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Field Notes on an Empty Nest

posted by Donna Henes

By Cindy La Ferle (www.laferle.com) Last week I found an empty bird’s nest on the brick walk leading to our backyard. I’m guessing the nest fell from a nearby silver maple; or maybe a neighbor found it while jogging and […]

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Full disclosure: I’ve been suffering from Empty Next Syndrome

posted by Donna Henes

By Wendi Knox I know this isn’t a condition that’s commonly discussed. A) Because it’s so uncomfortable. B) Because I just made it up. Of course, there’s lots of talk about “empty nests. ” But you don’t need to be […]

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Mom Dreads

posted by Donna Henes

By Tracey Barnes Priestley For the Times-Standard Dear Tracey: My only child leaves for college in a few weeks. I couldn’t be happier for her. She has worked hard in school and is going off to the college of her […]

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Queen Mother’s Day

posted by Donna Henes

What an extraordinarily exciting and gorgeous time of the year spring is. Life is bursting out all over. Buds, blossoms, and babies everywhere! Is it any wonder that May is the month of the Mother? Mothers are the progenitors of […]

Saving Mother Earth

posted by Donna Henes

by Mary Saracino A single day in April isn’t enough to honor our Mother, save the planet that is her body, restore her ocean womb, revitalize the atrophied arms and legs of her continents, remove the smog from her pristine […]

Forgiveness

posted by Donna Henes

–from The Gift of Years by Joan Chittister (BlueBridge) The unselfish generosity of forgiveness is a myth. Forgiveness is more important to the one who forgives than it is to the one who is forgiven. Bitterness, once it sinks like […]

Mining For Meaning

posted by Donna Henes

The shamanic assumption from which I operate is that every person has her own significant mission in this lifetime: her own path, her own dreams, her own symbols and sensibilities, her own visions and designs, her own way of learning, […]

Nature, Our Mother

posted by Donna Henes

In the beginning, there was woman. And she was versatile. She breathed, she stretched, she strode, she sat, she foraged, she trapped, she planted, she cooked, she ate, she bled, she danced, she laughed, she slept, she dreamed, she played, […]

Saving Mother Earth

posted by Donna Henes

A poem by Mary Saracino Mary Saracino is a novelist, poet and memoir-writer who lives in Denver , Colorado. This compassionate and articulate sister Queen calls herself Queen Mary Immaculata. A single day in April isn’t enough to honor our […]

In the Dark

posted by Donna Henes

Simple as it may seem, when the lights go out, we simply lose our bearings. The density of the dark makes it impossible for us to fix our positions anymore. We find ourselves alone in the universe, untethered and unprepared. […]

This Night We Light

posted by Donna Henes

by Judyth Hill the first of 8: A Miracle…Let there…beeeeeeeeeee……Love! And there is! Fire is our human gift: the Holy makes Light, and a World …and our job: Making Love shine back! First candle says, We Love. Second, side by […]

Earth Speaks to Those Who Listen

posted by Donna Henes

Thank you Queen Elizabeth Hazel from Toledo, Ohio for sending this most beautiful poem. Earth Speaks By Elizabeth Hazel www.kozmic-kitchen.com Earth speaks to those who listen: Maternal lectures in shades of green, Sisterly riddles in coy lagoons and comic swamps, […]

Potlatch – Encouraging Generosity

posted by Donna Henes

A potlatch encourages the flow of resources in a community and reaffirms the importance of community ties. We can learn much from the Native American tradition of the potlatch. It is a tradition that values generosity above all else, and […]

Gratitude

posted by Donna Henes

When we expand and grow and the situations of our lives start to flow, when the going is good and the living gets easier, it seems only natural to be thankful. But what about all those times when nothing seems […]

The Universal Golden Rule

posted by Donna Henes

Most of us were raised with some version of The Golden Rule. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” “Love thy neighbor as thyself.” The Golden Rule teaches that we should treat others as we, ourselves, […]

Broken Heart Work

posted by Donna Henes

A Message for those doing the hard work of heart work… by Shiloh McCloud When everything you think you know changes what do you do then? When all that you dreamed you might cause shifts what do you dream then? […]

