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The Queen of My Self

The Queen of My Self

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Donna Henes is an internationally renowned urban shaman, ritual expert, award-winning author, popular speaker and workshop leader whose joyful celebrations of celestial events have introduced ancient traditional rituals and contemporary ceremonies to millions of people in more than 100 cities since 1972. She has published four books, a CD, an acclaimed Ezine and writes for The Huffington Post and UPI Religion and Spirituality Forum. Mama Donna, as she is affectionately called, maintains a ceremonial center, spirit shop, ritual practice and consultancy where she works with individuals, groups, institutions, municipalities and corporations to create meaningful ceremonies for every imaginable occasion.

‘Midlife Crisis’ Can Become ‘Midlife Opportunity’

posted by Donna Henes

 ‘Midlife Crisis’ Can Become ‘Midlife Opportunity’ By Maggie Lamond Simone      “What do you want to do with your life?” It’s a question I ask my college students this time of year to help them define their goals, and I’m […]

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Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 2 by Aleta Pippin Myth #3 You Will Become Crabby and Self-absorbed Some people are just plain rude and as they get older, they use their age as an excuse to […]

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7 Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

7  Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 1 by Aleta Pippin When I was 18, I thought I’d know everything. In my 20’s I thought I had to wear my hair above my jaw line to look […]

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What Are Your Thoughts About Aging?

posted by Donna Henes

The process of maturing is an art to be learned, an effort to be sustained. By the age of fifty you have made yourself what you are, and if it is good, it is better than your youth. ~Marya Mannes […]

The Ageing Brain Doesn’t Need To Wane

posted by Donna Henes

We expect our mental faculties to dwindle as we grow older, but a new book suggests it is not inevitable, writes Sylvia Thompson in her book, The Secret Life of the Grown-Up Brain. The popular view of growing old is […]

Tend and Befriend

posted by Donna Henes

“Men walk, women talk.” The veracity of this the popular saying was recently proved in a landmark study conducted by two women scientists at UCLA. The long-held idea that the familiar “fight or flight“ mechanism was the universal human response […]

Words of Self-Wisdom

posted by Donna Henes

My post Wednesday  was about the Self,  in which I wrote, “The Self is the sum of all of our parts, and holistically, it is greater than the sum of all of our parts. The fluid Self transcends time and […]

Selfhood

posted by Donna Henes

What Exactly is the Self? The Self, according to Carl Jung, is the center, the midpoint of the personality, the crossroads where our personal and collective, conscious and unconscious processes intersect. The Self encompasses the totality of who we are. […]

Lost & Found in Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

Despite the rude awakenings, the unsettling physical and emotional chaos of midlife and all of its frightful, presumed ramifications, an amazing number of women find this stage to be the most personally fulfilling and satisfying of their lives so far. […]

A Hymn To Venus

posted by Donna Henes

A lovely post Valentine’s Day poem: A Hymn To Venus By Sappho   O Venus, beauty of the skies, To whom a thousand temples rise, Gaily false in gentle smiles, Full of love-perplexing wiles; O goddess, from my heart remove […]

Back in the Saddle With Gratitude

posted by Donna Henes

Dear Sister Queens, I am back. Again! What a few months this has been. First I was out for weeks dealing with the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy. And then I was felled by a super nasty flu. I am fine […]

Peace Pilgrim – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Her long walk led to a period of concentrated inner questioning about what she, one person, could do in the cause of peace. This midlife meditation culminated in her experiencing a powerful spiritual vision, an undeniable epiphany. She came to […]

Peace Pilgrim – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

I have found my favorite model of the Queen in the life of a remarkable woman known as Peace Pilgrim who devoted almost thirty years of her life to walking and talking for peace. Born Mildred Lisette Norman in 1908 […]

Take a Stand!

posted by Donna Henes

In Honor of Martin Luther King, Jr and With Encouragement for President Barak Obama We have been inundated lately on all fronts — economic, political, geophysical, meteorological, astrological, and spiritual — with threats of terror and trauma. These are indeed […]

