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The Queen’s Clothes – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

…..Continued from Wednesday’s Post of Part 1…. When I was really young I made all the clothes for my paper dolls, eschewing the ready made ones that you were supposed to cut out. I also made clothes for my other […]

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The Queen’s Clothes – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

I am a clothes horse. I love clothes. I love dressing up. I love putting outfits together. I love the treasure hunt of shopping for treasures in thrift stores, which I do whenever I can and wherever I am. I […]

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I think I Am Having a Midlife Crisis

posted by Donna Henes

I found this article on women24, but unfortunately cannot find an attribution for the writer. It is wise advice that proves you are never to young to become The Queen of Your Self: I’m turning 35 on Saturday and I’d […]

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A Poem about Self Love

posted by Donna Henes

By Karen Clothier   After Octavio Paz   after chopping off all the arms that reached out to me; after boarding up all the windows and doors; after filling all the pits with poisoned water; after building my house on the […]

A Self- Esteem Exercise

posted by Donna Henes

by Madisyn Taylor Having low self-esteem is a common issue and with some introspection you can start to loosen the grip of this negative thought pattern. Our primary relationship in life is with our selves. No one else goes through […]

Cleaning House

posted by Donna Henes

Our messy thinking and sloppy habits come more easily into focus when our surroundings are tidy and beautiful and filled with only what is meaningful, so that we can release them, as well. A thorough house cleaning, internal as well […]

Empresses of Influence

posted by Donna Henes

The Queen is a mature woman who has conquered the challenges in Her life and claimed Her own royal power. She cuts through fear and ambivalence, takes charge, and establishes Herself as the sole ruler of Her Self. She has […]

Finding the Way Home to My Self

posted by Donna Henes

It wasn’t any kind of special moment when it happened. It wasn’t my birthday, for instance, or an anniversary of anything. It wasn’t even a family reunion or a great community event. I was just sitting somewhere, gazing into space, […]

Take Charge

posted by Donna Henes

You need only to claim the events of your life to make yourself yours. When you truly possess all you have been and done, which may take some time, you are fierce with reality. -Florida Scott-Maxwell Each one of us […]

Becoming the Queen of Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

The idea that we might be Queens is intoxicating. Ever since I first started introducing The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women in my workshops and articles some eight years ago, I have received thousands of requests for […]

Now It’s Your Turn!

posted by Donna Henes

During the decades of our Maiden and Motherhood, women grow to meet all of our many demanding responsibilities. Lithe moon that can’t keep getting fuller and fuller with no retreat, we can take on only so much before exploding like […]

The Queen: A Model for Midlife Empowerment

posted by Donna Henes

Who are we supposed to be at this stage of our life when we are less likely to be bound and identified by our kinship connection to someone else — as daughter, wife, mother, lover? What exactly is our role […]

Lost and Found

posted by Donna Henes

Aging and changing might be inevitable, but they ain’t easy. They precipitate in us a great uncertainty. The myriad dramatic disturbances of modern middle life — menopause, health concerns, career shifts, the empty nest, divorce and death — create an […]

From Sea Turtles to Social Work

posted by Donna Henes

A New Kind of Midlife Crisis for Women By Amanda Orr Last weekend, I attended the birthday brunch of an old friend, surrounded by people with whom I started my own career more than two decades ago. Throughout the afternoon, […]

Hot Women

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first.  […]

Peaches and Cream – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

Peaches and Cream – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

Beauty Redefined – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first.  […]

Beauty Redefined – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

Loving Our Bodies

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

Cougar Queen – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

Cougar Queen – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content! I came across this article in […]

A Letter from Prison

posted by Donna Henes

by Teresa Christine It was a bright sunny day nearly twenty-two years ago when I had my freedom snuffed out like a candle. The day that I was arrested was the beginning of a new journey into unchartered waters. After […]

Treading the Turbulent Midlife Waters – PART 2

posted by Donna Henes

The notion that 50 years of age could be considered a “halfway” mark is unprecedented in history. We are blessed with an inestimable gift of many more years of life than anyone who ever lived on Earth before us could […]

Treading the Turbulent Midlife Waters – PART 1

posted by Donna Henes

Aging and changing might be inevitable, but it ain’t easy. It precipitates in us a great uncertainty. The myriad dramatic disturbances of modern middle life — menopause, health concerns, the empty nest, divorce, death, and career shifts — create an […]

