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Cleanliness

posted by Donna Henes

In winter, we spend inordinate amounts of time inside, dwelling, stewing, stagnating in enforced inactivity. When our hibernating energy finally re-awakens in the spring, it is with a pronounced case of morning breath. After the dust, the must, the rust […]

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Spring Cleaning

posted by Donna Henes

Happy Spring! In winter, we spend inordinate amounts of time inside, dwelling, stewing, stagnating in enforced inactivity. When our hibernating energy finally re-awakens in the spring, it is with a pronounced case of morning breath. After the dust, the must, […]

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Celtic Twilight

posted by Donna Henes

This comes from a sister Queen, Jo Coffey. It is in response to an article that I wrote for this column. It was really a lift to read your piece about the Dark Time. I have been feeling out of […]

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This Night We Light

posted by Donna Henes

by Judyth Hill the first of 8: A Miracle…Let there…beeeeeeeeeee……Love! And there is! Fire is our human gift: the Holy makes Light, and a World …and our job: Making Love shine back! First candle says, We Love. Second, side by […]

Cry Me a River: A Ceremony for Dampened Spirits

posted by Donna Henes

Sometimes our life and times, with its constant bombardment of negativity and steady accumulation of stress, seems like too much to endure. Oftentimes, we aren’t even consciously aware that we are annoyed, upset, dispirited. We simply carry on. We persevere. […]

The Queen of Thanksgiving

posted by Donna Henes

In addition to all her other contributions to society, Sarah Hale was responsible for making Thanksgiving a national holiday, an effort that she began in 1827. We have too few holidays. Thanksgiving like the Fourth of July should be considered […]

Thanksgiving Prayer

posted by Donna Henes

IROQUOIS THANKSGIVING ADDRESS by Ohenton Kariwahtekwen The People Today we have gathered and we see that the cycles of life continue. We have been given the duty to live in balance and harmony with each other and all living things. […]

Potlatch – Encouraging Generosity

posted by Donna Henes

A potlatch encourages the flow of resources in a community and reaffirms the importance of community ties. We can learn much from the Native American tradition of the potlatch. It is a tradition that values generosity above all else, and […]

Cleaning House

posted by Donna Henes

Our messy thinking and sloppy habits come more easily into focus when our surroundings are tidy and beautiful and filled with only what is meaningful, so that we can release them, as well. A thorough house cleaning, internal as well […]

Creating a Sacred Space in your Castle

posted by Donna Henes

The more conscious and respectful we become of the abiding presence and guiding force of our Selves, the more we feel inclined to spend time alone in Her excellent company. One way to honor these healing times of communion, of […]

Noting the Process

posted by Donna Henes

The mental part of our Self is not satisfied with simply accessing our intentions and motives. Our minds want to know what they mean and how they affect us. Our conscious, rational aspect craves order, information, comprehension. We humans seem […]

Digging Deep

posted by Donna Henes

The shamanic assumption from which I operate is that every person has her own significant mission in this lifetime: her own path, her own dreams, her own symbols and sensibilities, her own visions and designs, her own way of learning, […]

Loving Affirmation of My Self

posted by Donna Henes

I am a divine and beautiful being. I choose to live each moment with appreciation and complete acceptance of my own divinity and beauty. I choose to appreciate and accept the beauty in all beings and the perfect divinity in […]

Self Blessing

posted by Donna Henes

For some fifteen years now, the practice of Self Blessing has been the centerpiece of my personal spiritual practice as well as the many ceremonies and celebrations that I facilitate for others. When people are first introduced to the concept, […]

Mother Queen

posted by Donna Henes

What an extraordinarily exciting and gorgeous time of the year spring is. Life is bursting out all over. Buds, blossoms and babies everywhere! Is it any wonder that May is the month of the Goddess? And of the Mother? Like […]

My Morning ME time

posted by Donna Henes

Busy, busy, busy Queens are we. As much as I adore my work, I sometimes find it frustrating. Often my to-do list is longer at the end of the day than it was when I started in the morning. I […]

Autumn Equinox Ushers in the Season Of Ripe Maturity

posted by Donna Henes

The autumn ushers in the dark season. The season of diminished light. From now until the Vernal Equinox, six months hence, the nights are longer than the days. Shade and chill prevail. The year, the season, the sun, are slowing […]

Resolutions You Actually Keep

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

On Valentines and Vulvas

posted by Donna Henes

  From the beginning, women were exalted as the image, the echo, the counterpart companion of the Goddess. Their access to ecstasy, imbued with spiritual significance. As priestesses, they tended the fires and fanned the generative flames from Her sex, […]

Hibernating in Winter

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

An Angel Passes

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Have A Love Affair With Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Feed Your Self with Love

