The Queen of My Self

The Queen of My Self

Hail The Martyr Queen of Myanmar

posted by Donna Henes

On Saturday, Aung San Suu Kyi, the Burmese human rights and democracy leader, Nobel Peace Prize Laureate and folk shero was released from the house arrest in Myanmar that has kept her a prisoner for much of the last twenty years. She is now 65-years old, and as radiant, charismatic and determined as ever. She has evoked tremendous support from people all over the world who see in her the potential to be a major force in creating a global vision of the possibility of a peaceful and humane way of living. The inspiration for a powerful new paradigm.

Here is the article that I wrote about her in the inaugural issue of The Queen’s Chronicles in October 2007.

Hail The Martyr Queen of Myanmar

Though the recent protests in Myanmar have been lead by Buddhist monks, the real moral leader of the country once known as Burma is Aung San Suu Kyi, the most powerful individual in a country of nearly 50 million people.

At 62, she is hauntingly beautiful and elegant. Delicate, she weighs barely 100 pounds, and often wears a colorful flower in her hair. But despite her demure appearance, she is a woman of steely resolve who has devoted her life to the struggle for democracy in Myanmar at great personal expense.

It is her resolve and example that has inspired her sister and brother citizens in today’s struggle. She is frequently called Daw Aung San Suu Kyi. Daw is not part of her name, but an honorific similar to madam for older, revered women, literally meaning “aunt.” Or, shall we say “Queen!”

She is the daughter of Burma’s most famous general who freed the country from British rule in 1947. Suu Kyi spent her childhood in Myanmar, but continued her education overseas in England, where she met and married college professor Dr. Michael Aris.

She and Aris had two sons together, and were living an idyllic life in Bhutan when she received word that her mother, back in Myanmar, had fallen ill. Suu Kyi decided to fly home temporarily to nurse her mother — but her plans quickly changed.

When Suu Kyi arrived in Myanmar in 1988, the streets were full of monks, students, and workers protesting the rise of the new military regime. During the protests, more than 3000 demonstrators were massacred on the orders of the brutal new government.

Once her duties to her mother had been fulfilled, Daw Suu Kyi made the painful decision to stay in Myanmar and take action against the junta that was destroying all the freedoms that her father had won for the people. For her, the choice was clear: “I could not, as my father’s daughter, remain indifferent to all that was going on,” she said in a speech.

“It is not power that corrupts, but fear. Fear of losing power corrupts those who wield it and fear of the scourge of power corrupts those who are subject to it.”

She soon became the unlikely leader of a sweeping movement for change. She organized peaceful rallies and gave speeches that called for free elections, democratic reform, and human rights. In 1990, Queen Suu Kyi and her party won an overwhelming victory in the country’s democratic elections. But she was arrested by the junta before she could assume her rightful post as Prime Minister. She is still, after 17 years, under detention.

For her devotion and strength, Suu Kyi was honored with the Freedom of Thought award in 1990. In 1991 she was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize for her peaceful and non-violent struggle under a military dictatorship – making her the world’s only imprisoned Nobel Peace Prize recipient. She used the Nobel’s $1.3 million prize money to create a health and education trust for the people of Myanmar.

Suu Kyi’s conviction to her country has cost her dearly. She’s lost not only her freedom, but her family as well. She is separated from her sons who live in England. And tragically, she never had the chance to say goodbye to her husband before his death in 1999.

Today, Queen Aung San Suu Kyi remains under house arrest, but her spirits are as strong as ever. “I’ve always felt free because they have not been able to do anything to what really mattered,” she told ABC News. “And once you’re free inside, once you feel, ‘I can accept something that happens to me as long as I am working for something right’ … then I think you are free.”

“The only real prison is fear, and the only real
freedom is freedom from fear.”

May we take her courage to heart and be inspired to defend what is fair and right and good.

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I Am a Divine and Beautiful Being

posted by Donna Henes

I AM A DIVINE AND BEAUTIFUL BEING.

I CHOOSE TO LIVE EACH MOMENT WITH APPRECIATION AND
COMPLETE ACCEPTANCE OF MY OWN DIVINITY AND BEAUTY.

I CHOOSE TO APPRECIATE AND ACCEPT THE BEAUTY IN ALL
BEINGS AND THE PERFECT DIVINITY IN EACH MOMENT.

I OPEN MY HEART TO THE POSSIBILITY OF LOVE AND BENEFIT
FROM EVERY BEING AND EACH MOMENT.

I PURGE MYSELF OF ALL DOUBT, NEGATIVITY, JUDGMENTAL
TENDENCIES, GUILT, PANIC, AND FEARFUL THINKING.

I ALWAYS SEEK THAT WHICH I NEED TO GROW, TO BUD, TO
BLOOM, TO BLOSSOM, TO FRUIT, TO BEAR SEED.

I DARE TO DRAW INTO MYSELF THE POSITIVE MANIFESTATION OF
EACH TRIAL AND DIFFICULTY; THE RIGHTNESS OF EVERY LESSON.

I BREATHE DEEPLY AND SAVOR THE LOVE AND BENEFIT THAT
SURROUNDS AND EMBRACES MY LIFE AS I LIVE IT EACH MOMENT.

I FORGIVE MYSELF WITH EACH BREATH I TAKE AND RENEW MY TRANCEFORMATIVE INTENTIONS WITH EVERY BEAT OF MY HEART.