How to Survive a Midlife Crisis

posted by Donna Henes

by Carol Howard Merritt I was in the midst of that crisis of middle life. The one that made my eyes roll when I read of white women who felt they had no meaning. It always sounded like they inhabited a […]

Creating a Sacred Space in your Castle

posted by Donna Henes

The more conscious and respectful we become of the abiding presence and guiding force of our Selves, the more we feel inclined to spend time alone in Her excellent company. One way to honor these healing times of communion, of […]

Tips on How to Breeze Through Middle Age – PART 2

posted by Donna Henes

With a bit of self-love and motivation, midlife can be a time for big positive changes. Here is a bit of advice from Best Knickers Always by Rebecca Perkins   We all have a choice We always have a choice […]

Tips on How to Breeze Through Middle Age – PART 1

posted by Donna Henes

With a bit of self-love and motivation, midlife can be a time for big positive changes. Here is a bit of advice from Best Knickers Always by Rebecca Perkins Midlife crisis? What crisis? Tips on how to breeze through middle […]

An Empowering Mantra for Self-Esteem

posted by Donna Henes

Affirmations are positive statements that describe a desired situation or state of being. For example, “I am healthy, I radiate well being.” “I am a good and honorable person with a loving heart.” “I am capable beyond all measure.” Etc. Affirmations […]

The Love of a Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Despite the rude awakenings, the unsettling physical and emotional chaos of midlife and all of its frightful, presumed ramifications, an amazing number of women find this stage to be the most personally fulfilling and satisfying of their lives so far. […]

Daily Rituals for Self-Empowerment

posted by Donna Henes

By Dr. Carmen Harra http://www.carmenharra.com Daily life can drag us down and make us weary of our circumstances. The repetition of routine becomes mundane and mediocre, and we often wonder where to turn for a bit of liberating distraction. Falling […]

Are You Ready?

posted by Donna Henes

I am fascinated (obsessed) by women’s relationship to power. It is the subject of my next book. The more I see, the more women I speak to, the more I realize that that relationship is on shaky ground. It is […]

Becoming Our Own Role Models

posted by Donna Henes

by Madisyn Taylor There was a time where women stood together in a bond of sisterhood, women supporting women. As women embrace the fullness of who they are as individuals, they may find themselves supporting other women, helping others to […]

The Sovereignty of Women

posted by Donna Henes

If you have not already gobbled up the books in The Maeve Chronicles by Elizabeth Cunningham, I urge you to do so instantly. The trilogy begins with The Passion of Mary Magdalene, which is a wonderful re-envisioning of Mary Magdlene […]

Make Way for Ducklings

posted by Donna Henes

Dr Susan Corso, a sister wise woman Queen from Boston publishes a weekly inspirational gem. She calls this series “Seeds.” (http://www.susancorso.com/Seeds/seeds.htm) This one struck me as being a perfect and perfectly delightful description of the sovereign Self. Seeds XII, 23 […]

Embrace Your Majesty

posted by Donna Henes

Since I started my Midlife Midwife™ practice, I have received many requests for detailed instructions on how to become a Queen. “Dear Mama Donna,” women would write, “I want to be a Queen, too. How do I access my power? […]

I Like Me

posted by Donna Henes

Despite the rude awakenings, the unsettling physical and emotional chaos of midlife and all of its frightful, presumed ramifications, an amazing number of women find this stage to be the most personally fulfilling and satisfying of their lives so far. […]

Queen of All That is Imperfect

posted by Donna Henes

Just a few days ago I wrote, “The word ‘practice’ also serves to remind us that there is no perfect. Whether we maintain a spiritual practice, a creative practice or a professional practice, we are always in the process of […]

Noting the Process

posted by Donna Henes

The mental part of our Self is not satisfied with simply accessing our intentions and motives. Our minds want to know what they mean and how they affect us. Our conscious, rational aspect craves order, information, comprehension. We humans seem […]

Digging Deep

posted by Donna Henes

The shamanic assumption from which I operate is that every person has her own significant mission in this lifetime: her own path, her own dreams, her own symbols and sensibilities, her own visions and designs, her own way of learning, […]

