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A Poem about Self Love

posted by Donna Henes

By Karen Clothier   After Octavio Paz   after chopping off all the arms that reached out to me; after boarding up all the windows and doors; after filling all the pits with poisoned water; after building my house on the […]

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A Self- Esteem Exercise

posted by Donna Henes

by Madisyn Taylor Having low self-esteem is a common issue and with some introspection you can start to loosen the grip of this negative thought pattern. Our primary relationship in life is with our selves. No one else goes through […]

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Racism, Survival, and Living Rafts of Support

posted by Donna Henes

by Patricia As children of life, we are equipped by life with the pro-social trait of compassion, because it is essential to the survival of our species. Life gives us what we need to sustain Life, in, through, and around […]

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The Universal Golden Rule

posted by Donna Henes

Most of us were raised with some version of The Golden Rule. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” “Love thy neighbor as thyself.” The Golden Rule teaches that we should treat others as we, ourselves, […]

Imperfection

posted by Donna Henes

by Sister Joan Chittister “This is the very perfection of a person, to find out our own imperfections.” –Saint Augustine Humanity is a mixture of blunders. That’s what makes it so charming, so interesting to be around. Because none of us […]

Women I’ve Never Met

posted by Donna Henes

 By Teresa Schreiber Werth   I’m praying for women I’ve never met. As I lay down and close my eyes, names tumble into my consciousness Like cottonwood seeds, descending from a quiet, summer sky. Each day I’m touched as the […]

Speak Up!

posted by Donna Henes

It is so damn easy to feel depressed, frustrated and disillusioned right now. In light of the widespread oppression, manipulation, intimidation that surrounds us today, we most certainly need to say something. There are signs everywhere in the subways of […]

I Like Me

posted by Donna Henes

Despite the rude awakenings, the unsettling physical and emotional chaos of midlife and all of its frightful, presumed ramifications, an amazing number of women find this stage to be the most personally fulfilling and satisfying of their lives so far. […]

Queen of All That is Imperfect

posted by Donna Henes

Just a few days ago I wrote, “The word ‘practice’ also serves to remind us that there is no perfect. Whether we maintain a spiritual practice, a creative practice or a professional practice, we are always in the process of […]

Loving Affirmation of My Self

posted by Donna Henes

I am a divine and beautiful being. I choose to live each moment with appreciation and complete acceptance of my own divinity and beauty. I choose to appreciate and accept the beauty in all beings and the perfect divinity in […]

Self Blessing

posted by Donna Henes

For some fifteen years now, the practice of Self Blessing has been the centerpiece of my personal spiritual practice as well as the many ceremonies and celebrations that I facilitate for others. When people are first introduced to the concept, […]

Let Your Power Out!

posted by Donna Henes

    Many of you have, I am sure, come across this fabulous writing many times. It speaks to the heart of the matter of women’s dysfunctional relationship to our own power. In my spiritual counseling as a Midlife Midwife™ […]

Balanced Empowerment

posted by Donna Henes

Empowerment Several time ago I asked the question “What does power mean to you?” This piece about the empowerment of women was sent to me by Kali Fyre, a sister Queen and reader of The Queen of My Self. It […]

Coming Home to the Self

posted by Donna Henes

Speaking of  Self-Sovereignty, here is a piece by Sister Joan Chittister, the popular Catholic spiritual writer. It landed propitiously in my mailbox whilst I was in the midst of working on these recent posts on the Self. Good timing, Sister […]

Tend and Befriend

posted by Donna Henes

“Men walk, women talk.” The veracity of this the popular saying was recently proved in a landmark study conducted by two women scientists at UCLA. The long-held idea that the familiar “fight or flight“ mechanism was the universal human response […]

Words of Self-Wisdom

posted by Donna Henes

My post Wednesday  was about the Self,  in which I wrote, “The Self is the sum of all of our parts, and holistically, it is greater than the sum of all of our parts. The fluid Self transcends time and […]

Lost & Found in Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

Despite the rude awakenings, the unsettling physical and emotional chaos of midlife and all of its frightful, presumed ramifications, an amazing number of women find this stage to be the most personally fulfilling and satisfying of their lives so far. […]

Peace Pilgrim – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Her long walk led to a period of concentrated inner questioning about what she, one person, could do in the cause of peace. This midlife meditation culminated in her experiencing a powerful spiritual vision, an undeniable epiphany. She came to […]

Peace Pilgrim – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

I have found my favorite model of the Queen in the life of a remarkable woman known as Peace Pilgrim who devoted almost thirty years of her life to walking and talking for peace. Born Mildred Lisette Norman in 1908 […]

Say Something!

posted by Donna Henes

It is so damn easy to feel depressed, frustrated and disillusioned right now. In light of the widespread oppression, manipulation, intimidation that surrounds us today, we need to say something. There are signs everywhere in the subways of New York […]

Resolutions for Self Care

posted by Donna Henes

  Like the excellent mother, creator, organizer, administrator, mentor you are, be patient with yourself. Change is slow and you are human. Think about your daily habits. Are they healthy? Are they helpful? What improvements might you make in your […]

New Year Self Care

posted by Donna Henes

  A new year is a new start and so many of us resolve to make healthy changes in our daily lives. But so often these resolutions are goals having to do with what we know we should do. And […]