A Message of Peace

posted by Donna Henes

I have an outgoing message on my answering machine that doesn’t even say, “Hello.” It just starts right in with, “You know there really is still a chance for peace and that chance will definitely increase if we each do […]

Maenad Prophecy

posted by Donna Henes

When kings wage unjust war, When poison fills the skies, When the rich prey on the poor, When hope for justice dies When a spell lies o’er the land, Of malice and of lies, Then a wild and fearless band […]

Imperfection

posted by Donna Henes

by Sister Joan Chittister “This is the very perfection of a person, to find out our own imperfections.” –Saint Augustine Humanity is a mixture of blunders. That’s what makes it so charming, so interesting to be around. Because none of us […]

Seeds of a New Humanity

posted by Donna Henes

By Joan Chittister The mystic Julian of Norwich, holding an acorn in her hand in the fourteenth century said of it, “In this is all that is.” The Earth shakes at the thought of the simple truth of it. In […]

I AM – A Poem

posted by Donna Henes

I am the creative fire that connects all humanity to the source of life. I reside gently and timidly in receptacles of unborn potential and I wait patiently to be heard, seen, expressed and shared. I don’t know when my […]

Letting Go of All that Does Not Serve

posted by Donna Henes

On my birthday this year, a friend presented me with a gorgeous amber necklace that she had gotten in Russia twenty years ago before she immigrated to the United States. Though she felt that it did not suit her, she […]

I Want to Be a Crone — Someday

posted by Donna Henes

My maternal Grandmother died at 80. This was pretty old in her day. My mother died just short of her 80th birthday, which pains me still. She was not old. She did not look or act old. But she felt […]

Empresses of Influence

posted by Donna Henes

The Queen is a mature woman who has conquered the challenges in Her life and claimed Her own royal power. She cuts through fear and ambivalence, takes charge, and establishes Herself as the sole ruler of Her Self. She has […]

Finding the Way Home to My Self

posted by Donna Henes

It wasn’t any kind of special moment when it happened. It wasn’t my birthday, for instance, or an anniversary of anything. It wasn’t even a family reunion or a great community event. I was just sitting somewhere, gazing into space, […]

Lost and Found

posted by Donna Henes

Aging and changing might be inevitable, but they ain’t easy. They precipitate in us a great uncertainty. The myriad dramatic disturbances of modern middle life — menopause, health concerns, career shifts, the empty nest, divorce and death — create an […]

Soul Friends

posted by Donna Henes

I love working and playing in groups of women. I was never in a college sorority, so my first experience was in the feminist consciousness-raising group that I joined in the late 1960s. And what an eye-opening, empowering experience it […]

Ecosexuality

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content! ECOSEX MANIFESTO By Elizabeth M. Stephens & […]

Praise the Queen of the Sun

posted by Donna Henes

Praise to the Goddess Sun — Our Lady For She has been born From out the Womb of Self Her Mother And She has danced and played Amongst the flowers And She has grown to bleed And fertilize the Earth […]

Solar Goddesses

posted by Donna Henes

In archaic times, people perceived the sun, in its shining prime and glory, the giver of heat and light and life, to be the effulgent force of the female. A passionate aspect of the Great Mother, the versatile Jill-of-All-Trades who […]

Treading the Turbulent Midlife Waters – PART 2

posted by Donna Henes

The notion that 50 years of age could be considered a “halfway” mark is unprecedented in history. We are blessed with an inestimable gift of many more years of life than anyone who ever lived on Earth before us could […]

Treading the Turbulent Midlife Waters – PART 1

posted by Donna Henes

Aging and changing might be inevitable, but it ain’t easy. It precipitates in us a great uncertainty. The myriad dramatic disturbances of modern middle life — menopause, health concerns, the empty nest, divorce, death, and career shifts — create an […]

Blessed Bees

posted by Donna Henes

For years, there has been a certain auspicious day every spring when a bumblebee would fly onto my terrace garden where it would hover contentedly everyday, all day long, throughout the entire summer, until a certain day in autumn when […]

