu Kyi and to celebrate her release, and with a nod to Election Day, this week’s theme is admirable women leaders of democracy. The Queen Who Would be President – Part 1 Victoria Woodhull lived […]

Tribute to the Queen of a Democratic Dream

posted by Donna Henes

In honor of Aung San Suu Kyi and to celebrate her release, and with a nod to Election Day, this week’s theme is admirable women leaders of democracy. Benazir Bhutto  June 21, 1953 – December 27, 2007 Benazir Bhutto, twice […]

Hail The Martyr Queen of Myanmar

posted by Donna Henes

On Saturday, Aung San Suu Kyi, the Burmese human rights and democracy leader, Nobel Peace Prize Laureate and folk shero was released from the house arrest in Myanmar that has kept her a prisoner for much of the last twenty […]

Being Pleased With Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

I recently received this wonderfully refreshing letter from a sister Queen who is definitely pleased with her Self: …Despite the anticipation and the promise of something potentially special, he was not attractive to me. And I think that’s important — […]

Mirror, Mirror

posted by Donna Henes

Like most women, I can’t help but notice the parts of myself that have slumped and sagged as I’ve aged. The bags under my eyes now have over-night valises of their own. The veins in my legs and on the […]

Slow Dancing with the Queens

posted by Donna Henes

Here are some stunning Queens of a certain age, dancing from deep within their souls. These sinuous, sensual women move the way water does. Or silk charmeuse. In waves of slow flow like lava. Fiery molasses. Their ecstatic expressions are […]

Queen of Bellies and Shimmies

posted by Donna Henes

This week’s theme is Dancing Queens. And Crones. My friend Kay is the official folklorist of Brooklyn. A couple of years ago she organized a month long Arab music festival. One of the evenings was a belly dance extravaganza, which […]

Electric Crone

posted by Donna Henes

This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. Electric Crone The brain, the mind, is said to be our most sensitive sexual organ and I have come to absolutely believe it. […]

Red Hot Queen Mama

posted by Donna Henes

 This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. Red Hot Queen Mama The more competent I became in navigating and negotiating the maze of my life, the more practiced and commanding, […]

The Queen of Hearts

posted by Donna Henes

This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. The Queen of Hearts Eventually, time and the winds and storms of my maternal years weathered my once-sumptuous bloom. The galloping growth of […]

Mama Donna: Me as Mother

posted by Donna Henes

This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. Mama Donna: Me as Mother And then, a remarkable thing happened. This Ugly Duckling grew and changed, as if magically transformed. The more […]

Myself as Maiden

posted by Donna Henes

This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. Myself as Maiden I have pretty much always had a current love interest, a paramour, an inamorata-of-the-moment in my life. Ever since elementary […]

The Queen Uses Trouble Well

posted by Donna Henes

Here are selected comments from a discussion on The Queen of My Self Facebook page.http://blog.beliefnet.com/thequeenofmyself/ Q: The Queen does not invite hard times and trouble, but She chooses to use them well. Suffering is the midwife of compassion. – Queen […]

Protest is Good for You

posted by Donna Henes

The media likes to portray peace, environment and human and animal rights protesters as a fringe element of whining malcontents teetering on the margins of proper society. The truth is that those who step forward to speak their minds are […]

The Queen’s Court

posted by Donna Henes

Look below for The Queen of My Self book giveaway offer.* For more than five years I have been traveling with The Queen of My Self through nineteen states and three countries, meeting and talking with several thousand women and […]

Summer Before the Dark

posted by Donna Henes

Doris Lessing’s wonderful book, Summer Before the Dark is as insightful, articulate, and compassionate an account of the process of a midlife woman’s transformation into the Queen of Her Self that I have ever read. She was 64 when it […]

Terms Of Endearment Or Disrespect? – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Here are more responses from readers to Natalie Angier’s article “Just Don’t Call Me …,” (New York Times, Week in Review, Aug. 29, 2010): To the Editor:Having said “ma’am” all my life to be polite, I read “Just Don’t Call […]

Terms Of Endearment Or Disrespect? – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

Continuing from yesterday, here are responses from readers to Natalie Angier’s article “Just Don’t Call Me …,” (New York Times, Week in Review, Aug. 29, 2010): To the Editor:I have to wonder how many women surveyed in your “completely unscientific […]

The Politics of Polite – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Continued from yesterday, Just Don’t Call Me …By Natalie Angier If ma’am is meant as a verbal genuflection to power, the message is lost on many real-life powerful women, like Senator Barbara Boxer, who told a brigadier general to refer […]