Loving Affirmation of My Self

posted by Donna Henes

I am a divine and beautiful being. I choose to live each moment with appreciation and complete acceptance of my own divinity and beauty. I choose to appreciate and accept the beauty in all beings and the perfect divinity in […]

Self Blessing

posted by Donna Henes

For some fifteen years now, the practice of Self Blessing has been the centerpiece of my personal spiritual practice as well as the many ceremonies and celebrations that I facilitate for others. When people are first introduced to the concept, […]

What Does Being a Queen Mean to You?

posted by Donna Henes

Some time ago, I asked the Queens on my Facebook page what being a Queen meant to them.  Q. What does being a Queen mean to you? A. As a little girl I wondered what it would be like to be […]

Decide to Take Charge

posted by Donna Henes

You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame. – Erica Jong   The story of our lives is ours to create. We can design our own roles and ideals, compose […]

Benefits of Age

posted by Donna Henes

Aging and changing might be inevitable, but they ain’t easy. They precipitate in us a great uncertainty. The myriad dramatic disturbances of modern middle life — menopause, health concerns, career shifts, the empty nest, divorce and death — create an […]

A Time For Me

posted by Donna Henes

During the decades of our Maiden and Motherhood, women grow to meet all of our many demanding responsibilities. Like the moon that can’t keep getting fuller and fuller with no retreat, we can take on only so much before exploding […]

My Mother the Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Unlike my grandmother who personified the archetypal transition from Motherhood to Cronedom at menopause, her daughter, my mother, was a Queen long before her time. Her story is quite a common one now, shared by many millions of women, but […]

A Self-Meditation

posted by Donna Henes

Soul searching, like the practice of any devotion, requires solitude, quiet and quality time. But life is hectic and our inner needs have often been relegated to the bottom of our endless to-do lists, our dreams and desires deferred, left […]

It Can Be Hard to Be a Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Coming from the tough love school of spiritual counseling as I do, I feel that it is only fair to warn you — There are no 10 Easy Steps to Sovereignty. The roads leading to Queendom are diverse and many. […]

Mirror, Mirror

posted by Donna Henes

Certainly the most crucial step toward sovereignty is to know our Selves. After all our years as mothers and others, we need to reestablish who we are as individuals, separate and distinct from our relationships with those around us. Who […]

Steps to Sovereignty

posted by Donna Henes

The idea that we might be Queens is intoxicating. Ever since I first started introducing The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women in my workshops and articles some eight years ago, I have received thousands of requests for […]

The Self Defined

posted by Donna Henes

The Self, according to Carl Jung, is the center, the midpoint of the personality, the crossroads where our personal and collective, conscious and unconscious processes intersect. The Self encompasses the totality of who we are. It is, he writes, “A […]

Embracing Age

posted by Donna Henes

As we age, we naturally change. Change, after all, is the essential stuff of life. If we embrace it with magnanimous grace and good humor, as part and parcel of the ongoing mythic adventure of our path, we stand to […]

Self-Care

posted by Donna Henes

Recently one of my Midlife Midwife™ Counseling clients called me in hysterics from the supermarket. This was her first shopping excursion since her last child left home. She had been long divorced and now her nest was completely empty. As […]

The Queen in Your Inbox

posted by Donna Henes

I am about to publish the 67th issue of The Queen’s Chronicles, the monthly ezine that offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial inspiration for all women who want to enjoy the fruits of an influential, passionate and powerful maturity. Each issue […]

A Mature Role Model

posted by Donna Henes

Who are we supposed to be at this stage of our life when we are less likely to be bound and identified by our kinship connection to someone else — as a daughter, a wife, a mother, a lover? What […]

An Archetype That Fits

posted by Donna Henes

What is an archetype? The literal definition of archetype is “the original pattern or model from which all things of a similar kind are copied or on which they are based; a model or first form; a prototype. Archetype also […]

Step Up & Take Charge

posted by Donna Henes

You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame. – Erica Jong The story of our lives is ours to create. We can design our own roles and ideals, compose the […]

Let Your Power Out!

posted by Donna Henes

    Many of you have, I am sure, come across this fabulous writing many times. It speaks to the heart of the matter of women’s dysfunctional relationship to our own power. In my spiritual counseling as a Midlife Midwife™ […]

Sovereignty is Hard!