Tips on How to Breeze Through Middle Age – PART 2

posted by Donna Henes

With a bit of self-love and motivation, midlife can be a time for big positive changes. Here is a bit of advice from Best Knickers Always by Rebecca Perkins   We all have a choice We always have a choice […]

Daily Rituals for Self-Empowerment

posted by Donna Henes

By Dr. Carmen Harra http://www.carmenharra.com Daily life can drag us down and make us weary of our circumstances. The repetition of routine becomes mundane and mediocre, and we often wonder where to turn for a bit of liberating distraction. Falling […]

Deciding Times

posted by Donna Henes

It is so damn easy to feel depressed, frustrated and disillusioned right now. These are terrible times of artificial division, manipulated resentment and palpable fear. The real dynamic being played out right now is not about warring religious, economic or […]

The Great and Wise Queen

posted by Donna Henes

The mighty Queen, the great and wise, brave and compassionate woman ruler, the reigning commander of Her domain, is an expansive, expressive, accessible, energetic archetype who represents a mature female power, authority, responsibility and influence worthy of our emulation. There […]

The Sovereignty of Women

posted by Donna Henes

If you have not already gobbled up the books in The Maeve Chronicles by Elizabeth Cunningham, I urge you to do so instantly. The trilogy begins with The Passion of Mary Magdalene, which is a wonderful re-envisioning of Mary Magdlene […]

Embrace Your Majesty

posted by Donna Henes

Since I started my Midlife Midwife™ practice, I have received many requests for detailed instructions on how to become a Queen. “Dear Mama Donna,” women would write, “I want to be a Queen, too. How do I access my power? […]

Queen of All That is Imperfect

posted by Donna Henes

Just a few days ago I wrote, “The word ‘practice’ also serves to remind us that there is no perfect. Whether we maintain a spiritual practice, a creative practice or a professional practice, we are always in the process of […]

Noting the Process

posted by Donna Henes

The mental part of our Self is not satisfied with simply accessing our intentions and motives. Our minds want to know what they mean and how they affect us. Our conscious, rational aspect craves order, information, comprehension. We humans seem […]

Digging Deep

posted by Donna Henes

The shamanic assumption from which I operate is that every person has her own significant mission in this lifetime: her own path, her own dreams, her own symbols and sensibilities, her own visions and designs, her own way of learning, […]

Greeting To the Women of My Tribe

posted by Donna Henes

First, a note of thanks for the work you’ve done, bringing the Queen into so many women’s consciousness. It’s such important work! Thank you. I have been pondering the Queen aspect for some time now. I wrote this piece and […]

Loving Affirmation of My Self

posted by Donna Henes

I am a divine and beautiful being. I choose to live each moment with appreciation and complete acceptance of my own divinity and beauty. I choose to appreciate and accept the beauty in all beings and the perfect divinity in […]

Coming Home to Our Self

posted by Donna Henes

Here is a piece by Sister Joan Chittister, the popular Catholic spiritual writer. It landed propitiously in my mailbox whilst I was in the midst of working on these recent posts on the Self. http://www.benetvision.org/ Good timing, Sister Queen! Coming […]

What Does Being a Queen Mean to You?

posted by Donna Henes

Some time ago, I asked the Queens on my Facebook page what being a Queen meant to them.  Q. What does being a Queen mean to you? A. As a little girl I wondered what it would be like to be […]

Decide to Take Charge

posted by Donna Henes

You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame. – Erica Jong   The story of our lives is ours to create. We can design our own roles and ideals, compose […]

Wise Words for Our Self

posted by Donna Henes

Several of my recent posts have been about the Self, including “What Exactly is the Self?” in which I wrote, “The Self is the sum of all of our parts, and holistically, it is greater than the sum of all […]

Benefits of Age

posted by Donna Henes

Aging and changing might be inevitable, but they ain’t easy. They precipitate in us a great uncertainty. The myriad dramatic disturbances of modern middle life — menopause, health concerns, career shifts, the empty nest, divorce and death — create an […]

Long Live the Queen

posted by Donna Henes

The notion that fifty years of age could be considered a “halfway” mark is unprecedented. For most of human existence, life expectancy hovered at around twenty to thirty years, and it was only by 1800 that folks commonly began to […]

