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On the Queen of My Self

posted by Donna Henes

On Finding Myself Middle Aged With No Role Model I Could Relate To Because I Am Not a Crone We have outgrown our tenure as Maidens and as Mothers, yet old age no longer follows immediately after menopause, which is […]

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The Queen’s Clothes – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

…..Continued from Wednesday’s Post of Part 1…. When I was really young I made all the clothes for my paper dolls, eschewing the ready made ones that you were supposed to cut out. I also made clothes for my other […]

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Breaking the Taboo about Menopause

posted by Donna Henes

Kim Cattrall talks on Canadian TV about Sensitive Skin, her new television show: Kim Cattrall talked this week about why she wants to give a voice to women our age and the changes and challenges we face. Kim Cattrall is […]

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The Back Story

posted by Donna Henes

It is now over ten years since the publication of The Queen of My Self. This anniversary has sparked introspection, provoked evaluation and evoked some amazing memories. Seizing My Sovereignty Back From Hostile Capturers I was, of course, thrilled when […]

Litany of Elegance

posted by Donna Henes

Blessed is the woman who affirms herself each day Blessed is the woman who believes that beauty comes from within. Blessed is the woman who challenges media stereotypes of aging. Blessed is the woman who dares to try something new […]

Life Begins at 42

posted by Donna Henes

Saint Hildegard’s Guide to Becoming a Midlife Powerfrau By Mary Sharratt We live in a youth-obsessed culture. The cosmetic industry pushes wrinkle creams and hair dye on us while celebrities resort to Botox and surgery to preserve an illusion of eternal […]

Friends Keep Us Healthy

posted by Donna Henes

What mid-life crisis? How quality time with the girls makes women more optimistic about their future than men By Tamara Abraham Daily Mail, U.K. Most women treasure the time they spend with their closest girlfriends. And according to new research, […]

How to Deal With Your Midlife Crisis

posted by Donna Henes

By Miriam Slozberg When you hear about someone going through a midlife crisis, you usually think of that stereotypical scenario of some guy in his forties impulsively buying a sports car and dumping his wife for a younger woman. Well, […]

Waking Up at Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

By Sharon Blackie It used to be called the ‘midlife crisis’; sometime later, it became known as the ‘midlife transition’. Whatever you want to call it, it happens to us all, somewhere in the middle stages of our lives: usually […]

Treading the Turbulent Midlife Waters – PART 2

posted by Donna Henes

The notion that 50 years of age could be considered a “halfway” mark is unprecedented in history. We are blessed with an inestimable gift of many more years of life than anyone who ever lived on Earth before us could […]

Treading the Turbulent Midlife Waters – PART 1

posted by Donna Henes

Aging and changing might be inevitable, but it ain’t easy. It precipitates in us a great uncertainty. The myriad dramatic disturbances of modern middle life — menopause, health concerns, the empty nest, divorce, death, and career shifts — create an […]

Take Care

posted by Donna Henes

Recently one of my Midlife Midwife™ Counseling clients called me in hysterics from the supermarket. This was her first shopping excursion since her last child left home. She had been long divorced and now her nest was completely empty. As […]

Letting Go of All that Does Not Serve

posted by Donna Henes

On my birthday this year, a friend presented me with a gorgeous amber necklace that she had gotten in Russia twenty years ago before she immigrated to the United States. Though she felt that it did not suit her, she […]

An Archetype for Us

posted by Donna Henes

What is an archetype? The literal definition of archetype is “the original pattern or model from which all things of a similar kind are copied or on which they are based; a model or first form; a prototype. Archetype also […]

Take Charge

posted by Donna Henes

You need only to claim the events of your life to make yourself yours. When you truly possess all you have been and done, which may take some time, you are fierce with reality. -Florida Scott-Maxwell Each one of us […]

Becoming the Queen of Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

The idea that we might be Queens is intoxicating. Ever since I first started introducing The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women in my workshops and articles some eight years ago, I have received thousands of requests for […]

Now It’s Your Turn!

posted by Donna Henes

During the decades of our Maiden and Motherhood, women grow to meet all of our many demanding responsibilities. Lithe moon that can’t keep getting fuller and fuller with no retreat, we can take on only so much before exploding like […]

The Queen: A Model for Midlife Empowerment

posted by Donna Henes

Who are we supposed to be at this stage of our life when we are less likely to be bound and identified by our kinship connection to someone else — as daughter, wife, mother, lover? What exactly is our role […]

Lost and Found

posted by Donna Henes

Aging and changing might be inevitable, but they ain’t easy. They precipitate in us a great uncertainty. The myriad dramatic disturbances of modern middle life — menopause, health concerns, career shifts, the empty nest, divorce and death — create an […]