posted by Donna Henes

Coming from the tough love school of spiritual counseling as I do, I feel that it is only fair to warn you — There are no 10 Easy Steps to Sovereignty. The roads leading to Queendom are diverse and many. […]

Answer Only to Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

I Don’t Really Care What You Think Today, we see many women in public life, ranging the gamut from Hillary Clinton to Sharon Osborne, who have stepped out of the shadows of their husbands and families to pursue their own […]

Words of Self-Wisdom

posted by Donna Henes

My post Wednesday  was about the Self,  in which I wrote, “The Self is the sum of all of our parts, and holistically, it is greater than the sum of all of our parts. The fluid Self transcends time and […]

Selfhood

posted by Donna Henes

What Exactly is the Self? The Self, according to Carl Jung, is the center, the midpoint of the personality, the crossroads where our personal and collective, conscious and unconscious processes intersect. The Self encompasses the totality of who we are. […]

Lost & Found in Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

Despite the rude awakenings, the unsettling physical and emotional chaos of midlife and all of its frightful, presumed ramifications, an amazing number of women find this stage to be the most personally fulfilling and satisfying of their lives so far. […]

Say Something!

posted by Donna Henes

It is so damn easy to feel depressed, frustrated and disillusioned right now. In light of the widespread oppression, manipulation, intimidation that surrounds us today, we need to say something. There are signs everywhere in the subways of New York […]

Wise Words of Self-Wisdom

posted by Donna Henes

Here are some words of Self-wisdom by some very wise women: “We have all a better guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be.” – Jane Austen   “Doubt yourself and you doubt […]

Resolutions for Self Care

posted by Donna Henes

  Like the excellent mother, creator, organizer, administrator, mentor you are, be patient with yourself. Change is slow and you are human. Think about your daily habits. Are they healthy? Are they helpful? What improvements might you make in your […]

New Year Self Care

posted by Donna Henes

  A new year is a new start and so many of us resolve to make healthy changes in our daily lives. But so often these resolutions are goals having to do with what we know we should do. And […]

The One Flaw In Women

posted by Donna Henes

The One Flaw In Women   Women have strengths that amaze men….. They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy. They smile when they want to scream. They sing when they want to cry. They […]

Some Declarations of Queendom

posted by Donna Henes

  I have taken this ongoing discussion about the definitions and descriptions of Queendom to The Queen of My Self Page on Facebook.   Q. What does being a Queen mean to you ? A. As a little girl I […]

Time to Care for Ourselves

posted by Donna Henes

Recently one of my Midlife Midwife™ Counseling clients called me in hysterics from the supermarket. This was her first shopping excursion since her last child left home. She had been long divorced and now her nest was completely empty. As […]

Words from the (Self) Wise

posted by Donna Henes

We are the Queens of our Self. What does that mean? What is the Self? The Self is the sum of all of our parts, and holistically, it is greater than the sum of all of our parts. The fluid […]

Every Woman Is The Queen of Her Own Heart

posted by Donna Henes

Every Woman Is The Queen of Her Own Heart By Shiloh Sophia McCloud Every woman is the Queen of her own heart. She must decide how to govern her own domain. She seeks friends and allies that honor who she […]

Queen Regnant

posted by Donna Henes

QUEEN REGNANT PRONUNCIATION: (kween REG-nuhnt) MEANING: noun: A queen reigning in her own right, as opposed to one having a royal title by marriage. Also known as queen regent. ETYMOLOGY: From Latin regnare (reign). Ultimately from the Indo-European root reg- […]

A Midlife Archetype

posted by Donna Henes

What is an archetype? The literal definition of archetype is “the original pattern or model from which all things of a similar kind are copied or on which they are based; a model or first form; a prototype. Archetype also […]

My Own Best Friend

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Another Valentine Message

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

The Garlic Lady in February

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Love Your Self Now

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Love Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Meditation for the Fully Realized Woman

posted by Donna Henes

  Blessings, one and all, for a New Year filled with promise. May you continue along your path to Self-sovereignty with purpose, passion, and power. With Queenly aplomb.   May you live as a Fully Realized Woman. With blessings of […]

Getting Rid Of

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

You Think You Are Not Enough

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

The Awakening – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

The Awakening – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

What I Know For Sure – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for the next while. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions […]