A Time For Me

posted by Donna Henes

During the decades of our Maiden and Motherhood, women grow to meet all of our many demanding responsibilities. Like the moon that can’t keep getting fuller and fuller with no retreat, we can take on only so much before exploding […]

My Mother the Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Unlike my grandmother who personified the archetypal transition from Motherhood to Cronedom at menopause, her daughter, my mother, was a Queen long before her time. Her story is quite a common one now, shared by many millions of women, but […]

Mother Queen

posted by Donna Henes

What an extraordinarily exciting and gorgeous time of the year spring is. Life is bursting out all over. Buds, blossoms and babies everywhere! Is it any wonder that May is the month of the Goddess? And of the Mother? Like […]

A Self-Meditation

posted by Donna Henes

Soul searching, like the practice of any devotion, requires solitude, quiet and quality time. But life is hectic and our inner needs have often been relegated to the bottom of our endless to-do lists, our dreams and desires deferred, left […]

It Can Be Hard to Be a Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Coming from the tough love school of spiritual counseling as I do, I feel that it is only fair to warn you — There are no 10 Easy Steps to Sovereignty. The roads leading to Queendom are diverse and many. […]

Mirror, Mirror

posted by Donna Henes

Certainly the most crucial step toward sovereignty is to know our Selves. After all our years as mothers and others, we need to reestablish who we are as individuals, separate and distinct from our relationships with those around us. Who […]

Steps to Sovereignty

posted by Donna Henes

The idea that we might be Queens is intoxicating. Ever since I first started introducing The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women in my workshops and articles some eight years ago, I have received thousands of requests for […]

The Self Defined

posted by Donna Henes

The Self, according to Carl Jung, is the center, the midpoint of the personality, the crossroads where our personal and collective, conscious and unconscious processes intersect. The Self encompasses the totality of who we are. It is, he writes, “A […]

I Will Be a Crone When I Am Ready

posted by Donna Henes

My maternal Grandmother died at 80. This was pretty old in her day. My mother died just short of her 80th birthday, which pains me still. She was not old. She did not look or act old. But she felt […]

Embracing Age

posted by Donna Henes

As we age, we naturally change. Change, after all, is the essential stuff of life. If we embrace it with magnanimous grace and good humor, as part and parcel of the ongoing mythic adventure of our path, we stand to […]

Self-Care

posted by Donna Henes

Recently one of my Midlife Midwife™ Counseling clients called me in hysterics from the supermarket. This was her first shopping excursion since her last child left home. She had been long divorced and now her nest was completely empty. As […]

The Queen in Your Inbox

posted by Donna Henes

I am about to publish the 67th issue of The Queen’s Chronicles, the monthly ezine that offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial inspiration for all women who want to enjoy the fruits of an influential, passionate and powerful maturity. Each issue […]

A Mature Role Model

posted by Donna Henes

Who are we supposed to be at this stage of our life when we are less likely to be bound and identified by our kinship connection to someone else — as a daughter, a wife, a mother, a lover? What […]

An Archetype That Fits

posted by Donna Henes

What is an archetype? The literal definition of archetype is “the original pattern or model from which all things of a similar kind are copied or on which they are based; a model or first form; a prototype. Archetype also […]

Ancient 4 Fold Goddesses

posted by Donna Henes

A life-long lover of the moon, I live in a constant state of lunar awareness and I attend to the process of my life and living in conscious accordance with the cycle of its four phases. It has long troubled […]

The Goddess With 4 Faces

posted by Donna Henes

Contrary to the assumptions of many women, the Triple Goddess model is not universal, nor is it really historical. In fact, the so-called ancient paradigm that enjoys so much popularity today is actually not quite as old as I am! […]

Who Am I Now?

posted by Donna Henes

  Who Am I Now? Although I have been passionately devoted to the Many Splendored Goddess in Her complex multiplicity for more than thirty years now, I am not a believer in the Triple Goddess paradigm. It has never resonated […]

Let Your Power Out!