Women’s Movement Is World Wide! Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  Women’s Movement Is World Wide! Part 2 The Internationalization of Women’s Issues By Luisita Lopez Torregrosa Published: January 8, 2013   Separately, the Women in the World Foundation, which will have its fourth annual conference in New York City […]

Women’s Movement Is World Wide! Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

Here is a very hopeful and heartening piece about the strides women are making worldwide. It is long. Look for the second half in my next post.   Women’s Movement Is World Wide! Part 1 The Internationalization of Women’s Issues […]

Say Something!

posted by Donna Henes

It is so damn easy to feel depressed, frustrated and disillusioned right now. In light of the widespread oppression, manipulation, intimidation that surrounds us today, we need to say something. There are signs everywhere in the subways of New York […]

Wise Words of Self-Wisdom

posted by Donna Henes

Here are some words of Self-wisdom by some very wise women: “We have all a better guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be.” – Jane Austen   “Doubt yourself and you doubt […]

Resolutions for Self Care

posted by Donna Henes

  Like the excellent mother, creator, organizer, administrator, mentor you are, be patient with yourself. Change is slow and you are human. Think about your daily habits. Are they healthy? Are they helpful? What improvements might you make in your […]

New Year Self Care

posted by Donna Henes

  A new year is a new start and so many of us resolve to make healthy changes in our daily lives. But so often these resolutions are goals having to do with what we know we should do. And […]

A Vision for Humanity

posted by Donna Henes

A Vision for Humanity in 2013 By Barbara Marx Hubbard Humanity is facing unprecedented, evolutionary changes. It is amazing—out of the famous Mayan prophecy has come the indication that we are facing the end of this world as we know […]

I Am the New Year

posted by Donna Henes

Dear Sister Queens, I am back! I took a leave of absence to deal with the immediate and then the long-term effects of Hurricane Sandy. I am glad to say that all is well with me now. And I am […]

The One Flaw In Women

posted by Donna Henes

The One Flaw In Women   Women have strengths that amaze men….. They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy. They smile when they want to scream. They sing when they want to cry. They […]

The Blessing of Not Being Perfect

posted by Donna Henes

  The blessing of not being perfect  by Sister Joan Chittister   Humanity is a mixture of blunders. That’s what makes it so charming, so interesting to be around. Because none of us is complete, we all need one another. […]

Midlife AAADD

posted by Donna Henes

  Recently, I was diagnosed with A.A.A.D.D. or Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder.   Thank goodness there’s a name for this disorder. Somehow I feel better even though I have it!   This is how it manifests:   I decide […]

Just Imagine!

posted by Donna Henes

 Imagine a Woman By Patricia Lynn Reilly   Imagine a woman who believes it is right and good she is a woman. A woman who honors her experience and tells her stories. Who refuses to carry the sins of others […]

Some Declarations of Queendom

posted by Donna Henes

  I have taken this ongoing discussion about the definitions and descriptions of Queendom to The Queen of My Self Page on Facebook.   Q. What does being a Queen mean to you ? A. As a little girl I […]

The Steep Path to Sovereignty

posted by Donna Henes

Coming from the tough love school of spiritual counseling as I do, I feel that it is only fair to warn you — There are no 10 Easy Steps to Sovereignty. The roads leading to Queendom are diverse and many. […]

The Midlife Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Who are we supposed to be at this stage of our life when we are less likely to be bound and identified by our kinship connection to someone else — as a daughter, a wife, a mother, a lover? What […]

Redefining Midlife Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  This article is by my friend and colleague, Barbara Bizou.     Redefining Midlife Part 2 The good news is that we can take this opportunity to look at life in a new and fresh way. This is a […]

Redefining Midlife Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  This article is by my friend and colleague, Barbara Bizou.     Redefining Midlife Part 1 “Since you don’t know when the end is going to be how can you figure out what mid-life is.” – Julia Riva We, […]

Advice From a Wise One

posted by Donna Henes

Here is some wisdom from the fabulous Maya Angelou:   EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE…   One old love she can imagine going back to… and one who reminds her how far she has come… enough money within her control to […]