Homage to My Hips

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Queen of Camp – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Sexy Brain

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Learning to Love Yourself – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Learning to Love Yourself – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Learning to Love Yourself – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Words of Self Love

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 3 By Evelyn Lim www.abundancetapestry.com 10. Make Positive Affirmations Everyday. Post affirmations that can help raise your self esteem everyday. For instance, say this to yourself “I love and accept […]

How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

I Am

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Redefining Beauty – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Redefining Beauty – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Loving Our Bodies

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Calendar Girls

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content!   In 1998 Angela Baker […]

Self-Love: A Definition – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

Self-Love: A Definition – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

Phenomenal Woman

posted by Donna Henes

June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season for […]

Our Deepest Fear

posted by Donna Henes

We have now passed the milestone of 250 posts on this Queen blog! Hurray! To celebrate, I will give away 3 signed copies of The Queen of My Self to the first 3 readers who request one. thequeenofmyself@aol.com June is […]

Not Our Mother’s Daughters

posted by Donna Henes

  Since May is Mothering Month, I intend to post a diverse array of articles for the rest of the month, about and for mothers.   Not Our Mother’s Daughters by Mari Selby, VA ”And so our mothers and grandmothers […]

Conquering The Evil Queen

posted by Donna Henes

  Tuesday I featured a piece by a young women who is struggling with releasing her “inner mean girl.” The following is by a mature Queen who is dealing with the same issue. They are both succeeding!   Conquering The […]

Self-Love Cleanse: Loving the Inner Mean Girl

posted by Donna Henes

  Here is some wisdom about learning to love your Self that was written by a junior at Mills College. Bless her heart for trying to learn at such a tender age what many women are still struggling with in […]

What Does Power Mean to You?

posted by Donna Henes

I turned the topic of power over to the FaceBook Queen of My Self Fan page: Q. What does power mean to you? What does it mean to have power? To be empowered? To wield power? To be a powerful […]

Fear of Our Own Power

posted by Donna Henes

Many of you have, I am sure, come across this fabulous writing many times. It speaks to the heart of the matter of women’s dysfunctional relationship to our own power. In my spiritual counseling as a Midlife Midwife™ I dispense […]

The Best-Kept Secret: Women Love Power Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

The Best-Kept Secret: Women Love Power Part  2By Dr. Marcia Reynolds, AZ So why do so many people keep telling women, “Step into your power”? Because women have a hard time saying, “I am powerful,” even though they like the […]

The Best-Kept Secret: Women Love Power Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

I’ve got to tell you, I absolutely love this continuing theme of women’s relationship to power. This is a subject very close to my heart and something that we women need to examine closely and concentrate on if we are […]

Believe in Yourself! A Self-Care Strategy – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Believe in Yourself! A Self-Care Strategy – Part 2By Cheryl Saban, Ph.D, CA How do you start believing in yourself when you’re so used to being a non-believer? How do you begin to care about being you, if you’ve become […]

Believe in Yourself! A Self-Care Strategy – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

    We had a week’s worth of posts about Self-love, and now I would like to return to our previous discussions about women’s relationship to power. The letters and articles have been pouring in and it is my honor to […]

My Journey to Health, Wealth and Happiness!

posted by Donna Henes

In the interest of keeping the Valentine Day energy alive for this entire week, I will be posting messages to stimulate your love for the Queen of Your Self. My Journey to Health, Wealth and Happiness!By Susan Briggs, Australia I spent […]

Being Pleased With Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

In the interest of keeping the Valentine Day energy alive for this entire week, I will be posting messages to stimulate your love for the Queen of Your Self. I recently received this wonderfully refreshing letter from a sister Queen […]

Valentine Self Care

posted by Donna Henes

In the interest of keeping the Valentine Day energy alive for this entire week, I will be posting messages to stimulate your love for the Queen of Your Self. Today is Valentine’s Day and I am sick. I have been […]

I Just Stood Up for Myself

posted by Donna Henes

Here is a response to my request for empowerment stories. Thank you, Mambo Queen, for your candor and your courage. Good for you! I Just Stood Up for Myself…And It Feels GoodBy Mambo Queen My ex-husband has been putting the full-court press […]