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

A White Bath

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

A Day in Bed Ritual

posted by Donna Henes

I am back! I ran away from home, as it were. I was so OVER everything — over-worked, over-committed, over-tired, over-whelmed, over-weight, completely overcome with responsibility. I needed a rest and I took it! As far as I can see, […]

New Year. Clean Start.

posted by Donna Henes

  Dear Queen Mama Donna, This has been the year from hell. I feel used, abused, and grimy. My entire life has gotten out of control. In my depression I have even let my normally orderly house go. My family […]

Into the Darkness

posted by Donna Henes

Into the Darkness By Max Dashu, CA I love December. It’s a powerful time to absorb knowledge, write, create art, chant, dance. To conjoin and celebrate, feast and rejoice in community or – my great pleasure at this season – […]

Winter Song O’ Mother Sun

posted by Donna Henes

  Winter Song O’ Mother Sun By Laurie Corzett   Winter homage to our waning Sun that she will return, feeding us with light and heat, sweet energy. Mother Star, we enchant thee with ceremony, singing/dancing in glorious pageantry at […]

Festivals of Light in the Dark

posted by Donna Henes

A common theme of Winter Solstice ceremonies everywhere is the burning of fires to symbolically re-kindle the dwindling sun. People gather together to cheer on the ascendancy of the light, the victory of the very forces of life. The Hindu […]

Another Winter Solstice Prayer

posted by Donna Henes

  Winter Solstice Prayer By Pauline Alma   A M A, Earth Mother Who art all around us, And within us NOW Blessed be our creations. Give us this day, The strength and trust To acknowledge and surrender our fears […]

Winter Solstice Prayer

posted by Donna Henes

Today is the Winter Solstice, the first day of winter. The beginning point of the return of the light. I send blessings of illumination to all Queens everywhere. xxQueen Mama Donna   Winter Solstice Prayer by Mary Saracino, CO  www.marysaracino.com/ […]

The Sun is Born

posted by Donna Henes

It is from the state of original chaos, the elemental ether, the black void — The Great Uterine Darkness — that the old creatrix goddesses are said to have brought forth all that is. That the world started with the […]

Counting Down to The Winter Solstice

posted by Donna Henes

The light has been steadily retreating each day since the summer solstice, the longest day and shortest night of the year. Tip toeing slowly, silently away. The decrease has been so gradual that we barely noticed the almost imperceptible shift, […]

Baby, It’s Dark Outside

posted by Donna Henes

This, the week leading up to the Winter Solstice on December 21/22 is the darkest time of the year. True, the week following the solstice is just as dark, but the energy is different. After the solstice, the dark gets […]

Happy Santa Lucia Day!

posted by Donna Henes

Santa Lucia, “Holy Light,” is celebrated on December 13. Like Her sister-in-spirit, the Mexican Our Lady of Guadalupe, whose day is December 12, She is celebrated at the Winter Solstice according to the Julian calendar. Saint Lucy was a 2nd […]

Our Lady

posted by Donna Henes

I adore Our Lady of Guadalupe. I admire the creative images, amulets, and altars that She inspires. And I especially love the passionate adoration bestowed upon her by Her legions of devotees, among whom I am one. My huge loft […]

Black Friday

posted by Donna Henes

The Day after Thanksgiving is called Black Friday, which refers to the fact that it is the busiest shopping day in the year – and hopefully, with luck, the most lucrative, putting merchants well into the black. Good fortune on […]

For This, Let Us Be Thankful

posted by Donna Henes

  At the close of the growing season in autumn, people, like squirrels, like ants, like bees, get busy gathering the great bounty of the land. We forage and harvest, hunt and herd; industriously amassing the abundance proffered by the […]

Thanksgiving Feast

posted by Donna Henes

Hail Queens! The writing of this piece has been punctuated by a series of shopping runs and sous chef prep duties in anticipation of the Thanksgiving dinner that we are in the process of planning. I have been making lists […]

Happy Halloween

posted by Donna Henes

Congratulations to the three winners of Queen of My Self T-shirts: Lynn Caverly, NC Angel Rodriguez, AZ Joanna Stern, FL   I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the […]

Getting Rid Of

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Wear the Ring of the New!

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Autumn: Season Of Ripe Maturity

posted by Donna Henes

This is my 325 post. I would like to share this harvest by thanking you who read these words. So I am offering The Queen of My Self T-shirts to the first three people contact me at thequeenofmyself@aol.com and request […]

Birthday Party in the Sky

posted by Donna Henes

   I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Happy Birthday! – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Happy Birthday! – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Begin Again

posted by Donna Henes

  Fall always feels like New Year to me. It carries so much more significance than does January 1. The first crisp hint of a chill in September always shakes me out of my summer lethargy, wakes me, makes me […]

Have a Love Affair with Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Queen of Midsummer

posted by Donna Henes

  Today is Midsummer. The halfway point of summer is like a well-seasoned woman. The galloping growth and sweet blush of spring have slowed and faded in her sweltering heat. She’s slower now, and surer. Strong and steady. She’s salty […]

