The Queen of My Self

The Queen of My Self

A Woman Recognizes Potential in Herself

posted by Donna Henes

For the rest of the week, I will continue posting stories of and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story. And many thanks to those of you who answered the call.

A Woman Recognizes Potential in Herself

By Kristin Ward, NY
 
Every second gives us a new opportunity to be better, so I — a single, home-schooling, graphic-designer mother of three — decided to try to do better for myself in a big way.

I became tired of being mousy-brown and invisible. I became tired of having low expectations for myself and the people around me. I became tired of living my life in a constant state of fear. We all have this amazing potential. What if we try to reach toward that?

So earlier this fall, I began seeking my inner queen. I gave away old clothes in an attempt to find a new look that would express my womanhood and majesty.

I bought a new wardrobe. I’m on a tight budget, so I shopped at used-clothing stores and now wear mostly formal vintage dresses.

What we choose to wear expresses how we feel about ourselves. I want to feel feminine. Instead of wearing baggy jeans that never fit me properly and make me feel blah, I want to wear things that fit me perfectly and make me feel beautiful and powerful.

What has been strange is the attention coming my way, when I’m dropping my kids off at the YMCA or shopping at Wegman’s.

When people see me walking around formally dressed, they often stop and ask me where I’m going, or they just smile and say hello — a big difference from when I was mousy-brown and invisible. They ask me why I’m so dressed up. I tell them that it’s an experiment I’m doing, in order to love myself and to raise my expectations. Some people get it, and others don’t.

I was inspired by the concept of majesty while walking my dog at a neighborhood playground. Lots of kids were playing. They were yelling and swearing at each other. I wondered where this came from. Then, I thought about what a difference it would make if their parents had higher expectations. What if parents envisioned themselves as kings or queens? How differently would they behave? How would they treat others? How would this affect the children?

We all have majesty within. We all have a perfect self inside that has been become encased with walls of fear, shame and hurt.

I’m not trying to re-create myself. I’m just trying to break down those walls so I can flourish without all the fear.

I don’t expect everyone to start dressing vintage. That would be ridiculous! My hope is that people can see that we all have the power to change our lives for the better.

We all have the ability to see the good in ourselves, and to strive to make great things happen, for ourselves and for others.

For the rest of the week, I will continue posting stories of and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story. And many thanks to those of you who answered the call.

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

CONSULT THE MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™
Queen Mama Donna offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.

I Envision Only Positive Outcomes Today

posted by Donna Henes


For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories of and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story.

I Envision Only Positive Outcomes Today
By Rev. Anne Presuel, FL
Queen Anne Productions
 
Today, I choose to see only positive outcomes for each situation I am in and for each conversation I have with others. I know that my intention supports me in creating the experiences I want.

If I find myself thinking of a negative one, I stop myself and I change my thinking to that of a positive outcome. If I find myself speaking in a negative way about a situation, I stop myself and I consider how else I might see this situation.

Therefore, today, I take the time to hold the vision of a positive outcome. I allow the possibility of a really good conclusion to be where I focus my energy. I allow this to be at the forefront of my thoughts, and I hold that vision sacredly.

Today, I envision only positive outcomes.

And it is so.

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories of and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story.

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

CONSULT THE MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™
Queen Mama Donna offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.

The Power Of Awakening Your Authentic Soul

posted by Donna Henes

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story
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Focusing on ourselves as divine beings, as part of creation, and as co creators is incredibly uplifting to women and leads us not only to feel better about ourselves but also to become more assertive in our lives. For most of us it is a refreshing if sometimes shocking contrast to the way we were raised to see ourselves.
- From Sacred Circles, by Robin Deen Carnes and Sally Craig

 
The Power Of Awakening Your Authentic Soul
By Daina (Dinah) Puodziunas, MI
Midlife Fairy Godmother
 
Our authentic soul is the part of us that is eternal and longs to express itself in it’s own unique way here on earth. It is our expanded/higher consciousness, an extension of Source — Infinite Intelligence — God/ess. It is the source of wisdom, inner peace, well being, joy, love, truth, and all Divine qualities.
 
It is our innocent, pure spirit self that we were born with and moved away from. At its very essence our inner wise woman is the magical blend or marriage between our authentic self and our soul which expresses itself in it’s highest potential.

It operates from the “middle way” as referred to in many spiritual traditions. It operates with the eyes of non-judgment – including and allowing everything to exist vs. fighting it while using the contrast in our dualistic world to make choices and decisions without pushing against the contrast.
 
Instead of operating from “shoulds” when making decisions, it operates from a place of adventure, curiosity, awe, enchantment, and wonder. It dwells in the land of possibilities and potential.
 
In midlife our authentic souls create a stirring within us that we find impossible to ignore in the form of challenges, crisis, or waking up to the fact that we have been in denial or lost ourselves without even realizing it!
 
In midlife everything that is not in alignment with our authentic soul often makes itself obvious.
 
This is the Goddess is rising up within us wanting us to grant ourselves permission to show up for ourselves as we have been doing for others our entire lives. In order to do this we have to answer the call to awaken the authentic soul of our inner wise woman.
 
The world needs us, but only if we are whole and fulfilled with our cup running over. Then we can give fully and freely from our joy. If you continue to give without connecting with the authentic soul of your inner wise woman, you will not be able to do it for very much longer because you will continue to feel depleted.
 
Midlife is an amazing, but challenging opportunity to access your life force energy. Your energy is either being depleted or it is being fed. Your life is talking to you constantly. Are you listening? If not now when?
 
I challenge you to rise up and answer the wake up call of your authentic soul.

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story.

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

CONSULT THE MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™
Queen Mama Donna offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.

 

True to Myself

posted by Donna Henes

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story.
 

True to Myself
By Queenie, Diabetic Queen

Do you remember being in middle and high school and following the crowd? Maybe you were strong and did not ever do that, but I did occasionally. I’m an introvert and like to please people, so sometimes it was just easier to go along with the group than say what I really wanted or felt. I know I still sometimes do this, but just because I like to get along with people. I don’t like having people not like me. For example, if I read a post on a blog that I don’t agree with, I don’t need to write it out. I can just think it instead.

This year I’ve become much more true to myself. If I don’t want to do something while around people, I don’t. If I do want to do something while around others, I do. I feel that the results of living my life this way have been incredibly beneficial. I’ve had a pretty good last 5 months of 2010, and December isn’t even over yet. I love my friends, have a wonderful class this year, have run well, and just overall really enjoy life. I do what I want to do, and act how I want to act. It is a freeing feeling. I’m living for me, having complete control over what I do, and love it. Now that I type that, it sounds very self-centered and egocentric. Although I’m focusing on being true to myself, I still make room for others, and gladly. Being true to myself has made me less introverted. It has allowed me to love my life, and for that I am grateful.

Are you true to yourself? What benefits have you reaped from being true to yourself?

For the next week or two, I am going to be posting stories about and by women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story.

 ***
The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

CONSULT THE MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™
Queen Mama Donna offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.

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