The Mighty Queen

posted by Donna Henes

The mighty Queen, the great and wise, brave and compassionate woman ruler, the reigning commander of Her domain, is an expansive, expressive, accessible, energetic archetype who represents a mature female power, authority, responsibility, and influence worthy of our emulation. There […]

A Woman’s Guide to Power™

posted by Donna Henes

I am fascinated (obsessed) by women’s relationship to power. It is the subject of my next book.* The more I see, the more women I speak to, the more I realize that that relationship is on shaky ground. It is […]

What Is Right With You?

posted by Donna Henes

What Is Right With You?By Kim Mailhot, NH So my amazing friend, Paula, from Little Scraps of Magic, is participating in the Reverb10 writing prompt challenge to examine your 2010 and to set intentions and focus for the New 2011 year […]

Mining For Meaning

posted by Donna Henes

The shamanic assumption from which I operate is that every person has her own significant mission in this lifetime: her own path, her own dreams, her own symbols and sensibilities, her own visions and designs, her own way of learning, […]

I Like Myself!

posted by Donna Henes

Dear Queens, Congratulations on another milestone! Today is the 150th post of this column. Can that really be? Time sure does fly when you are having fun. And I, for one, have been having a great deal of fun researching […]

A Creed for Free Women

posted by Donna Henes

A Creed for Free Women(and such men as feel happy with it.) By Elsa Gidlow I am.I am from and of The Mother.I am as I am.Willfully harming none, none may question me. As no free-growing tree serves another or […]

The More Queenly I Become

posted by Donna Henes

Another post in the series of pieces about women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth. If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story. And many thanks to those of you who […]

A Woman Recognizes Potential in Herself

posted by Donna Henes

For the rest of the week, I will continue posting stories of and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth. If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story. And many […]

I Envision Only Positive Outcomes Today

posted by Donna Henes

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories of and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth. If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story. […]

The Power Of Awakening Your Authentic Soul

posted by Donna Henes

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth. If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story […]

True to Myself

posted by Donna Henes

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth. If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story.  […]

Confidence Queen

posted by Donna Henes

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth. If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story. Confidence […]

The One Flaw In Women

posted by Donna Henes

Women have strengths that amaze men….. They bear hardships and they carry burdens,but they hold happiness, love and joy.They smile when they want to scream.They sing when they want to cry.They cry when they are happyand laugh when they are […]

Two Queen Events of Interest

posted by Donna Henes

Many women send me announcements of upcoming events and occasionally one or two stand out as being of special interest to Queens. Here are two events, both taking place on December 2, 2010. One is in Brooklyn, NY and the […]

I Am a Divine and Beautiful Being

posted by Donna Henes

I AM A DIVINE AND BEAUTIFUL BEING. I CHOOSE TO LIVE EACH MOMENT WITH APPRECIATION ANDCOMPLETE ACCEPTANCE OF MY OWN DIVINITY AND BEAUTY. I CHOOSE TO APPRECIATE AND ACCEPT THE BEAUTY IN ALLBEINGS AND THE PERFECT DIVINITY IN EACH MOMENT. […]

Being Pleased With Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

I recently received this wonderfully refreshing letter from a sister Queen who is definitely pleased with her Self: …Despite the anticipation and the promise of something potentially special, he was not attractive to me. And I think that’s important — […]

Mirror, Mirror

posted by Donna Henes

Like most women, I can’t help but notice the parts of myself that have slumped and sagged as I’ve aged. The bags under my eyes now have over-night valises of their own. The veins in my legs and on the […]

Electric Crone

posted by Donna Henes

This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. Electric Crone The brain, the mind, is said to be our most sensitive sexual organ and I have come to absolutely believe it. […]

Red Hot Queen Mama

posted by Donna Henes

 This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. Red Hot Queen Mama The more competent I became in navigating and negotiating the maze of my life, the more practiced and commanding, […]

The Queen of Hearts

posted by Donna Henes

This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. The Queen of Hearts Eventually, time and the winds and storms of my maternal years weathered my once-sumptuous bloom. The galloping growth of […]

Mama Donna: Me as Mother

posted by Donna Henes

This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. Mama Donna: Me as Mother And then, a remarkable thing happened. This Ugly Duckling grew and changed, as if magically transformed. The more […]

Myself as Maiden

posted by Donna Henes

This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. Myself as Maiden I have pretty much always had a current love interest, a paramour, an inamorata-of-the-moment in my life. Ever since elementary […]

