The Queen of My Self

The Queen of My Self

I Like Myself!

posted by Donna Henes

Dear Queens,

Congratulations on another milestone! Today is the 150th post of this column. Can that really be? Time sure does fly when you are having fun. And I, for one, have been having a great deal of fun researching and writing what I hope are inspiring, empowering messages for a purposeful and passionate maturity.

Thanks so much for your continued support and feedback. I am proud to be part of our growing community of extraordinary Queens. To celebrate, I am offering a Queen of My Self T-shirt/nightshirt to the first five women who request them. Details below**

You know what?
                I like myself.
                I trust myself.
                I know myself.
                I know what I want.
                I know what I need.
                I know what I have.
                I know what I know.
                I mean well.
                I try hard.
                I do good.
                I help.
                I heal.
                I hear.
                I love.
                I feel.
                I fall down.
                I stand up.
                I strive.
                I survive.
                I flourish.
                I thrive.

- Donna Henes

** To receive your gift T-shirt, just send me an email with your mailing address and your preferred size (XL – 4X). The largest sizes are great to sleep in — perchance to dream of sovereignty!

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The Queen You Are

posted by Donna Henes

Yesterday I posted the glorious “A Creed For Free Women” by Elsa Gidlow. The subtitle is “(and such men as feel happy with it.)” As it happens, many men feel happy with it. Real men, that is. Men who are comfortable in their own skins and who don’t need to denigrate women in order to inflate their self-image, are happy to see women as confident, capable Queens.

Below is a poem by one such man.

“This is more than a poem about my friend Kristin, it is also a way for a man to honor a woman. It is a way for me to work through centuries of men’s oppression of women, and my own in past lives, and to revalue what has been hurt between us… This needs to be done with truth and honesty and with heart one woman at a time.”

The Queen You Are
By Luc Watelet

When you play
with your craft
– graphic designs
photos
designing your webpage
your business card –
When you write stories
When you buy new clothes
When you give to your children
your being does not know fear
You are the Queen of your realm

Who then challenges your dreams?
What threatens to take your dreams away?

When I am in your presence
I see the queen
I trust the queen knows what’s best for herself
I do not see fear

No

When I am in your presence
I see the queen
and she is
majestic
beautiful
graceful
royal
and strong
and it touches my heart
because
what I see is contagious
What I see in you
will touch people
and women
in ways that are unforeseen
and magical

… and all that
thanks to
the Queen you are

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CONSULT THE MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™
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A Creed for Free Women

posted by Donna Henes

A Creed for Free Women
(and such men as feel happy with it.)

By Elsa Gidlow

I am.
I am from and of The Mother.
I am as I am.
Willfully harming none, none may question me.

As no free-growing tree serves another or requires to be served.
As no lion or lamb or mouse is bound or binds,
No plant or blade of grass nor ocean fish,
So I am not here to serve or be served.

I am Child of every Mother,
Mother of each daughter,
Sister of every woman,
And lover of whom I choose or chooses me.

Together or alone we dance Her Dance,
We do the work of The Mother,
She we have called Goddess for human comprehension.
She, the Source, never-to-be-grasped Mystery,
Terrible Cauldron, Womb,
Spinning out of her the unimaginably small
And the immeasurably vast –
Galaxies, worlds, flaming suns –
And our Earth, fertile with her beneficence,
Here, offering tenderest flowers.
(Yet flowers whose roots may split rock.)

I, we, Mothers, Sisters, Lovers,
Infinitely small out of her vastness,
Yet our roots too may split rock,
Rock of the rigid, the oppressive
In human affairs.

Thus is She
And being of Her
Thus am I.
Powered by Her,
As she gives, I may give,
Even of my blood and breath:
But none may require it;
And none may question me.

I am.
I am That I am.

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

CONSULT THE MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™
Queen Mama Donna offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.

 

The More Queenly I Become

posted by Donna Henes

Another post in the series of pieces about women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story. And many thanks to those of you who answered the call.

I took the question of confidence to the “Fans/Likes” of The Queen of My Self Facebook page. Here are some of their responses:

The more Queenly I become, the more I desire to be in the company of other Queens.
- The Queen of My Self

Q. Do you agree?

A. I agree completely. Self-assured, self-confident women are so much easier to hang out with. They have much fewer hang-ups, and are more likely to share joy.
- Holly, AZ

A. I used to be intimidated by confident women. But now I can see that my feeling was based on feeling inadequate myself. I was really motivated by jealousy. Now that I feel better about myself, I can honesty admire other women who have developed themselves.
- Sharone, WI

A. I totally agree! I love it when my friends walk tall, confident that they are worthy. We keep reminding each other.
- Katherine, MD

A. I strongly agree. So many of us forget our worth. Perhaps we should also take the time to recognize not only our own worth, but remind others of theirs.
- Lorraine, PA

A. Smart, capable, strong women will bring about the changes in society that we all want. We are those smart, capable, strong women!
- Louisa, KS

A. Absolutely!!!
- Jana, OR

A. I was lucky to have a mother and aunts who were terrific role models of independent thinking, competent acting women who were secure in their confidence and self-esteem. I was so proud of them. And now, I am glad to say, I am proud of me!
- Blanca, CA

A. Confidence is very attractive in a woman.
- Jenissa, LA

A. There is a difference between being queenly and being a diva. The Queen is proud, but not arrogant.
- Bev, DC

A. QUEENS UNITE!
 – Alys, AK

Q. Is there a “trick” to “becoming” Queenly? I’m SURE NOT feelin’ it.
- Robin, NV

A. Dear Robin,
No, there is no trick to becoming a Queen. We each have to earn our crown and throne by actively engaging in the changes to which we aspire. I am not saying that it is easy. But, then, no one ever told me it would be easy. So I am not surprised and just keep plugging away! The feeling that you are the ruling sovereign of your own life will grow with each hurdle that you complete. Royal blessings.
xxQMD

Q. What about you? Are you a confident woman? What are your feelings about other confident women?

Another post in the series of pieces about women who stand firm in their sense of Self-worth.

If you are such a woman, comfortable in your power, please tell me your story. And many thanks to those of you who answered the call.

***
The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

CONSULT THE MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™
Queen Mama Donna offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.

 

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