Accept Inevitable Aging

posted by Donna Henes

  As we age, we naturally change. Change, after all, is the essential stuff of life. If we embrace it with magnanimous grace and good humor, as part and parcel of the ongoing mythic adventure of our path, we stand […]

Menopausal Maniac

posted by Donna Henes

  A prevalent archetype of the assertive midlife woman in popular culture is the Menopausal Maniac. The following was sent to me by a man friend. Hmmm.   Dear Tide: I am writing to say what an excellent product you […]

What Are Your Saving It For?

posted by Donna Henes

As daughters, as wives, as mothers, as lovers, as workers, as bosses, we have catered to the care and upkeep of people, pets, professions, and projects. Most of us have spent decades devoting our best efforts to making life better […]

Time to Care for Ourselves

posted by Donna Henes

Recently one of my Midlife Midwife™ Counseling clients called me in hysterics from the supermarket. This was her first shopping excursion since her last child left home. She had been long divorced and now her nest was completely empty. As […]

Have You Seen The Queen’s Chronicles?

posted by Donna Henes

  I am about to publish the 53rd issue of The Queen’s Chronicles, the monthly Ezine that offers upbeat, practical and ceremonial inspiration for all women who want to enjoy the fruits of an influential, passionate and powerful maturity. Each […]

Words from the (Self) Wise

posted by Donna Henes

We are the Queens of our Self. What does that mean? What is the Self? The Self is the sum of all of our parts, and holistically, it is greater than the sum of all of our parts. The fluid […]

You Can Become The Queen of Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

The idea that we might be Queens is intoxicating. Ever since I first started introducing The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women in my workshops and articles some eight years ago, I have received thousands of requests for […]

Celebrate the Autumn Queen

posted by Donna Henes

The Autumn Queen, who is past Her reproductive years, has never been differentiated in legend from the old Winter Crone, although they are clearly not the same. The Queen, though not yet old, is quite aware that the passing of […]

Autumn Equinox Ushers in the Season Of Ripe Maturity

posted by Donna Henes

The autumn ushers in the dark season. The season of diminished light. From now until the Vernal Equinox, six months hence, the nights are longer than the days. Shade and chill prevail. The year, the season, the sun, are slowing […]

Every Woman Is The Queen of Her Own Heart

posted by Donna Henes

Every Woman Is The Queen of Her Own Heart By Shiloh Sophia McCloud Every woman is the Queen of her own heart. She must decide how to govern her own domain. She seeks friends and allies that honor who she […]

Queen Regnant

posted by Donna Henes

QUEEN REGNANT PRONUNCIATION: (kween REG-nuhnt) MEANING: noun: A queen reigning in her own right, as opposed to one having a royal title by marriage. Also known as queen regent. ETYMOLOGY: From Latin regnare (reign). Ultimately from the Indo-European root reg- […]

A Few Ancient Goddesses With Four Aspects

posted by Donna Henes

A life-long lover of the moon, I live in a constant state of lunar awareness and I attend to the process of my life and living in conscious accordance with the cycle of its four phases. It has long troubled […]

A Goddess with Four Faces

posted by Donna Henes

Contrary to the assumptions of many women, the Triple Goddess model is not universal, nor is it really historical. In fact, the so-called ancient paradigm that enjoys so much popularity today is actually not quite as old as I am! […]

A Midlife Archetype

posted by Donna Henes

What is an archetype? The literal definition of archetype is “the original pattern or model from which all things of a similar kind are copied or on which they are based; a model or first form; a prototype. Archetype also […]

I Am Not a Crone — Yet

posted by Donna Henes

Although I have been passionately devoted to the Many Splendored Goddess in Her complex multiplicity for more than thirty years now, I am not a believer in the Triple Goddess paradigm. It has never resonated with me because it belies […]

Welcome Queens!