From Sea Turtles to Social Work

posted by Donna Henes

A New Kind of Midlife Crisis for Women By Amanda Orr Last weekend, I attended the birthday brunch of an old friend, surrounded by people with whom I started my own career more than two decades ago. Throughout the afternoon, […]

Hot Women

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first.  […]

Treading the Turbulent Midlife Waters – PART 2

posted by Donna Henes

The notion that 50 years of age could be considered a “halfway” mark is unprecedented in history. We are blessed with an inestimable gift of many more years of life than anyone who ever lived on Earth before us could […]

Treading the Turbulent Midlife Waters – PART 1

posted by Donna Henes

Aging and changing might be inevitable, but it ain’t easy. It precipitates in us a great uncertainty. The myriad dramatic disturbances of modern middle life — menopause, health concerns, the empty nest, divorce, death, and career shifts — create an […]

How to Survive a Midlife Crisis

posted by Donna Henes

by Carol Howard Merritt I was in the midst of that crisis of middle life. The one that made my eyes roll when I read of white women who felt they had no meaning. It always sounded like they inhabited a […]

Tips on How to Breeze Through Middle Age – PART 2

posted by Donna Henes

With a bit of self-love and motivation, midlife can be a time for big positive changes. Here is a bit of advice from Best Knickers Always by Rebecca Perkins   We all have a choice We always have a choice […]

Tips on How to Breeze Through Middle Age – PART 1

posted by Donna Henes

With a bit of self-love and motivation, midlife can be a time for big positive changes. Here is a bit of advice from Best Knickers Always by Rebecca Perkins Midlife crisis? What crisis? Tips on how to breeze through middle […]

The Love of a Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Despite the rude awakenings, the unsettling physical and emotional chaos of midlife and all of its frightful, presumed ramifications, an amazing number of women find this stage to be the most personally fulfilling and satisfying of their lives so far. […]

Queen of All That is Imperfect

posted by Donna Henes

Just a few days ago I wrote, “The word ‘practice’ also serves to remind us that there is no perfect. Whether we maintain a spiritual practice, a creative practice or a professional practice, we are always in the process of […]

What Does Being a Queen Mean to You?

posted by Donna Henes

Some time ago, I asked the Queens on my Facebook page what being a Queen meant to them.  Q. What does being a Queen mean to you? A. As a little girl I wondered what it would be like to be […]

Benefits of Age

posted by Donna Henes

Aging and changing might be inevitable, but they ain’t easy. They precipitate in us a great uncertainty. The myriad dramatic disturbances of modern middle life — menopause, health concerns, career shifts, the empty nest, divorce and death — create an […]

A Time For Me

posted by Donna Henes

During the decades of our Maiden and Motherhood, women grow to meet all of our many demanding responsibilities. Like the moon that can’t keep getting fuller and fuller with no retreat, we can take on only so much before exploding […]

It Can Be Hard to Be a Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Coming from the tough love school of spiritual counseling as I do, I feel that it is only fair to warn you — There are no 10 Easy Steps to Sovereignty. The roads leading to Queendom are diverse and many. […]

Mirror, Mirror

posted by Donna Henes

Certainly the most crucial step toward sovereignty is to know our Selves. After all our years as mothers and others, we need to reestablish who we are as individuals, separate and distinct from our relationships with those around us. Who […]

Steps to Sovereignty

posted by Donna Henes

The idea that we might be Queens is intoxicating. Ever since I first started introducing The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women in my workshops and articles some eight years ago, I have received thousands of requests for […]

Embracing Age

posted by Donna Henes

As we age, we naturally change. Change, after all, is the essential stuff of life. If we embrace it with magnanimous grace and good humor, as part and parcel of the ongoing mythic adventure of our path, we stand to […]

Self-Care

posted by Donna Henes

Recently one of my Midlife Midwife™ Counseling clients called me in hysterics from the supermarket. This was her first shopping excursion since her last child left home. She had been long divorced and now her nest was completely empty. As […]

The Queen in Your Inbox

posted by Donna Henes

I am about to publish the 67th issue of The Queen’s Chronicles, the monthly ezine that offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial inspiration for all women who want to enjoy the fruits of an influential, passionate and powerful maturity. Each issue […]

A Mature Role Model

posted by Donna Henes

Who are we supposed to be at this stage of our life when we are less likely to be bound and identified by our kinship connection to someone else — as a daughter, a wife, a mother, a lover? What […]