The Back Story

posted by Donna Henes

It is coming up on six years since the publication of The Queen of My Self. This anniversary has sparked introspection, provoked evaluation and evoked some amazing memories. Seizing My Sovereignty Back From Hostile Captors I was, of course, thrilled […]

You Are Called

posted by Donna Henes

My synchronistic receptors have been extremely highly attuned lately. As soon as I think a thought, I am gifted with an affirmation of its veracity. No sooner than I think or write something, than some related, really relevant writing by […]

Say Something – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Continued: What we all have to do from now on is to stay alert, stay centered, keep connected and most important of all, keep talking. Talking, writing, protesting keeps the light of truth and tolerance shining upon the hidden agendas […]

Have A Love Affair With Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

A great way to pamper yourself with the attention and affection that we all crave — that we lavish on others, but never think to give to ourselves — is to have a love affair with your Self. These exercises […]

Two More Declarations of Self-Esteem By Queens

posted by Donna Henes

The Empowered Woman The Empowered Woman, she moves through the worldwith a sense of confidence and grace.Her once reckless spirit now tempered by wisdom. Quietly, yet firmly, she speaks her truth without doubt or hesitation and the life she leads […]

Two Declarations of Self-Esteem By Queens

posted by Donna Henes

My Declaration of Self-EsteemBy Virginia Satir I AM ME In all the world, there is no one else exactly like meEverything that comes out of me is authentically meBecause I alone chose it – I own everything about meMy body, […]

Love Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

I stumbled on this blog was delighted at what I read there. As you know, Self-love is a major ideal for all Queens to aspire to. Loving our Self is the foundation for Self-esteem, Self-confidence, Self-identification and Self-fulfillment. And it […]

Summer Before the Dark

posted by Donna Henes

Doris Lessing’s wonderful book, Summer Before the Dark is as insightful, articulate, and compassionate an account of the process of a midlife woman’s transformation into the Queen of Her Self that I have ever read. She was 64 when it […]

Birthday Pleasures

posted by Donna Henes

Yesterday was my birthday. Those many years ago, I was born on my mother’s birthday. As a child, I was absolutely enchanted by this bit of information. Did I come all wrapped in ribbons, I would ask? Were there balloons? […]

Terms Of Endearment Or Disrespect? – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Here are more responses from readers to Natalie Angier’s article “Just Don’t Call Me …,” (New York Times, Week in Review, Aug. 29, 2010): To the Editor:Having said “ma’am” all my life to be polite, I read “Just Don’t Call […]

Terms Of Endearment Or Disrespect? – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

Continuing from yesterday, here are responses from readers to Natalie Angier’s article “Just Don’t Call Me …,” (New York Times, Week in Review, Aug. 29, 2010): To the Editor:I have to wonder how many women surveyed in your “completely unscientific […]

The Politics of Polite – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Continued from yesterday, Just Don’t Call Me …By Natalie Angier If ma’am is meant as a verbal genuflection to power, the message is lost on many real-life powerful women, like Senator Barbara Boxer, who told a brigadier general to refer […]

The Politics of Polite – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

The following article by Natalie Angier appeared in the New York Times last month. It certainly struck a chord in me. Or should I say, a sore point? Just Don’t Call Me …By Natalie Angier Classes are now underway at […]

What Do You Need to Release?

posted by Donna Henes

What do you need to let go of? I asked this question to the many Queens who have joined the Facebook page of The Queen of My Self. Q. What have you have already released and what do you still […]

Nourishing Relationships Interview Part II

posted by Donna Henes

The conversation continues: NR: What, exactly do you mean by Queen? DH: The Queen is a woman who is still energetic with youth, yet wise with age. She is confident and beholden to no one. She thinks, speaks, acts for […]

New Declarations of Queendom

posted by Donna Henes

Here are some recent Declarations of Queendom from readers of this blog, as well as The Queen of My Self Facebook page and my monthly Ezine, The Queen’s Chronicles. Hail to the Queens! New Declarations of Queendom: Love, love, love […]

The Purposeful Queen

posted by Donna Henes

From Rosemary Lichtman and Phyllis Goldberg:   Please join us anytime on Wednesday, August 25, when Donna Henes stops by our blog, www.NourishingRelationships.blogspot.com. Mama Donna, as she is affectionately called, is an internationally acclaimed spiritual teacher, popular speaker, and award-winning […]