Peaches – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Summer of Lust

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

Honey Moon June for Gay Marriage!

posted by Donna Henes

  Gay marriage is finally legal in New York State! Hearty congratulations to everyone who supports equality, liberty and justice for all. And heartfelt best wishes for all those brides & brides and grooms & grooms who can now officially […]

Sun Goddesses

posted by Donna Henes

  In archaic times, people perceived the sun, in its shining prime and glory, the giver of heat and light and life, to be the effulgent force of the female. A passionate aspect of the Great Mother, the versatile Jill-of-All-Trades […]

Fiery Fetes of Summer

posted by Donna Henes

Happy Solstice! Though summer is the season of long, light, hot days, each day actually gets shorter, losing about two minutes of sunlight every 24 hours. Light is not lost lightly. Light equals life for most living things. The grim […]

The Summer Solstice: As Good As It Gets

posted by Donna Henes

The Summer Solstice is the longest day of the year in the Northern Hemisphere. The sun has been inching its way back into our lives ever since the Winter Solstice, the shortest day of the year. Rising slightly earlier each […]

Where Womyn Gather

posted by Donna Henes

  Congratulations to the winners of The Queen of My Self book giveaway: Terri Miller, FL Anna Mills, OH Clara Vaughan, MO Enjoy!   June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride […]

Merry Mary May Day

posted by Donna Henes

  May Day is an old European spring fertility and copulation festival held in honor of the trees and their mistresses, the virgin vegetation goddesses. Celebrated as Floralia by the Romans, Walpurgisnacht by the Teutons, Whitsuntide by the Dutch, and […]

Calling all Queens, Empresses and Ladies in Waiting

posted by Donna Henes

Calling all Queens, Empresses and Ladies in Waiting, The Queen is coming to Syracuse, New York on May 14 for a wonderful day at the fabulous Sanctuary Spa. If you have friends in the area, I would greatly appreciaten your […]

Blessings of the Pink Moon

posted by Donna Henes

We are now in the energy of the Pink Moon, the name used by the Iroquois peoples. I love that term. And it is so apt. Spring is about birth and new beginnings. The new season is tender and tentative […]

The Vernal Equinox: Hatching the World Egg

posted by Donna Henes

If the Winter Solstice signals the birth of the sun, then the Spring Equinox exclaims the birth of the Earth — the resurrection of nature from the dark death of winter. The life, which has stayed hidden, in exile or […]

On Valentines and Vulvas

posted by Donna Henes

From the beginning, women were exalted as the image, the echo, the counterpart companion of the Goddess. Their access to ecstasy, imbued with spiritual significance. As priestesses, they tended the fires and fanned the generative flames from Her sex, the […]

I Like Winter

posted by Donna Henes

We are now past the midpoint of winter. Spring will be here exactly one month from today, the realization of which would normally please me no end. I would have had my fill of dark and cold. But this year, […]

What the Groundhog Sees

posted by Donna Henes

 February 2 is the exact halfway point between the Winter Solstice and the Spring Equinox. It is the winter midpoint or cross-quarter day. The duskiest, coldest season is now officially half over! Though the Winter Solstice, the shortest day of […]

Midwinter Purification Rites

posted by Donna Henes

February 2 marks the exact halfway point of winter. Along with the two equinoxes, two solstices and the three other seasonal midpoints, it is one of the eight energy-filled sacred days in the pagan calendar. Purification is the recurrent mythic […]

Heart and Hearth

posted by Donna Henes

Winners of a copy of The Queen of My Self: Kathy Elkind, MAJoanna Matherson, WIYvette Rivera, CA Enjoy! Let us take a break from our ongoing explorations of women’s relationship to power. This week the posts will focus on the […]

Shine a Light on Winter Darkness

posted by Donna Henes

 Even though the post-solstice days are getting longer — by approximately two minutes a day — the accrual is so gradual that we don’t really notice it for quite a few weeks. In the meantime, most of us grow quickly […]

Entertaining A New Year

posted by Donna Henes

This fall I went to the 60th birthday party of a very old and dear friend. Due to budget constraints, the venue was the back room of a very funky bar. The refreshments consisted of pitchers of beer and sangria […]

Clean Sweep

posted by Donna Henes

Dear Queen Mama Donna, This has been the year from hell. I feel used, abused, and grimy. My entire life has gotten out of control. In my depression I have even let my normally orderly house go. My family is […]

Happy New Year!

posted by Donna Henes

New Year is a return to the eternal beginnings. Back to where there is only hope and promise and enthusiastic, well-intentioned energy. Back to the original big bang back seat cosmic conception. Back to the future. New Year is the […]