An Archetype That Fits

posted by Donna Henes

What is an archetype? The literal definition of archetype is “the original pattern or model from which all things of a similar kind are copied or on which they are based; a model or first form; a prototype. Archetype also […]

Who Am I Now?

posted by Donna Henes

  Who Am I Now? Although I have been passionately devoted to the Many Splendored Goddess in Her complex multiplicity for more than thirty years now, I am not a believer in the Triple Goddess paradigm. It has never resonated […]

Lost & Found in Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

Despite the rude awakenings, the unsettling physical and emotional chaos of midlife and all of its frightful, presumed ramifications, an amazing number of women find this stage to be the most personally fulfilling and satisfying of their lives so far. […]

Midlife AAADD

posted by Donna Henes

  Recently, I was diagnosed with A.A.A.D.D. or Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder.   Thank goodness there’s a name for this disorder. Somehow I feel better even though I have it!   This is how it manifests:   I decide […]

Some Declarations of Queendom

posted by Donna Henes

  I have taken this ongoing discussion about the definitions and descriptions of Queendom to The Queen of My Self Page on Facebook.   Q. What does being a Queen mean to you ? A. As a little girl I […]

The Steep Path to Sovereignty

posted by Donna Henes

Coming from the tough love school of spiritual counseling as I do, I feel that it is only fair to warn you — There are no 10 Easy Steps to Sovereignty. The roads leading to Queendom are diverse and many. […]

The Midlife Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Who are we supposed to be at this stage of our life when we are less likely to be bound and identified by our kinship connection to someone else — as a daughter, a wife, a mother, a lover? What […]

Redefining Midlife Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  This article is by my friend and colleague, Barbara Bizou.     Redefining Midlife Part 2 The good news is that we can take this opportunity to look at life in a new and fresh way. This is a […]

Redefining Midlife Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  This article is by my friend and colleague, Barbara Bizou.     Redefining Midlife Part 1 “Since you don’t know when the end is going to be how can you figure out what mid-life is.” – Julia Riva We, […]

Menopausal Maniac

posted by Donna Henes

  A prevalent archetype of the assertive midlife woman in popular culture is the Menopausal Maniac. The following was sent to me by a man friend. Hmmm.   Dear Tide: I am writing to say what an excellent product you […]

You Can Become The Queen of Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

The idea that we might be Queens is intoxicating. Ever since I first started introducing The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women in my workshops and articles some eight years ago, I have received thousands of requests for […]

Celebrate the Autumn Queen

posted by Donna Henes

The Autumn Queen, who is past Her reproductive years, has never been differentiated in legend from the old Winter Crone, although they are clearly not the same. The Queen, though not yet old, is quite aware that the passing of […]

A Few Ancient Goddesses With Four Aspects

posted by Donna Henes

A life-long lover of the moon, I live in a constant state of lunar awareness and I attend to the process of my life and living in conscious accordance with the cycle of its four phases. It has long troubled […]

A Goddess with Four Faces

posted by Donna Henes

Contrary to the assumptions of many women, the Triple Goddess model is not universal, nor is it really historical. In fact, the so-called ancient paradigm that enjoys so much popularity today is actually not quite as old as I am! […]

A Midlife Archetype

posted by Donna Henes

What is an archetype? The literal definition of archetype is “the original pattern or model from which all things of a similar kind are copied or on which they are based; a model or first form; a prototype. Archetype also […]

I Am Not a Crone — Yet

posted by Donna Henes

Although I have been passionately devoted to the Many Splendored Goddess in Her complex multiplicity for more than thirty years now, I am not a believer in the Triple Goddess paradigm. It has never resonated with me because it belies […]

Welcome Queens!

posted by Donna Henes

Queen Sue Kearny of Oakland, California is the winner of The Queen of My Self book giveaway. Congratulations!   Welcome Queens! Are you in your middle years or about to enter them? Are you living your true potential and following […]

Black and Blues

posted by Donna Henes

  Surely the essential quality of winter is its absence of light. And that, so much more than the attendant cold weather, is what so many people dread about it. The long, dark, isolating chill of winter understandably renders many […]

The Empowered Woman

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

Well Being in Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Unfinished

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

Female Midlife Crisis or Midlife Alarm Call? – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Female Midlife Crisis or Midlife Alarm Call? – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Poetry Granny

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Emerging Maturity – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

Symptoms of Mid Life Crisis

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

Boomer Women Trends

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles, poems, and stories about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is a subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is […]

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by article, poems and stories about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it […]

Midlife Women Are More Hopeful than Midlife Men – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Midlife Women Are More Hopeful than Midlife Men – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Thoughts on Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