I GLORY IN THE GOODNESS AND RIGHTNESS OF ALL THAT I
ENCOUNTER AND ALL THAT I AM.

I AM A DIVINE AND BEAUTIFUL BEING.

- DONNA HENES

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Being Pleased With Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

I recently received this wonderfully refreshing letter from a sister Queen who is definitely pleased with her Self:

…Despite the anticipation and the promise of something potentially special, he was not attractive to me. And I think that’s important — that although I have had my misgivings about meeting someone as I am — overweight and older — I felt attractive and lively and lovely and charming and desirable in many ways. My inner womanly, Queenly core, was quite strong — it never dawned on me to feel less than attractive. And I thank all you Queens for helping me to feel that. Our circle of love and faith in one another has just added to the pool, the large pond, the lake, the sea of deep-rooted sense of Good Self that stays, no matter what…
- A fan of The Queen of My Self

Brava! You go, girl!

It gets easier as you get older. You accept yourself for who you are – your flaws and your attributes. It’s easier to live in your own skin.
- Barbra Streisand

And then I received this perfect follow up from a subscriber to The Queen’s Chronicles:

The Heart Is The Home of Wonder

Breathe in the warmth of this place, allowing yourself to feel a sense of welcome
It is your own love, your own beauty that beckons you inside
How long has it been, since you have crossed this threshold?
The door has always been open, the invitation always extended
Will you accept it now?

Through the windows streams sunlight, casting rainbow designs on the walls
As prism glass reflects the scattered sparkling illumination
The floor beneath your feet is soft
Caressing your skin as you tap your bare toes on its surface
Daring to dance upon it to the lilting music that only you can hear.

The table is set with all manner of lusciousness
Nourishment for body and soul awaits you
Always plenty to savor and share; a bounty spread before you
Every imaginable treat to delight your senses
The sweet aroma that curls around you.

The mirror on the wall reflects your exquisite nature
As you gaze into the eyes of the One who has been with you
Through all eternity, questioning what has kept you from recognizing
Your own ineffable Divinity
Express your adoration for the Goddess who winks back at you.

Feel the all-embracing comfort of this structure that was created
Brick by brick, log by log, though your daily intention
The experiences and the people you draw into your world
The thoughts that permeate your mind
The wild magic of your infinite imagination.

- Edie Weinstein, PA

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

Mirror, Mirror

posted by Donna Henes

Like most women, I can’t help but notice the parts of myself that have slumped and sagged as I’ve aged. The bags under my eyes now have over-night valises of their own. The veins in my legs and on the backs of my hands are starting to show through in blue. And forget my figure. Everything not tied down has long since fallen: my breasts, my belly, my once taut neck. I can easily commiserate with the South African writer Nadine Gordimer, who once commented, “I’m forty-nine but I could be twenty-five except for my face and legs.”

But do I mind? Not really.

I love the fact that we lose our vision and our youthful beauty at the same time. What we can’t see can’t hurt us. It is a brilliant kindness to our vanity that reinforces in me the belief that God is surely a Goddess. And who wears her reading glasses when gazing into a mirror? As I squint at myself while trying to keep my lipstick confined to the general vicinity of my lips, I think “Well, hey. I don’t look so bad!” If beauty is all in the eyes of the beholder, the blinder to flaws the better.

The simple and irrefutable truth is that as we age, we change. The Queen knows about change and embraces it with magnanimous grace and good humor, as part and parcel of the ongoing mythic adventure of Her life. When someone told Gloria Steinem that she didn’t look forty, she famously replied, “This is how forty looks.” And that goes double now that she is heading toward 80.

The Queen refuses to condescend or conform to the adolescent and exploitative standard of beauty promulgated by popular culture. She does not deign to compare herself with teenage models or emaciated-lifted-stitched-tucked-injected-Hollywood-uber-beauties.

I’ve had so much plastic surgery, when I die they will donate my body to Tupperware.
- Joan Rivers

Tens of millions strong, we women in midlife are busily engaged in the process of rewriting the rules of beauty, style and sexiness as we explore, express and celebrate the diverse parameters of our own individual appeal.

Queens that we are, we understand that there is a difference between looking young and looking attractive — between, for that matter, looking attractive and being attractive. A truly mature, secure woman accepts the inevitable physical changes that come with the passing of time and incorporates them into the way she presents herself to the world.

The striking results of a recent poll of midlife women showed that almost 48 % of the respondents were “completely” satisfied and another44% were “somewhat” satisfied by the way they looked.” That is an astonishing 92% in all! Nearly nine out of ten women — 88%  — indicated that they were pleased with their appearance, period, age not being a factor. But even while these women were generally so accepting of their appearance, the study revealed that the highest priorities of these women as they aged were internal. Ninety-five percent of them said that feeling good about themselves was “essential.”

It matters more what’s in a woman’s face than what’s on it.
-Claudette Colbert

Self-aware, Self-assured, the Queen transforms Her Self as She goes. She glows as She grows into Her full potential, and becomes ever more becoming. Her reinvigorated attractiveness stems from Self-knowledge and enfranchisement, Her magnetic sensuality is centered in the fulfillment and satisfaction of Her Self-worth. She exudes the intoxicating appeal of a woman who is at heart, pleased with Her Self.

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

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