posted by Donna Henes

    Many of you have, I am sure, come across this fabulous writing many times. It speaks to the heart of the matter of women’s dysfunctional relationship to our own power. In my spiritual counseling as a Midlife Midwife™ […]

Balanced Empowerment

posted by Donna Henes

Empowerment Several time ago I asked the question “What does power mean to you?” This piece about the empowerment of women was sent to me by Kali Fyre, a sister Queen and reader of The Queen of My Self. It […]

Coming Home to the Self

posted by Donna Henes

Speaking of  Self-Sovereignty, here is a piece by Sister Joan Chittister, the popular Catholic spiritual writer. It landed propitiously in my mailbox whilst I was in the midst of working on these recent posts on the Self. Good timing, Sister […]

Go Light-Footed Through Life

posted by Donna Henes

Go Light-Footed Through Life by Sister Joan Chittister There is a deer in me—made for running, for scampering while the rest of the world around me walks. I am made to find and drink from foreign streams. I am meant […]

My Morning ME time

posted by Donna Henes

Busy, busy, busy Queens are we. As much as I adore my work, I sometimes find it frustrating. Often my to-do list is longer at the end of the day than it was when I started in the morning. I […]

‘Midlife Crisis’ Can Become ‘Midlife Opportunity’

posted by Donna Henes

 ‘Midlife Crisis’ Can Become ‘Midlife Opportunity’ By Maggie Lamond Simone      “What do you want to do with your life?” It’s a question I ask my college students this time of year to help them define their goals, and I’m […]

Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 2 by Aleta Pippin Myth #3 You Will Become Crabby and Self-absorbed Some people are just plain rude and as they get older, they use their age as an excuse to […]

7 Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

7  Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 1 by Aleta Pippin When I was 18, I thought I’d know everything. In my 20’s I thought I had to wear my hair above my jaw line to look […]

The Ageing Brain Doesn’t Need To Wane

posted by Donna Henes

We expect our mental faculties to dwindle as we grow older, but a new book suggests it is not inevitable, writes Sylvia Thompson in her book, The Secret Life of the Grown-Up Brain. The popular view of growing old is […]

Tend and Befriend

posted by Donna Henes

“Men walk, women talk.” The veracity of this the popular saying was recently proved in a landmark study conducted by two women scientists at UCLA. The long-held idea that the familiar “fight or flight“ mechanism was the universal human response […]

Back in the Saddle With Gratitude

posted by Donna Henes

Dear Sister Queens, I am back. Again! What a few months this has been. First I was out for weeks dealing with the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy. And then I was felled by a super nasty flu. I am fine […]

Wise Words of Self-Wisdom

posted by Donna Henes

Here are some words of Self-wisdom by some very wise women: “We have all a better guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be.” – Jane Austen   “Doubt yourself and you doubt […]

Resolutions for Self Care

posted by Donna Henes

  Like the excellent mother, creator, organizer, administrator, mentor you are, be patient with yourself. Change is slow and you are human. Think about your daily habits. Are they healthy? Are they helpful? What improvements might you make in your […]

New Year Self Care

posted by Donna Henes

  A new year is a new start and so many of us resolve to make healthy changes in our daily lives. But so often these resolutions are goals having to do with what we know we should do. And […]

A Vision for Humanity

posted by Donna Henes

A Vision for Humanity in 2013 By Barbara Marx Hubbard Humanity is facing unprecedented, evolutionary changes. It is amazing—out of the famous Mayan prophecy has come the indication that we are facing the end of this world as we know […]

I Am the New Year

posted by Donna Henes

Dear Sister Queens, I am back! I took a leave of absence to deal with the immediate and then the long-term effects of Hurricane Sandy. I am glad to say that all is well with me now. And I am […]

The One Flaw In Women

posted by Donna Henes

The One Flaw In Women   Women have strengths that amaze men….. They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy. They smile when they want to scream. They sing when they want to cry. They […]

The Blessing of Not Being Perfect

posted by Donna Henes

  The blessing of not being perfect  by Sister Joan Chittister   Humanity is a mixture of blunders. That’s what makes it so charming, so interesting to be around. Because none of us is complete, we all need one another. […]