Festivals of Light – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

This week’s theme is the Winter Solstice and all the multicultural goddesses and festivals associated with the return of the light. The Mayan Indians of Guatemala perform a flying pole dance, palo voladare, in honor of the old, indigenous pre-Columbian […]

Festivals of Light – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

This week’s theme is the Winter Solstice and all the multicultural goddesses and festivals associated with the return of the light. Kwanzaa is an African American holiday, which has been celebrated during the solstice season since 1966 when it was […]

Festivals of Light

posted by Donna Henes

This week’s theme is the Winter Solstice and all the multicultural goddesses and festivals associated with the return of the light. A common theme of solstice ceremonies everywhere is the burning of fires to symbolically re-kindle the dwindling sun. People […]

Dance, Dance, Dance

posted by Donna Henes

This week’s theme is Dancing Queens. And Crones.To dance is to be out of yourself. Larger, more beautiful, more powerful. This is power, it is glory on earth and it is yours for the taking.– Agnes De Mille I see […]

Have A Love Affair With Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

A great way to pamper yourself with the attention and affection that we all crave — that we lavish on others, but never think to give to ourselves — is to have a love affair with your Self. These exercises […]

Blood for Bread

posted by Donna Henes

At the harvest, one can easily imagine that the Earth Goddess has offered up Her life in the form of the fruits of the land, and that in doing so, She commits the supreme sacrifice. She expends all of Her […]

The Full Harvest Moon Queen

posted by Donna Henes

The full moon that occurs closest to the equinox in the fall, the huge, orange Full Harvest Moon is the most spectacular of the year. Because it rises right on the horizon just as the sun sets, it assumes a […]

The Autumnal Equinox

posted by Donna Henes

The Autumn Equinox today ushers in the dark season. The season of diminished light. From now until the Vernal Equinox, six months hence, the nights will be longer than the days. Shade and chill prevail. The year, the season, the […]

Birthday Pleasures

posted by Donna Henes

Yesterday was my birthday. Those many years ago, I was born on my mother’s birthday. As a child, I was absolutely enchanted by this bit of information. Did I come all wrapped in ribbons, I would ask? Were there balloons? […]

Letting Go of All that Does Not Serve

posted by Donna Henes

On my birthday last year, a friend presented me with a gorgeous amber necklace that she had gotten in Russia twenty years ago before she immigrated to the United States. Though she felt that it did not suit her, she […]

Labor Day Time Out

posted by Donna Henes

On Labor Day, I thought I would honor non-labor, non-work, non-doing — just being. And I plan to celebrate on my back. On the first page of Even Cowgirls Get the Blues by Tom Robbins; his character calls in “well” […]

Blessings for a Smooth Mercury in Retrograde

posted by Donna Henes

Mercury, the planet of communication enters its thrice a year retrograde stage on August 20 and will remain in a backward momentum, as it were, until September 12. Mercury in retrograde has a very bad rap. I should know. As […]

House Cleaning From the Inside Out

posted by Donna Henes

A thorough house cleaning, internal as well as external, is a fabulous way to delineate the purpose of our lives. Letting go of the inessential creates an elegant order to our existence. An orderly house always seems like the invitation […]

Letting Go of All that Does Not Serve

posted by Donna Henes

On my birthday last year, a friend presented me with a gorgeous amber necklace that she had gotten in Russia twenty years ago before she immigrated to the United States. Though she felt that it did not suit her, she […]

Noting the Process of Noting the Process

posted by Donna Henes

The mental part of our Self is not satisfied with simply accessing our intentions and motives. Our minds want to know what they mean and how they affect us. Our conscious, rational aspect craves order, information, comprehension. We humans seem […]

Bless Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

For some fifteen years now, the practice of Self Blessing has been the centerpiece of my personal spiritual practice as well as the many ceremonies and celebrations that I facilitate for others. When people are first introduced to the concept, […]

Queen of the Summer Solstice

posted by Donna Henes

Among the most archaic images of the sun is as the brilliant radiance, which clothes the Great Goddess. The great Mother of the pre-Islamic peoples of Southern Arabia was the sun, Atthar, or Al-Ilat. In Mesopotamia She was called Arinna, […]

Entertaining a New Year

posted by Donna Henes

This fall I went to the 60th birthday party of a very old and dear friend. Due to budget constraints, the venue was the back room of a very funky bar. The refreshments consisted of pitchers of beer and sangria […]

Clean Sweep

posted by Donna Henes

Dear Queen Mama Donna, This has been the year from hell. I feel used, abused, and grimy. My entire life has gotten out of control. In my depression I have even let my normally orderly house go. My family is […]

Happy New Year!

posted by Donna Henes

New Year is a return to the eternal beginnings. Back to where there is only hope and promise and enthusiastic, well-intentioned energy. Back to the original big bang back seat cosmic conception. Back to the future. New Year is the […]

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