MidLife Crisis: Life Renewed

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women.  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Tomorrow: Midlife is No Crisis for Today’s Women – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Why Midlife Rocks Your World – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Why Midlife Rocks Your World – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

A New Life – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Mommy Has Dreams, Too – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Mommy Has Dreams, Too – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Field Notes on an Empty Nest – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

What I Know For Sure – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for the next while. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions […]

Begin Again

posted by Donna Henes

  Fall always feels like New Year to me. It carries so much more significance than does January 1. The first crisp hint of a chill in September always shakes me out of my summer lethargy, wakes me, makes me […]

What Could Be More Sexy?

posted by Donna Henes

    It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever […]

Sex, Sensuality, and the Midlife Single Woman

posted by Donna Henes

  Congratulations, Queens! This column has reached the milestone of 300 entries. To celebrate, I am giving away an autographed copy of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. to the first three readers who request one […]

A Lot of Hot Women

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

A Question of Queenly Sex

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Playing with Fire – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content! Emotional Sex Explore the full […]

Playing with Fire – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content!   Regular sex, according to medical […]

Am I Having A Mid-Life Crisis?

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

The Midlife Queen Mother

posted by Donna Henes

  Since May is Mothering Month, I intend to post a diverse array of articles for the rest of the month, about and for mothers.   For the first time in history, large numbers of women of our generation, especially […]

Motherhood: Pregnancy over 50 – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  Since May is Mothering Month, I intend to post a diverse array of articles over the next two weeks by, about and for mothers.   Motherhood: Pregnancy over 50 – Part 2 by Cyma Shapiro What strikes me the […]

Motherhood: Pregnancy over 50 – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  Since May is Mothering Month, I intend to post a diverse array of articles over the next two weeks by, about and for mothers.   Motherhood: Pregnancy over 50 – Part 1 by Cyma Shapiro I’m a little enamored […]

An Empty Nest Poem

posted by Donna Henes

  An Empty Nest Poem By Mary Jean Iron   Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are. Let me learn from you, love you, bless you before you depart.   Let me not pass you by […]

May is Mothering Month

posted by Donna Henes

Hail Queens! Since May is Mothering Month, I intend to post a diverse array of articles over the next two weeks by, about and for mothers. What an extraordinarily exciting and gorgeous time of the year spring is. Life is […]

Time to Mother Ourselves in Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

My dear sister Queens, As you must have noticed, I have been absent for two weeks. My contract with Beliefnet expired at the end of April, but  I am delighted to say that I have been invited to return to […]

Calling all Queens, Empresses and Ladies in Waiting

posted by Donna Henes

Calling all Queens, Empresses and Ladies in Waiting, The Queen is coming to Syracuse, New York on May 14 for a wonderful day at the fabulous Sanctuary Spa. If you have friends in the area, I would greatly appreciaten your […]

Interview with a Canadian Queen – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

I recently attended a talk by Canadian author Catherine Gildiner and was quite taken with her good humored wisdom. When I read her book, After the Falls, I was hooked. She graciously allowed me to interview her and I would […]

Let The Resolutions Begin

posted by Donna Henes

 Let The Resolutions Begin By Midlife Crisis in Process  The thoughts and ramblings of a middle age woman who is beginning to realize life requires you to make tough choices that don’t always bring happiness. Let me start by saying right […]

Slow Dancing with the Queens

posted by Donna Henes

Here are some stunning Queens of a certain age, dancing from deep within their souls. These sinuous, sensual women move the way water does. Or silk charmeuse. In waves of slow flow like lava. Fiery molasses. Their ecstatic expressions are […]

Red Hot Queen Mama

posted by Donna Henes

 This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. Red Hot Queen Mama The more competent I became in navigating and negotiating the maze of my life, the more practiced and commanding, […]

The Queen of Hearts

posted by Donna Henes

This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. The Queen of Hearts Eventually, time and the winds and storms of my maternal years weathered my once-sumptuous bloom. The galloping growth of […]

Mama Donna: Me as Mother

posted by Donna Henes

This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. Mama Donna: Me as Mother And then, a remarkable thing happened. This Ugly Duckling grew and changed, as if magically transformed. The more […]

Myself as Maiden

posted by Donna Henes

This week I am offering my own sensual, sexual experiences as Maiden, Mother, Queen and Crone-to be. Myself as Maiden I have pretty much always had a current love interest, a paramour, an inamorata-of-the-moment in my life. Ever since elementary […]

