The Queen of My Self

The Queen of My Self

The Fiery Autumn Queen

posted by Donna Henes

The Four Fold Goddess of my new archetype corresponds to the four season, directions, elements, phases of the moon and times of the day. I associate the Queen stage of a woman’s life with autumn, west, fire, sunset and the waning moon.

The Autumn Queen, who is past Her reproductive years, has never been differentiated in legend from the Winter Crone, although they are clearly not the same. The Queen, though not yet old, is quite aware that the passing of time is no longer in Her favor. However, She is not concerned with the business of winding down Her life, but rather living it to the max, before it grows too late. The Queen refuses to go softly into the dark night. She bursts into glorious flame like a dramatic sunset in the western sky, where Her lingering orange and red cast colors the ambiance of the long evening hours with warm assurance. Dressed in the fabulous splendor of fall foliage, She is ignited with a fiery patina, glowing from within. She is fire personified.

As the seasons turn, Her focus gets sharper and more concentrated like the round moon that is waning. To compare the Queen to the waning moon might at first seem negative, as “waning” implies decay, ebbing, deterioration, and loss. But, the energy of the moon is not in decline, nor is it getting smaller in size. The moon is always strong, always full, always brightly reflective. It is only our limited perspective that makes it seem like it is shrinking, darkening, losing its luminous potency, and disappearing into death. The Queen, like the moon past full, concentrates Her wealth of experience. She is committed to honing, toning, distilling, condensing, defining, refining and honoring Her Self. As She ages, the Queen becomes a rich reduction, infused with the intense bouquet of the flower that She once was, heightened by the fruit that She has become. Like a fine broth or brandy, She is less liquid, more juice.
 
Trees are not known for their leaves, nor even by their blossoms, but by their fruit.
- Queen Eleanor of Aquitaine

The Queen of the Crop surveys Her realm and prepares to take in Her harvest. But before She gathers in the fruits of Her labors, She must create a sturdy receptacle for Her collection of bounty, a vessel worthy of Her own value. Our harvest is more than collecting our due. If we are to survive on what we have produced and grown, we have to do more than simply pick our crops. We have to have ways and means of making the supplies last, preserving them safely for the future. The Queen strives to develop sustainable and renewable strategies and sources of support. She is the Queen of the world, divine director and administrator of resources and systems — Her own and those of society around Her.

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

 

Loving Affirmation of My Self

posted by Donna Henes


I am a divine and beautiful being.

I choose to live each moment with appreciation and
complete acceptance of my own divinity and beauty.

I choose to appreciate and accept the beauty in all
beings and the perfect divinity in each moment.

I open my heart to the possibility of love and benefit
from every being and each moment.

I purge myself of all doubt, negativity, judgmental
tendencies, guilt, panic, and fearful thinking.

I always seek that which I need to grow, to bud, to
bloom, to blossom, to fruit, to bear seed.

I dare to draw into myself the positive manifestation of
each trial and difficulty; the rightness of every lesson.

I breathe deeply and savor the love and benefit that
surrounds and embraces my life as I live it each moment.

I forgive myself with each breath I take and renew my
transformative intentions with every beat of my heart.

I glory in the goodness and rightness of all that I
encounter and all that I am.

I am a divine and beautiful being.

©Donna Henes

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of
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Bless Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

For some fifteen years now, the practice of Self Blessing has been the centerpiece of my personal spiritual practice as well as the many ceremonies and celebrations that I facilitate for others. When people are first introduced to the concept, they are often taken aback and suddenly shy. “Bless myself? Am I qualified? Isn’t that blasphemy?”

Surely we are each the most appropriate dispenser of our own blessings. Who but we ourselves really understand what we have been through, what we have gained and won, what we still need and desire, what we honor and aspire to? And who but we is dedicated to actualizing our own dreams? Learning how to bless our Selves, and doing so often and without embarrassment, is truly our crowning achievement.

Bless your Self every day in order to focus, facilitate, and enhance that mighty, internal energy-for-change which is your own best Self. The gift of Self Blessing is one that keeps on giving. The more you bless yourself, the more you will bless your Self. The more you value and validate your Self, the more compassionate toward your Self you will become.

