The Queen of My Self

The Queen of My Self

True to Myself

posted by Donna Henes

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story.
 

True to Myself
By Queenie, Diabetic Queen

Do you remember being in middle and high school and following the crowd? Maybe you were strong and did not ever do that, but I did occasionally. I’m an introvert and like to please people, so sometimes it was just easier to go along with the group than say what I really wanted or felt. I know I still sometimes do this, but just because I like to get along with people. I don’t like having people not like me. For example, if I read a post on a blog that I don’t agree with, I don’t need to write it out. I can just think it instead.

This year I’ve become much more true to myself. If I don’t want to do something while around people, I don’t. If I do want to do something while around others, I do. I feel that the results of living my life this way have been incredibly beneficial. I’ve had a pretty good last 5 months of 2010, and December isn’t even over yet. I love my friends, have a wonderful class this year, have run well, and just overall really enjoy life. I do what I want to do, and act how I want to act. It is a freeing feeling. I’m living for me, having complete control over what I do, and love it. Now that I type that, it sounds very self-centered and egocentric. Although I’m focusing on being true to myself, I still make room for others, and gladly. Being true to myself has made me less introverted. It has allowed me to love my life, and for that I am grateful.

Are you true to yourself? What benefits have you reaped from being true to yourself?

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story.

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

CONSULT THE MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™
Queen Mama Donna offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.

Confidence Queen

posted by Donna Henes

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story.
 
Confidence Queen

Genny Jones, a 49-year old woman of African descent living in Kent, England turned her life around after experiencing a severely “devastating” divorce. She sought counseling following her heartbreak and ultimately succeeded in discovering a well spring of Self-worth, which boosted her confidence exponentially.

So much so that she started a new business called Confidence Queen and ended up showcasing her unique brand of self-empowerment on television. She is now appearing on a BBC hit comedy series, Genius, where contestants seek to convince a panel of comedians and a guest audience that their particular Genius idea is the best.

What is her Genius Idea and the secret of her successful transformation? Queen Jenny maintains that the secret to self-assured happiness is the Confident Song that she made up.

“It started out as a fun thing I did for my kids, who I got to make up the lyrics. I’d dress up and sing for them, she explained. “I then started doing it in schools and found the kids loved it. I remember one child, Joe, coming up to me after a visit and saying he had gone swimming and been too afraid to dive. He’d remembered my song and started singing: ‘I’m a confident kid’ and was able to do it.”

The success of her message spurred her on to make her song public. She started by posting a one-minute version on YouTube. Then she contacted Britain’s Got Talent rapper DJ Talent, who advised her to approach the show Genius.

So she did. “I’m there with around 20 or 30 others who all have these mad ideas. I had to get up and teach them the song and the dance. It was a bit embarrassing but I met some wonderful people and as we were leaving they were all coming out singing my song” she crowed with glee.

“It was all good fun and hopefully it will help a few more people to find confidence.”

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story.

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

CONSULT THE MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™
Queen Mama Donna offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.

The One Flaw In Women

posted by Donna Henes

Women have strengths that amaze men…..
They bear hardships and they carry burdens,
but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy
and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up to injustice.
They don’t take “no” for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel
and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about
a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member,
yet they are strong when they
think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss
can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They’ll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you
to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what
makes the world keep turning.
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideas.
They give moral support to their
family and friends.
Women have vital things to say
and everything to give.
HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN,
IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH
.

This poem has been making the email rounds for quite some time. I have received it many times. I googled it to see if I could find who had written it, and found pages and pages of websites and blogs that have printed it — all without attribution. Not even the un-name, Anonymous.

Interesting that the author of these good words did not heed them when it came time for her to claim ownership of her own work.

How many of us do that? Don’t stake a claim to our own accomplishments? Feel demure in the presence of recognition or praise. Don’t embrace our successes?

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories of and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story.

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

CONSULT THE MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™
Queen Mama Donna offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.

Native Sheros – Part 5

posted by Donna Henes


On Thanksgiving, we always tell the story about how the native people helped the pilgrims to survive and ultimately thrive in the new world. This is well and good, but there are so many other inspiring stories that could be told about the many purposeful, powerful Native American women who influenced the formation of this country.

I recently came across Woman Spirit, a fascinating web page by Julia White, of Cherokee and Sioux heritage. She writes:

 “From the beginning of time, Native women have been a driving force in their cultures. When the explorers came to the shores of North America, they provided valuable information and services, which still carries their mark today. Sadly, little has been written about these women, and little is known.”

In honor of Native American Heritage Month, this week I will share in my own words some information that I gleaned about exceptional native Sheros thanks to Julia White’s research.

Kaitchkona Winema
Modoc

When she was young, Winema was called Nonooktowa, “the strange child,” because she had no fear of man or beast. Strong and athletic, she led an adventurous life, hunting grizzly bears, fighting beside the men in battle, and skillfully handling canoes in white water rapids.

The California gold rush brought more and more miners and settlers onto Modoc land, raising the tension level between the two groups. Winema married a Kentucky miner named Frank Riddle and worked tirelessly as interpreter, negotiator and peacemaker to avoid war.

The government removed the Modoc forcibly from their California home onto a reservation in Oregon. The Modoc who fled the hated reservation were pursued by government forces. Though they resisted fiercely, the Modocs were almost completely exterminated.

Washington sent a peace commission to get the Modoc back on the reservation. But the Modocs had experienced too much treachery by the government and reacted with hatred and mistrust. A plan was hatched to defy the white government by killing the three peace commissioners.

Winema discovered the plot and rode out to warn the commissioners of the danger. The head of the delegation, an army general, refused to take the warning by an Indian woman seriously. He was killed, as was his second in command. The third commissioner, Albert Meacham, was injured and Winema managed to get him out of the camp and save his life.

This attack led to the Modoc War. The conflict continued for nearly a year before the Modoc were finally defeated, their leaders executed.

Despite the vicious attack he survived, Meacham was a dedicated champion of Native rights. Determined to tell the full story of the events which led to the Modoc War, he produced a lecture-play entitled “Winema,” a tribute to Winema’s courage and humanity.

He formed a troupe of players — Winema, her husband, her son and a number of other Modoc — and took his act on the road. The group enjoyed a highly successful 7-year long tour of the East.

The Winema National Forest in South Central Oregon is named for her.

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

CONSULT THE MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™
Queen Mama Donna offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.
 

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