A Vision for Humanity

posted by Donna Henes

A Vision for Humanity in 2013 By Barbara Marx Hubbard Humanity is facing unprecedented, evolutionary changes. It is amazing—out of the famous Mayan prophecy has come the indication that we are facing the end of this world as we know […]

The Blessing of Not Being Perfect

posted by Donna Henes

  The blessing of not being perfect  by Sister Joan Chittister   Humanity is a mixture of blunders. That’s what makes it so charming, so interesting to be around. Because none of us is complete, we all need one another. […]

The Steep Path to Sovereignty

posted by Donna Henes

Coming from the tough love school of spiritual counseling as I do, I feel that it is only fair to warn you — There are no 10 Easy Steps to Sovereignty. The roads leading to Queendom are diverse and many. […]

Redefining Midlife Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  This article is by my friend and colleague, Barbara Bizou.     Redefining Midlife Part 1 “Since you don’t know when the end is going to be how can you figure out what mid-life is.” – Julia Riva We, […]

Accept Inevitable Aging

posted by Donna Henes

  As we age, we naturally change. Change, after all, is the essential stuff of life. If we embrace it with magnanimous grace and good humor, as part and parcel of the ongoing mythic adventure of our path, we stand […]

Time to Care for Ourselves

posted by Donna Henes

Recently one of my Midlife Midwife™ Counseling clients called me in hysterics from the supermarket. This was her first shopping excursion since her last child left home. She had been long divorced and now her nest was completely empty. As […]

Red-Robed Priestess

posted by Donna Henes

Another book that I cannot praise enough is Red-Robed Priestess  by Elizabeth Cunningham, author of the preceding three books in the acclaimed Maeve Chronicles. After a life of passion and adventure that has brought her through slavery to the Resurrection […]

Goddess On Earth

posted by Donna Henes

Winter is a great time to catch up on reading. I have a pile of books by my bed that I want to read, that I intend to read, but am too busy to read. Well, with only 12 days […]

My Own Best Friend

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Another Valentine Message

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Valentine Self Love

posted by Donna Henes

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day and I was sick. I have been working seven-day weeks for a while now and I am beat. Yesterday I woke with a nasty cold, which lasted only 24 hours, amazingly. But it left me completely […]

Hard Work of Heart Work

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Have A Love Affair With Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

A White Bath

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Self-Care

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Love Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Be Good To You

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Female Midlife Crisis or Midlife Alarm Call? – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Midlife Women Are More Hopeful than Midlife Men – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Midlife Women Are More Hopeful than Midlife Men – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

I Bless the Future

posted by Donna Henes

Do you believe it? This is my 350th post! Happy Anniversary to the Empowerment of the Queens! To celebrate, I am offering 3 The Queen of My Self T-shirts to the first 3 Queens who request one. Just send me […]

When Everything You Think You Know Changes

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Happiness — A Work in Progress

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

A Walk Your Talk Pilgrimage – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

A Walk Your Talk Pilgrimage – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

A Walk Your Talk Pilgrimage in 3 Parts

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

Learning to Love Yourself – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Learning to Love Yourself – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

I Am

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Saving Mother Earth

posted by Donna Henes

  SAVING MOTHER EARTH by Mary Saracino, CO A single day in April isn’t enough to honor our Mother, save the planet that is her body, restore her ocean womb, revitalize the atrophied arms and legs of her continents, remove […]

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Life Begins at 42
Saint Hildegard’s Guide to Becoming a Midlife Powerfrau By Mary Sharratt We live in a youth-obsessed culture. The cosmetic industry pushes wrinkle creams and hair dye on us while celebrities resort to Botox and surgery to preserve an illusion of eternal girlhood. We live longer than ever befo

posted 6:00:00am Mar. 27, 2015 | read full post »

De Sancta Maria
Hail to you, O greenest, most fertile branch! You budded forth amidst breezes and winds in search of the knowledge of all that is holy. When the time was ripe your own branch brought forth blossoms. Hail greetings to you! The heat of the sun exudes sweat from you like the balsam’s perfume.

posted 6:00:55am Mar. 25, 2015 | read full post »

Nature, Our Mother
In the beginning, there was woman. And she was versatile. She breathed, she stretched, she strode, she sat, she foraged, she trapped, she planted, she cooked, she ate, she bled, she danced, she laughed, she slept, she dreamed, she played, she prayed. She made art, she made ceremonies, she made love,

posted 6:00:25am Mar. 23, 2015 | read full post »

Spring Cleaning
Happy Spring! In winter, we spend inordinate amounts of time inside, dwelling, stewing, stagnating in enforced inactivity. When our hibernating energy finally re-awakens in the spring, it is with a pronounced case of morning breath. After the dust, the must, the rust of winter, a thorough spring

posted 6:00:14am Mar. 20, 2015 | read full post »

Friends for Life
I love working and playing in groups of women. I was never in a college sorority, so my first experience was in the feminist consciousness-raising group that I joined in the late 1960s. And what an eye-opening, empowering experience it was. We were a very diverse group brought together by our Boh

posted 6:00:39am Mar. 18, 2015 | read full post »

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