The Queen Uses Trouble Well

posted by Donna Henes

Here are selected comments from a discussion on The Queen of My Self Facebook page.http://blog.beliefnet.com/thequeenofmyself/ Q: The Queen does not invite hard times and trouble, but She chooses to use them well. Suffering is the midwife of compassion. – Queen […]

Thank you!

posted by Donna Henes

Yesterday I received so many emails from Queens across the country requesting a book. I am sorry that I had to stop with five giveaway books. Congratulations to the five lucky winners: Mari Aubuchon, KSRobin-elyse Holcombe, CAStacy Lundquist, NVDebbie Stricker, […]

The Queen’s Court

posted by Donna Henes

Look below for The Queen of My Self book giveaway offer.* For more than five years I have been traveling with The Queen of My Self through nineteen states and three countries, meeting and talking with several thousand women and […]

Summer Before the Dark

posted by Donna Henes

Doris Lessing’s wonderful book, Summer Before the Dark is as insightful, articulate, and compassionate an account of the process of a midlife woman’s transformation into the Queen of Her Self that I have ever read. She was 64 when it […]

Letting Go of All that Does Not Serve

posted by Donna Henes

On my birthday last year, a friend presented me with a gorgeous amber necklace that she had gotten in Russia twenty years ago before she immigrated to the United States. Though she felt that it did not suit her, she […]

Nourishing Relationships Interview Part I

posted by Donna Henes

Last week I was the guest of Rosemary Lichtman and Phyllis Goldberg, authors of Courage and Lessons Learned: Reaching for Your Goals and partners in their practice, Nourishing Relationships for a virtual book tour on their blog, Nourishing Relationships. The […]

Letting Go of All that Does Not Serve

posted by Donna Henes

On my birthday last year, a friend presented me with a gorgeous amber necklace that she had gotten in Russia twenty years ago before she immigrated to the United States. Though she felt that it did not suit her, she […]

Queens Everywhere

posted by Donna Henes

One third of all women in America are over the age of fifty, and one woman reaches that milestone every seven and a half seconds. Climacteric women, more than fifty million strong, now comprise the single largest population segment of […]

Creole Queens

posted by Donna Henes

Here are two of the Queens of Haiti who walk in the footsteps of Queen Anacaona: Yvonne Hakim Rimpel Feminist, Journalist Born in Port-au-Prince in 1906, Rimpel was a founder of the first Haitian feminist organization, the Women’s League for […]

I Like Myself!

posted by Donna Henes

Despite the rude awakenings, the unsettling physical and emotional chaos of midlife and all of its frightful, presumed ramifications, an amazing number of women find this stage to be the most personally fulfilling and satisfying of their lives so far. […]

The Fiery Autumn Queen

posted by Donna Henes

The Four Fold Goddess of my new archetype corresponds to the four season, directions, elements, phases of the moon and times of the day. I associate the Queen stage of a woman’s life with autumn, west, fire, sunset and the […]

Long Live the Queens!

posted by Donna Henes

The notion that fifty years of age could be considered a “halfway” mark is unprecedented. For most of human existence, life expectancy hovered at around twenty to thirty years, and it was only by 1800 that folks commonly began to […]

The Queen Suggests 10 Ways to Treat Your Self Royally

posted by Donna Henes

Recently one of my Midlife Midwife™ Counseling clients called me in hysterics from the supermarket. This was her first shopping excursion since her last child left home. She had been long divorced and now her nest was completely empty. As […]

Mother Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

  What an extraordinarily exciting and gorgeous time of the year spring is. Life is bursting out all over. Buds, blossoms and babies everywhere! Is it any wonder that May is the month of the Goddess? And of the Mother? […]

The Queen’s Chronicles

posted by Donna Henes

I am about to publish the 27th issue of The Queen’s Chronicles, the monthly ezine that offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial inspiration for all women who want to enjoy the fruits of an influential, passionate and powerful maturity. Each issue […]

The Queen as an Empowering Model for Midlife Women

posted by Donna Henes

Who are we supposed to be at this stage of our life when we are less likely to be bound and identified by our kinship connection to someone else — as a daughter, a wife, a mother, a lover? What […]

An Archetype For Us

posted by Donna Henes

What is an archetype? The literal definition of archetype is “the original pattern or model from which all things of a similar kind are copied or on which they are based; a model or first form; a prototype. Archetype also […]

On Finding Myself Middle Aged With No Role Model I Could Relate To Because I Am Not a Crone

posted by Donna Henes

Although I have been passionately devoted to the Many Splendored Goddess in Her complex multiplicity for more than thirty years now, I am not a believer in the Triple Goddess paradigm. It has never resonated with me because it belies […]

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