The Midlife Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Who are we supposed to be at this stage of our life when we are less likely to be bound and identified by our kinship connection to someone else — as a daughter, a wife, a mother, a lover? What […]

Redefining Midlife Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  This article is by my friend and colleague, Barbara Bizou.     Redefining Midlife Part 2 The good news is that we can take this opportunity to look at life in a new and fresh way. This is a […]

Redefining Midlife Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  This article is by my friend and colleague, Barbara Bizou.     Redefining Midlife Part 1 “Since you don’t know when the end is going to be how can you figure out what mid-life is.” – Julia Riva We, […]

Advice From a Wise One

posted by Donna Henes

Here is some wisdom from the fabulous Maya Angelou:   EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE…   One old love she can imagine going back to… and one who reminds her how far she has come… enough money within her control to […]

What Are Your Saving It For?

posted by Donna Henes

As daughters, as wives, as mothers, as lovers, as workers, as bosses, we have catered to the care and upkeep of people, pets, professions, and projects. Most of us have spent decades devoting our best efforts to making life better […]

My Own Best Friend

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Another Valentine Message

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Hard Work of Heart Work

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

A Place Called “Home”

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Have A Love Affair With Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Self Love Quotes

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

We Like Ourselves!

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Feed Your Self with Love

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Love Your Self Now

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Self-Care

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Be Good To You

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

A Day in Bed Ritual

posted by Donna Henes

I am back! I ran away from home, as it were. I was so OVER everything — over-worked, over-committed, over-tired, over-whelmed, over-weight, completely overcome with responsibility. I needed a rest and I took it! As far as I can see, […]

posted by Donna Henes

  Blessings, one and all, for a New Year filled with promise. May you continue along your path to Self-sovereignty with purpose, passion, and power with Queenly aplomb.  With blessings of new beginnings and positive possibilities, xxQueen Mama Donna   […]

New Year. Clean Start.

posted by Donna Henes

  Dear Queen Mama Donna, This has been the year from hell. I feel used, abused, and grimy. My entire life has gotten out of control. In my depression I have even let my normally orderly house go. My family […]

Celtic View of the Dark Time

posted by Donna Henes

  This comes from a sister Queen  in response to an article that I wrote.   Celtic View of the Dark Time By Jo Coffey, CA /Ireland It was really a lift to read your piece about the Dark Time. […]

Baby, It’s Dark Outside

posted by Donna Henes

This, the week leading up to the Winter Solstice on December 21/22 is the darkest time of the year. True, the week following the solstice is just as dark, but the energy is different. After the solstice, the dark gets […]

Well Being in Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Unfinished

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

Female Midlife Crisis or Midlife Alarm Call? – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Female Midlife Crisis or Midlife Alarm Call? – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Emerging Maturity – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by article, poems and stories about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it […]

Midlife Women Are More Hopeful than Midlife Men – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Midlife Women Are More Hopeful than Midlife Men – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Thoughts on Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

MidLife Crisis: Life Renewed

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women.  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Tomorrow: Midlife is No Crisis for Today’s Women – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Why Midlife Rocks Your World – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Why Midlife Rocks Your World – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

To Be Present to the Present

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Letting Go of All that Does Not Serve

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

When Everything You Think You Know Changes

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Letting Go – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Letting Go – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

A Birthday Declaration of Independence – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

A Birthday Declaration of Independence – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

Happiness — A Work in Progress

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Field Notes on an Empty Nest – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Field Notes on an Empty Nest – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE PARTS

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Get a Life

posted by Donna Henes

    I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions […]

You Think You Are Not Enough

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

If I Had My Life to Live Over

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

The Awakening – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Urban Shaman’s Prayer

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

A Walk Your Talk Pilgrimage – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

A Walk Your Talk Pilgrimage in 3 Parts

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for the next while. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions […]

The Beauty Of A Woman

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Learning to Love Yourself – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Learning to Love Yourself – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Learning to Love Yourself – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 3 By Evelyn Lim www.abundancetapestry.com 10. Make Positive Affirmations Everyday. Post affirmations that can help raise your self esteem everyday. For instance, say this to yourself “I love and accept […]

How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Playing with Fire – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content! Emotional Sex Explore the full […]