The Politics of Polite – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

The following article by Natalie Angier appeared in the New York Times last month. It certainly struck a chord in me. Or should I say, a sore point? Just Don’t Call Me …By Natalie Angier Classes are now underway at […]

Your Thoughts on Aging

posted by Donna Henes

Between this blog, The Facebook The Queen of My Self fan page and my monthly Ezine, The Queen’s Chronicles, I get a lot of comments from women everywhere who are transitioning into their own powerful potential as a fully sovereign […]

What Do You Need to Release?

posted by Donna Henes

What do you need to let go of? I asked this question to the many Queens who have joined the Facebook page of The Queen of My Self. Q. What have you have already released and what do you still […]

African Queen

posted by Donna Henes

    Perhaps nowhere in history were women held in higher standing and regard than in Mama Africa, the birthplace of humanity and the world’s first great civilizations, with its preponderance of matriarchal and matrilineal societies. “You know that in […]

New Declarations of Queendom

posted by Donna Henes

Here are some recent Declarations of Queendom from readers of this blog, as well as The Queen of My Self Facebook page and my monthly Ezine, The Queen’s Chronicles. Hail to the Queens! New Declarations of Queendom: Love, love, love […]

Daughters of the Witching Hill

posted by Donna Henes

Last month I took a much-needed vacation in a small cabin on the Maine Coast where I did very little besides sleep, dream, read and eat for an entire week. I read four books in six days from my overgrown […]

The Purposeful Queen

posted by Donna Henes

From Rosemary Lichtman and Phyllis Goldberg:   Please join us anytime on Wednesday, August 25, when Donna Henes stops by our blog, www.NourishingRelationships.blogspot.com. Mama Donna, as she is affectionately called, is an internationally acclaimed spiritual teacher, popular speaker, and award-winning […]

Empowerment

posted by Donna Henes

Several weeks ago I asked the question “What does power mean to you?” This piece about the empowerment of women was sent to me by Kali Fyre, a sister Queen and reader of The Queen of My Self. It is […]

Astro Queen

posted by Donna Henes

CONGRATULATIONS!!! To the 3 winners of the Third Anniversary Book Give Away: Linda Null, North CarolinaKali Frye, New HampshireMeredith Sterling, Texas *** Astro Queen Hypatia of Alexandria was a brilliant, eloquent and beautiful Hellenized Egyptian philosopher, mathematician, astronomer, astrologer and […]

What Do You Need to Release?

posted by Donna Henes

What do you need to let go of? I asked this question to the many Queens who have joined the Facebook page of The Queen of My Self.* Here are some of their responses: Q. What have you have already […]

Saving Mother Earth

posted by Donna Henes

SAVING MOTHER EARTHby Mary Saracino A single day in April isn’t enoughto honor our Mother, save the planetthat is her body, restore her ocean womb,revitalize the atrophied arms and legsof her continents, remove the smogfrom her pristine lungs, replenish all […]

More Eco Sheros

posted by Donna Henes

 Wherever I travel there is always some sort of local environmental nightmare, be it chemical waste, medical waste, nuclear waste or garbage waste. And wherever I travel there is always a women, usually a woman of a certain age, who […]

Eco Sheros

posted by Donna Henes

These Queenly Eco Sheros are amazing women, all. They  inspire me. I hope they inspire you, too: Wangari Maathai, Kenya (1940-) Environmentalist and Nobel Peace Prize winner Wangari Maathai founded the Green Belt movement in Kenya In 1977, in response […]

Eco Shero Foremothers

posted by Donna Henes

I have always believed that if it is at all possible to save our planet Earth from the destruction that we have wreaked upon Her, that if it isn’t already too late, then it is we — women of a […]

Queens Everywhere

posted by Donna Henes

One third of all women in America are over the age of fifty, and one woman reaches that milestone every seven and a half seconds. Climacteric women, more than fifty million strong, now comprise the single largest population segment of […]

Haiti’s Fallen Queens

posted by Donna Henes

The 2010 earthquake claimed the lives of three of Haiti’s most prominent sheroes of women’s rights. Myriam Merlet, Magalie Marcelin and Anne Marie Coriolan, founders of three of the country’s most important advocacy organizations working on behalf of women and […]

More Creole Queens

posted by Donna Henes

Two more inspiring Creole Queens: Esther Boucicault HIV/AIDS Activist Born in Saint-Marc in 1960, Boucicault was diagnosed as HIV positive in 1995. Following the AIDS death of her husband and her son, who was born HIV positive, she decided to […]