posted by Donna Henes

Queen Sue Kearny of Oakland, California is the winner of The Queen of My Self book giveaway. Congratulations!   Welcome Queens! Are you in your middle years or about to enter them? Are you living your true potential and following […]

I’m Back!

posted by Donna Henes

Hail Queens! After writing for Beliefnet for several years, I took a much-needed 6-month leave of absence (which I am sure you noticed!) Thanks so much for checking in while I was gone. In appreciation, I am offering a special […]

Red-Robed Priestess

posted by Donna Henes

Another book that I cannot praise enough is Red-Robed Priestess  by Elizabeth Cunningham, author of the preceding three books in the acclaimed Maeve Chronicles. After a life of passion and adventure that has brought her through slavery to the Resurrection […]

Goddess On Earth

posted by Donna Henes

Winter is a great time to catch up on reading. I have a pile of books by my bed that I want to read, that I intend to read, but am too busy to read. Well, with only 12 days […]

Resolutions You Actually Keep

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

My Own Best Friend

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Another Valentine Message

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Valentine Self Love

posted by Donna Henes

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day and I was sick. I have been working seven-day weeks for a while now and I am beat. Yesterday I woke with a nasty cold, which lasted only 24 hours, amazingly. But it left me completely […]

On Valentines and Vulvas

posted by Donna Henes

  From the beginning, women were exalted as the image, the echo, the counterpart companion of the Goddess. Their access to ecstasy, imbued with spiritual significance. As priestesses, they tended the fires and fanned the generative flames from Her sex, […]

Hard Work of Heart Work

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

The Garlic Lady in February

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Hibernating in Winter

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

An Angel Passes

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Arise

posted by Donna Henes

A reader posted this as a comment about my posting, “What the Groundhog is Really Telling Us” on my Huffington Post column. I had to share it!   ARISE As nature slowly awakens, And slowly opens her eyes, Another new […]

Our Lady of the Growing Light

posted by Donna Henes

February 2 marks the exact halfway point of winter. Along with the two equinoxes, two solstices and the three other seasonal midpoints, it is one of the eight energy-filled sacred days in the pagan calendar. Purification is the recurrent mythic […]

A Place Called “Home”

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Have A Love Affair With Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Self Love Quotes

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

We Like Ourselves!

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Feed Your Self with Love

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Love Your Self Now

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Self-Love: A Definition – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Self-Love: A Definition – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

A White Bath

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Self-Care

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Love Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Be Good To You

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

A Day in Bed Ritual

posted by Donna Henes

I am back! I ran away from home, as it were. I was so OVER everything — over-worked, over-committed, over-tired, over-whelmed, over-weight, completely overcome with responsibility. I needed a rest and I took it! As far as I can see, […]

posted by Donna Henes

  Blessings, one and all, for a New Year filled with promise. May you continue along your path to Self-sovereignty with purpose, passion, and power with Queenly aplomb.  With blessings of new beginnings and positive possibilities, xxQueen Mama Donna   […]

Meditation for the Fully Realized Woman

posted by Donna Henes

  Blessings, one and all, for a New Year filled with promise. May you continue along your path to Self-sovereignty with purpose, passion, and power. With Queenly aplomb.   May you live as a Fully Realized Woman. With blessings of […]

New Year. Clean Start.

posted by Donna Henes

  Dear Queen Mama Donna, This has been the year from hell. I feel used, abused, and grimy. My entire life has gotten out of control. In my depression I have even let my normally orderly house go. My family […]

Into the Darkness

posted by Donna Henes

Into the Darkness By Max Dashu, CA I love December. It’s a powerful time to absorb knowledge, write, create art, chant, dance. To conjoin and celebrate, feast and rejoice in community or – my great pleasure at this season – […]

Winter Song O’ Mother Sun

posted by Donna Henes

  Winter Song O’ Mother Sun By Laurie Corzett   Winter homage to our waning Sun that she will return, feeding us with light and heat, sweet energy. Mother Star, we enchant thee with ceremony, singing/dancing in glorious pageantry at […]

