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It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first.

 

Sex Goddess

By Maggie Estep 

I am THE SEX GODDESS OF THE WESTERN HEMISPHERE

so don’t mess with me

I’ve got a big bag full of SEX TOYS

and you can’t have any

’cause they’re all mine

’cause I’m

the SEX GODDESS OF THE WESTERN HEMISPHERE.

 

 

“Hey,” you may say to yourself,

“who the hell’s she tryin’ to kid,

she’s no sex goddess,”

But trust me,

I am

if only for the fact that I have

the unabashed gall

to call

myself a SEX GODDESS,

I mean, after all,

it’s what so many of us have at some point thought,

we’ve all had someone

who worshipped our filthy socks

and barked like a dog when we were near

giving us cause

to pause and think: You know, I may not look like much

but deep inside, I am a SEX GODDESS.

 

Only

we’d never come out and admit it publicly

well, you wouldn’t admit it publicly

but I will

because I am

THE SEX GODDESS OF THE WESTERN HEMISPHERE.

 

 

I haven’t always been

a SEX GODDESS

I used to be just a mere mortal woman

but I grew tired of sexuality being repressed

then manifest

in late night 900 number ads

where 3 bodacious bimbettes

heave cleavage into the camera’s winking lens and sigh:

 

 

“Big Girls oooh, Bad Girls oooh, Blonde Girls oooh,

you know what to do, call 1-900-UNMITIGATED BIMBO ooooh.”

 

 

Yeah

I got fed up with the oooh oooh oooh oooh oooh

I got fed up with it all

so I put on my combat boots

and hit the road with my bag full of SEX TOYS

that were a vital part of my SEX GODDESS image

even though I would never actually use

my SEX TOYS

’cause my being a SEX GODDESS

it isn’t a SEXUAL thing

it’s a POLITICAL thing

I don’t actually have SEX, no

I’m too busy taking care of

important SEX GODDESS BUSINESS,

yeah,

I gotta go on The Charlie Rose Show

and MTV and become a parody

of myself and make

buckets full of money off my own inane brand

of self-righteous POP PSYCHOLOGY

because my pain is different

because I am a SEX GODDESS

and when I talk,

people listen

why ?

Because, you guessed it,

I AM THE SEX GODDESS OF THE WESTERN HEMISPHERE

and you’re not.

 

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Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She is the Midlife Midwife™ offering counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

 

 

 

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first.

 

Sex Gets Better With Age

The Daily Mail, UK

Most women dread the march of time and the wrinkles, grey hairs and expanding waistlines that come with it.

But there is at least one thing to look forward to as they grow older – better sex.

A survey published today says women over 35 make love more than they did in their twenties.

Not only that, they reckon sex at that age is better than ever.

The findings will come as no surprise to stars such as Joan Collins, Goldie Hawn and Cher, who have enjoyed healthy love lives well into their fifties and, in Miss Collins’s case, beyond.

The 67-year-old former Dynasty beauty recently left her 42-year-old partner of the last 13 years, Robin Hurlstone, for an even younger man -theatre manager Percy Gibson, 35.

Neither actress has ever had any truck with the idea that sex begins to lose its appeal for women once they have had children or become deeply involved in their careers.

The survey, for a new women’s magazine called Your Life, suggests the typical British woman is in full agreement.

It involved one-to-one home interviews with professional women aged 35 and over across Britain.

Eighty-nine per cent of those questioned agreed sex had got better with age.

Most said they made love more now than at the beginning of their relationships.

Some 75 per cent of the women said they were happy with their sex lives. This figure increased to 82 per cent among those currently in a relationship, with the married women seemingly the happiest overall.

Sixty-two per cent of the women put their healthy sex lives down to the sexual liberation of women, which came with the introduction of the Pill in the 1960s. They believed the so-called permissive society improved women’s lives for the better.

A quarter admitted taking advantage of that climate by cheating on a partner while in a long-term relationship.

And a surprising 71 per cent of those who confessed to infidelity declared that they had no regrets about their indiscretions.

The women questioned told Your Life they had had an average of five sexual partners.

Only 21 per cent of them claimed to have had more.

Caroline Neill, chairman of the British Housewives League, said of the survey findings yesterday: “Couples in a happy marriage will do better. But they have to work at it sometimes. There can be bad times. But if the couple are committed to one another they get through them.”

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Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She is the Midlife Midwife™ offering counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

 

 

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first.

For some women, the noticeable reduction in vaginal fluid during menopause is a sexual deterrent as it may take longer to become aroused and penetration may become irritating. But a little dryness down there doesn’t stop the lusty Queen. That’s why the Goddess invented cocoa butter.

Unguent and lotions and moisturizing potions are really quite sexy. Experiment with commercial lubricants or try rubbing yourself with some honey, fragrant coconut cream, almond, walnut, avocado, or olive oil, sweet Danish butter, molasses, chocolate syrup, or whatever tickles your fancy. Think of it as a way of blessing yourself with the power of your own pleasure.

Enjoy!

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Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She is the Midlife Midwife™ offering counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.  Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™

***

The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first.

 

These early vibrators looked like excruciating medieval torture devices or something more suitable for use on the kitchen counter or in an automotive garage.

The electric vibrator had its inception in 1869 with the invention of a steam-powered massager, patented by an American doctor. This device was designed as a medical tool for treating “female disorders.” Within 20 years a British doctor followed up with a more portable battery-operated model and by 1900, dozens of styles of electric vibrators were available to the discriminating medical professional.

In 1899, the vibrator was introduced as a home medical appliance. They were electrified ten years before either the washing machine or the vacuum cleaner. They appeared in magazine advertisements by 1904. Good Housekeeping ran a “tried and tested” on vibrators in 1909, claiming they brought a glow to the face. An ad in a 1918 Sears Roebuck catalog of “aids that every woman appreciates” described a $5.95 portable model as “very useful and satisfactory for home service.”

By the 1920s, doctors had abandoned hands-on physical treatments for hysteria in favor of psychotherapeutic techniques. But vibrators continued to have an active commercial life in which they were marketed as cure-alls for ills ranging from headaches and asthma to “fading beauty” and even tuberculosis!

The best sex I have ever had was with my vibrator. – Eva Longoria

The ad copy for these vibrators was coy and ambiguous. “Be a glow getter,” one package insert suggests. And who wouldn’t be tempted to experience “that delicious, thrilling health-restoring sensation called vibration,” when assured that “it makes you fairly tingle with the joy of living”? The vibrator’s usefulness for masturbation was never acknowledged; however, as vibrators began appearing in erotic stag films of the 1920s, it became difficult to ignore their sexual function. Probably as a result, advertisements for vibrators gradually disappeared from respectable publications.

To this day, electric vibrators are marketed solely as massagers and manufacturers steadfastly ignore their sexual benefits. Vibrators are now a big business; they are sold through drug stores, department stores and even the Sears catalog. They are also sold at sex shops where they are proudly promoted as the superior sex toys they are.

Betty Dodson, who is known as the “godmother of the masturbation movement,” recalls how a male lover suggested that they experiment with a barber’s scalp massager. It produced spectacular orgasms that led to a crusade on her part to show women how to use vibrators. Her message was consistent: “Independent orgasm, I guarantee, will lead to independent thoughts.”

A woman with a well-stocked toy drawer isn’t dependent on anyone and is unlikely to hurl herself at a lowlife just for nooky. – Arianne Coheb

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Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She is the Midlife Midwife™ offering counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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