The more worthy you feel, the more you trust your Self, listen to your Self, and discipline your Self. The more you bless your Self, the more you will count your blessings, and the more blessed you, yourself, become. Where blessing is concerned, more is definitely more.

There are two kinds of blessings: those that acknowledge and celebrate your growth and accomplishments, and those that proffer offerings of encouragement for that which you still hope to do.

Bless your Self as worthy. Congratulate your Self. Hug your Self close. Pat your Self on the back with pride. Pinch your own cheek with delight. Bow down and kiss your feet!

Bless your Self with words. It is important to articulate your blessing. Try verbalizing your thoughts out loud. Don’t worry about what to say or how to say it. Speak to your deepest Self spontaneously, from your heart. There can be no such thing as a bad blessing. It is a contradiction in terms. If your intention is positive, so will be your blessing.

The range of possibilities of ways to bless your Self is as boundless as your imagination. Be specific, creative and outrageous.

You can bless your Self with special oil. Anoint the crown of your head with the intention to concentrate on your intention.

You can bless your Self every time you apply your lipstick. “I bless my Self. I bless what I put into my mouth and I bless what comes out of my mouth.”

You can bless your Self with a scarf or a muffler. “I bless my Self. I wrap my Self with protection and surround my Self with love.”

You can bless your Self with a sheet or blanket when you get into bed each night. “I bless my Self. I cover my Self with confidence, with affection, with appreciation, with support.”

You can bless your Self with soap in the shower every morning. “I bless my Self. I cleanse my Self of impurities, insecurities and all negative thinking.”

You can bless your Self with unguents and lotions, applying them with loving affection. I bless my Self. I soothe and caress and embrace my Self and ease away all my troubles.”

You can bless your Self each time you sneeze. “I bless my Self. Goddess bless me!”

The more you bless your Self, the more you believe it.

The more you believe it, the more you project it.

The more you project it, the more you attract it.

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

 

 

Coming Home to the Self

posted by Donna Henes

Speaking of the Self, here is a piece by Sister Joan Chittister, the popular Catholic spiritual writer. It landed propitiously in my mailbox whilst I was in the midst of working on these recent posts on the Self. Good timing, Sister Queen!

Coming Home to the Self

We are a culture of misfits — not because there is anything wrong with us as a people but because we are accustomed to becoming things we aren’t. So we don’t fit into our own souls. Our schools put out students to fit the economy, for instance, rather than the heart. Good thinkers go into accounting rather than philosophy because accounting pays more. Fine writers go into law because law is more prestigious. Young people with artistic talent go into computer science because computer programming or hotel management or engineering are full of “opportunities” — read “money” — that a water-colorist lacks.

The problem is that when we do not do what we are clearly made to do we are doomed. We spend the rest of our lives looking for the missing piece of ourselves that we lost before we knew we had it.

Then we wonder why the work we do bores us, no matter how many cars we have, no matter how beautiful the vacation house may be. We can’t figure out why we still feel restless about life. We wonder what it is that isn’t right: the schedule, the children, the marriage, the place.

We lose a taste for life.

Then, it is time go give ourselves the space and means to become again. We need to rearrange the furniture of life to make way for the essence of life: We need to set up an easel and paint. We need to start the woodworking we always wanted to do. We need to take the courses we always wish we had. We need to join the book clubs that talk about the things we are interested in discussing. We need to begin to knit and cook and write and garden. We need to do those unfinished, unstarted, undeveloped things in us that ring the bell of bliss and authenticity. Then life will become life again and all the rust of it will wear away. When we become what we know ourselves to be, we will come home to ourselves.

The rabbis put it this way: “Rabbi,” the disciple asked, “what shall I do to be saved?” And the Rabbi said, “How should I know? Abraham practiced hospitality and was saved. Elias loved to pray and was saved. David ruled a kingdom and God was with him. Follow the deepest inclination of your heart and you, too, will be saved.”

When we live from the inside out rather than from the outside in, everything in life begins to fit.

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

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