The Liberation of Letting Go

posted by Donna Henes

Here are some wise words from Queens: Letting Go Takes Love To let go does not mean to stop caring,it means I can’t do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off,it’s the realization I […]

What Do You Need to Release?

posted by Donna Henes

What do you need to let go of? I asked this question to the many Queens who have joined the Facebook page of The Queen of My Self.* Here are some of their responses: Q. What have you have already […]

The Powerful Queen

posted by Donna Henes

After an inevitable midlife transition period of feeling lost, confused and out of control of Her destiny, the Queen finally takes charge. She steps up to the situations of Her life and takes back the reins of Her power. Or […]

Ducklings

posted by Donna Henes

Dr Susan Corso, a sister wise woman Queen from Boston publishes a weekly inspirational gem. She calls this series “Seeds.” This one struck me as being a perfect and perfectly delightful description of the sovereign Self.Seeds XII, 23DucklingsBy Dr. Susan […]

Embracing Our Majesty

posted by Donna Henes

Since I started my Midlife Midwife™ practice, I have received many requests for detailed instructions on how to become a Queen. “Dear Queen Mama Donna,” women would write, “I want to be a Queen, too. How do I access my […]

Queen of Imperfection

posted by Donna Henes

Just a few days ago I wrote, “The word ‘practice’ also serves to remind us that there is no perfect. Whether we maintain a spiritual practice, a creative practice or a professional practice, we are always in the process of […]

Bless Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

For some fifteen years now, the practice of Self Blessing has been the centerpiece of my personal spiritual practice as well as the many ceremonies and celebrations that I facilitate for others. When people are first introduced to the concept, […]

Coming Home to the Self

posted by Donna Henes

Speaking of the Self, here is a piece by Sister Joan Chittister, the popular Catholic spiritual writer. It landed propitiously in my mailbox whilst I was in the midst of working on these recent posts on the Self. Good timing, […]

I Don’t Really Care What You Think

posted by Donna Henes

Today, we see many women in public life, ranging the gamut from Hillary Clinton to Sharon Osborne, who have stepped out of the shadows of their husbands and families to pursue their own ambitions for themselves. Millions of ordinary women […]

Words of Self-Wisdom

posted by Donna Henes

  Several of my recent posts have been about the Self, including “What Exactly is the Self?” in which I wrote, “The Self is the sum of all of our parts, and holistically, it is greater than the sum of […]

Now it is My Turn!

posted by Donna Henes

During the decades of our Maiden and Motherhood, women grow to meet all of our many demanding responsibilities. Like the moon that can’t keep getting fuller and fuller with no retreat, we can take on only so much before exploding […]

A Queen Before Her Time

posted by Donna Henes

                Unlike my grandmother who personified the archetypal transition from Motherhood to Cronedom at menopause, her daughter, my mother, was a Queen long before her time. Her story is quite a common one now, shared by many […]

Sacred Seclusion: A Meditation on My Self

posted by Donna Henes

Soul searching, like the practice of any devotion, requires solitude, quiet and quality time. But life is hectic and our inner needs have often been relegated to the bottom of our endless to-do lists, our dreams and desires deferred, left […]

Sovereignty Ain’t Easy

posted by Donna Henes

  Coming from the tough love school of spiritual counseling as I do, I feel that it is only fair to warn you — There are no 10 Easy Steps to Sovereignty. The roads leading to Queendom are diverse and […]

The Queen Suggests A Mirror Meditation

posted by Donna Henes

Certainly the most crucial step toward sovereignty is to know our Selves. After all our years as mothers and others, we need to reestablish who we are as individuals, separate and distinct from our relationships with those around us. Who […]

Mother Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

  What an extraordinarily exciting and gorgeous time of the year spring is. Life is bursting out all over. Buds, blossoms and babies everywhere! Is it any wonder that May is the month of the Goddess? And of the Mother? […]

What Is Right With You ????

posted by Donna Henes

What Is Right With You ????By Kim Mailhot, NHQueen of Arts So my amazing friend, Paula, from Little Scraps of Magic, is participating in the Reverb10 writing prompt challenge to examine your 2010 and to set intentions and focus for […]

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