Playing with Fire – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content!   Regular sex, according to medical […]

3 Love Poems

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

Our Deepest Fear

posted by Donna Henes

We have now passed the milestone of 250 posts on this Queen blog! Hurray! To celebrate, I will give away 3 signed copies of The Queen of My Self to the first 3 readers who request one. thequeenofmyself@aol.com June is […]

Audrey Hepburn’s Beauty Tips

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

On Beauty and Age – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

Believe in Yourself! – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season for […]

Believe in Yourself! – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

The Midlife Queen Mother

posted by Donna Henes

  Since May is Mothering Month, I intend to post a diverse array of articles for the rest of the month, about and for mothers.   For the first time in history, large numbers of women of our generation, especially […]

An Empty Nest Poem

posted by Donna Henes

  An Empty Nest Poem By Mary Jean Iron   Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are. Let me learn from you, love you, bless you before you depart.   Let me not pass you by […]

From an Empty Nest

posted by Donna Henes

  From an Empty Nest By Anna Quindlen All my babies are gone now. I say this not in sorrow but in disbelief. I take great satisfaction in what I have today: three almost adults, two taller than I am, […]

A Mother’s Day Proclamation Poem

posted by Donna Henes

  Here is a beautiful response to Julia Ward Howe’s Mother’s Day Proclamation by one of our own sister Queens.   A MOTHER’S DAY PROCLAMATION By Queen Mary Immaculata Saracino, CO “Arise, then, women of this day! Arise all women […]

Time to Mother Ourselves in Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

My dear sister Queens, As you must have noticed, I have been absent for two weeks. My contract with Beliefnet expired at the end of April, but  I am delighted to say that I have been invited to return to […]

SING WITH THE TREES

posted by Donna Henes

On Earth Day I published the powerful poem, SAVING MOTHER EARTH by Mary Saracino. Here is a follow up poem also by Queen Mary Immaculata, as she refers to herself. SING WITH THE TREES by Mary Saracino, CO Author’s note: […]

Saving Mother Earth

posted by Donna Henes

  SAVING MOTHER EARTH by Mary Saracino, CO A single day in April isn’t enough to honor our Mother, save the planet that is her body, restore her ocean womb, revitalize the atrophied arms and legs of her continents, remove […]

The Journey

posted by Donna Henes

  The Journey By Mary Oliver One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice — though the whole house began to tremble and you felt the […]

Self-Love Cleanse: Loving the Inner Mean Girl

posted by Donna Henes

  Here is some wisdom about learning to love your Self that was written by a junior at Mills College. Bless her heart for trying to learn at such a tender age what many women are still struggling with in […]

Power Words From the Wise

posted by Donna Henes

Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong. –  Ella Fitzgerald Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. – Anais […]

It’s Pay Back Time

posted by Donna Henes

Hail Queens! It is good to be back online. As I am sure you noticed, Beliefnet had many techno troubles last week and I was unable to post. But I am back! Lately I’ve seen several outrageous television commercials that […]

Believe in Yourself! A Self-Care Strategy – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Believe in Yourself! A Self-Care Strategy – Part 2By Cheryl Saban, Ph.D, CA How do you start believing in yourself when you’re so used to being a non-believer? How do you begin to care about being you, if you’ve become […]

Believe in Yourself! A Self-Care Strategy – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

    We had a week’s worth of posts about Self-love, and now I would like to return to our previous discussions about women’s relationship to power. The letters and articles have been pouring in and it is my honor to […]

The Real Woman Creed

posted by Donna Henes

In the interest of keeping the Valentine Day energy alive for this entire week, I will be posting messages to stimulate your love for the Queen of Your Self. The Real Woman CreedBy Jan Phillips, CA I believe that within me […]

My Journey to Health, Wealth and Happiness!

posted by Donna Henes

In the interest of keeping the Valentine Day energy alive for this entire week, I will be posting messages to stimulate your love for the Queen of Your Self. My Journey to Health, Wealth and Happiness!By Susan Briggs, Australia I spent […]