Creole Queens

posted by Donna Henes

Here are two of the Queens of Haiti who walk in the footsteps of Queen Anacaona: Yvonne Hakim Rimpel Feminist, Journalist Born in Port-au-Prince in 1906, Rimpel was a founder of the first Haitian feminist organization, the Women’s League for […]

Golden Flower Queen of Hispaniola

posted by Donna Henes

All eyes have been on Haiti of late six months after the deadly earthquake. Our hearts go out to those who have lost so much, especially those who had so very little to begin with. Many of us have thought […]

What Does Power Mean To You?

posted by Donna Henes

With the question of power — its uses and abuses — on my mind, I reached out to the Facebook fans of The Queen of My Self to see what power means to other Queens of Themselves. Q. What does […]

The Powerful Queen

posted by Donna Henes

After an inevitable midlife transition period of feeling lost, confused and out of control of Her destiny, the Queen finally takes charge. She steps up to the situations of Her life and takes back the reins of Her power. Or […]

American Queens

posted by Donna Henes

There have been notable Queens in more recent times, as well. Eleanor Roosevelt, a shy, self-conscious, and naturally retiring woman, was thrust feet first into the limelight when she became First Lady of the United States in 1933 at the […]

African Queen

posted by Donna Henes

     Perhaps nowhere in history were women held in higher standing and regard than in Mama Africa, the birthplace of humanity and the world’s first great civilizations, with its preponderance of matriarchal and matrilineal societies. “You know that in […]

I Like Myself!

posted by Donna Henes

Despite the rude awakenings, the unsettling physical and emotional chaos of midlife and all of its frightful, presumed ramifications, an amazing number of women find this stage to be the most personally fulfilling and satisfying of their lives so far. […]

A Call to Queendom

posted by Donna Henes

I am delighted to share this article with you sent in by a sister Queen. Greetings, Queen Donna, First, a note of thanks for the work you’ve done, bringing the Queen into so many women’s consciousness. It’s such important work! […]

Declarations of Queendom

posted by Donna Henes

I have taken this ongoing discussion about the definitions and descriptions of Queendom to The Queen of My Self Page on Facebook.  Q. What does being a Queen mean to you ? A. As a little girl I wondered what […]

Now it is My Turn!

posted by Donna Henes

During the decades of our Maiden and Motherhood, women grow to meet all of our many demanding responsibilities. Like the moon that can’t keep getting fuller and fuller with no retreat, we can take on only so much before exploding […]

Sacred Seclusion: A Meditation on My Self

posted by Donna Henes

Soul searching, like the practice of any devotion, requires solitude, quiet and quality time. But life is hectic and our inner needs have often been relegated to the bottom of our endless to-do lists, our dreams and desires deferred, left […]

The Queen Suggests A Mirror Meditation

posted by Donna Henes

Certainly the most crucial step toward sovereignty is to know our Selves. After all our years as mothers and others, we need to reestablish who we are as individuals, separate and distinct from our relationships with those around us. Who […]

How to Become The Queen of Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

The idea that we might be Queens is intoxicating. Ever since I first started introducing The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women in my workshops and articles some eight years ago, I have received thousands of requests for […]

Mother Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

  What an extraordinarily exciting and gorgeous time of the year spring is. Life is bursting out all over. Buds, blossoms and babies everywhere! Is it any wonder that May is the month of the Goddess? And of the Mother? […]

The Queen as an Empowering Model for Midlife Women

posted by Donna Henes

Who are we supposed to be at this stage of our life when we are less likely to be bound and identified by our kinship connection to someone else — as a daughter, a wife, a mother, a lover? What […]

An Archetype For Us

posted by Donna Henes

What is an archetype? The literal definition of archetype is “the original pattern or model from which all things of a similar kind are copied or on which they are based; a model or first form; a prototype. Archetype also […]

The Full Spirited Four-Fold Goddess

posted by Donna Henes

Contrary to the assumptions of many women, the Triple Goddess model is not universal, nor is it really historical. In fact, the so-called ancient paradigm that enjoys so much popularity today is actually not quite as old as I am! […]

On Finding Myself Middle Aged With No Role Model I Could Relate To Because I Am Not a Crone

posted by Donna Henes

Although I have been passionately devoted to the Many Splendored Goddess in Her complex multiplicity for more than thirty years now, I am not a believer in the Triple Goddess paradigm. It has never resonated with me because it belies […]

Calling All Queens

posted by Donna Henes

Are you in your middle years or about to enter them? Are you living your true potential and following your fondest dreams? If not, why not? And if not now, when? Now is the time to leave behind old patterns […]

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Spring Cleaning
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