Valentine Self Care

posted by Donna Henes

In the interest of keeping the Valentine Day energy alive for this entire week, I will be posting messages to stimulate your love for the Queen of Your Self. Today is Valentine’s Day and I am sick. I have been […]

Women’s Power – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

 Women’s Power – Part 3By Max Dashu Female mavericks were also active in the arts and sciences. The renegade nun Okuni originated the Kabuki theater, from which women were soon banned. In Moorish Spain, the poet Walladah bint-al-Mustakfi rejected the […]

Women’s Power – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Women’s Power – Part 2By Max Dashu There’s a striking interplay between women’s spiritual and political leadership, especially in indigenous societies. I’m thinking of of the Evenki shaman Olga who was both chieftain and religious leader of her Siberian village […]

Women’s Power – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

This article was written by a brilliant colleague, who I very much admire. She founded the Suppressed Histories Archives, an archive of hundreds of thousands of images of women of power throughout the ages and across cultures. The piece is […]

Powerful Words

posted by Donna Henes

Here are some wise words of inspiration in regard to your relationship to power. Take them in and feel their energy work on you. The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.– […]

Tend and Befriend: The Power of Women’s Friendships

posted by Donna Henes

“Men walk, women talk.” The veracity of this the popular saying was recently proved in a landmark study conducted by two women scientists at UCLA. The long-held idea that the familiar “fight or flight” mechanism was the universal human response […]

I Like Winter

posted by Donna Henes

We are now past the midpoint of winter. Spring will be here exactly one month from today, the realization of which would normally please me no end. I would have had my fill of dark and cold. But this year, […]

What the Groundhog Sees

posted by Donna Henes

 February 2 is the exact halfway point between the Winter Solstice and the Spring Equinox. It is the winter midpoint or cross-quarter day. The duskiest, coldest season is now officially half over! Though the Winter Solstice, the shortest day of […]

Midwinter Purification Rites

posted by Donna Henes

February 2 marks the exact halfway point of winter. Along with the two equinoxes, two solstices and the three other seasonal midpoints, it is one of the eight energy-filled sacred days in the pagan calendar. Purification is the recurrent mythic […]

Heart and Hearth

posted by Donna Henes

Winners of a copy of The Queen of My Self: Kathy Elkind, MAJoanna Matherson, WIYvette Rivera, CA Enjoy! Let us take a break from our ongoing explorations of women’s relationship to power. This week the posts will focus on the […]

The Queen: Lioness of the Psyche

posted by Donna Henes

After putting out the call for thoughts and stories about women’s relationship to power, I received this note: Dear Donna, In a marvelous synchronicity, my latest blog post, which came out this morning is about the exact same thing: how […]

Shine a Light on Winter Darkness

posted by Donna Henes

 Even though the post-solstice days are getting longer — by approximately two minutes a day — the accrual is so gradual that we don’t really notice it for quite a few weeks. In the meantime, most of us grow quickly […]

Say Yes

posted by Donna Henes

 Say Yes  By Andrea Gibson    when two violins are placed in a room  if a chord on one violin is struck   the other violin will sound the note   if this is your definition of hope  this is for you […]

Let The Resolutions Begin

posted by Donna Henes

 Let The Resolutions Begin By Midlife Crisis in Process  The thoughts and ramblings of a middle age woman who is beginning to realize life requires you to make tough choices that don’t always bring happiness. Let me start by saying right […]

What Is Right With You?

posted by Donna Henes

What Is Right With You?By Kim Mailhot, NH So my amazing friend, Paula, from Little Scraps of Magic, is participating in the Reverb10 writing prompt challenge to examine your 2010 and to set intentions and focus for the New 2011 year […]

Clean Sweep

posted by Donna Henes

Dear Queen Mama Donna, This has been the year from hell. I feel used, abused, and grimy. My entire life has gotten out of control. In my depression I have even let my normally orderly house go. My family is […]

We Shed The Skin Of One Year

posted by Donna Henes

Here is a lovely New Year poem by a talented and wise sister Queen. New/YearBy Mary Saracino, CO We shed the skin of one yearlay bare the fragile bonesof fresh dreamsour serpentine souls slither forwardwe know the way by heartby […]

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