Festivals of Light in the Dark

posted by Donna Henes

A common theme of Winter Solstice ceremonies everywhere is the burning of fires to symbolically re-kindle the dwindling sun. People gather together to cheer on the ascendancy of the light, the victory of the very forces of life. The Hindu […]

Another Winter Solstice Prayer

posted by Donna Henes

  Winter Solstice Prayer By Pauline Alma   A M A, Earth Mother Who art all around us, And within us NOW Blessed be our creations. Give us this day, The strength and trust To acknowledge and surrender our fears […]

Winter Solstice Prayer

posted by Donna Henes

Today is the Winter Solstice, the first day of winter. The beginning point of the return of the light. I send blessings of illumination to all Queens everywhere. xxQueen Mama Donna   Winter Solstice Prayer by Mary Saracino, CO  www.marysaracino.com/ […]

The Sun is Born

posted by Donna Henes

It is from the state of original chaos, the elemental ether, the black void — The Great Uterine Darkness — that the old creatrix goddesses are said to have brought forth all that is. That the world started with the […]

Counting Down to The Winter Solstice

posted by Donna Henes

The light has been steadily retreating each day since the summer solstice, the longest day and shortest night of the year. Tip toeing slowly, silently away. The decrease has been so gradual that we barely noticed the almost imperceptible shift, […]

Black and Blues

posted by Donna Henes

  Surely the essential quality of winter is its absence of light. And that, so much more than the attendant cold weather, is what so many people dread about it. The long, dark, isolating chill of winter understandably renders many […]

Celtic View of the Dark Time

posted by Donna Henes

  This comes from a sister Queen  in response to an article that I wrote.   Celtic View of the Dark Time By Jo Coffey, CA /Ireland It was really a lift to read your piece about the Dark Time. […]

Baby, It’s Dark Outside

posted by Donna Henes

This, the week leading up to the Winter Solstice on December 21/22 is the darkest time of the year. True, the week following the solstice is just as dark, but the energy is different. After the solstice, the dark gets […]

Happy Santa Lucia Day!

posted by Donna Henes

Santa Lucia, “Holy Light,” is celebrated on December 13. Like Her sister-in-spirit, the Mexican Our Lady of Guadalupe, whose day is December 12, She is celebrated at the Winter Solstice according to the Julian calendar. Saint Lucy was a 2nd […]

Our Lady

posted by Donna Henes

I adore Our Lady of Guadalupe. I admire the creative images, amulets, and altars that She inspires. And I especially love the passionate adoration bestowed upon her by Her legions of devotees, among whom I am one. My huge loft […]

The Empowered Woman

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

Well Being in Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Unfinished

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

Female Midlife Crisis or Midlife Alarm Call? – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Female Midlife Crisis or Midlife Alarm Call? – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Poetry Granny

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Emerging Maturity – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

Emerging Maturity – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Symptoms of Mid Life Crisis

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

Boomer Women Trends

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles, poems, and stories about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is a subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is […]

Black Friday

posted by Donna Henes

The Day after Thanksgiving is called Black Friday, which refers to the fact that it is the busiest shopping day in the year – and hopefully, with luck, the most lucrative, putting merchants well into the black. Good fortune on […]

For This, Let Us Be Thankful

posted by Donna Henes

  At the close of the growing season in autumn, people, like squirrels, like ants, like bees, get busy gathering the great bounty of the land. We forage and harvest, hunt and herd; industriously amassing the abundance proffered by the […]

Thanksgiving Feast

posted by Donna Henes

Hail Queens! The writing of this piece has been punctuated by a series of shopping runs and sous chef prep duties in anticipation of the Thanksgiving dinner that we are in the process of planning. I have been making lists […]

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by article, poems and stories about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it […]

Midlife Women Are More Hopeful than Midlife Men – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Midlife Women Are More Hopeful than Midlife Men – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Thoughts on Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

MidLife Crisis: Life Renewed

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women.  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Tomorrow: Midlife is No Crisis for Today’s Women – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Why Midlife Rocks Your World – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Why Midlife Rocks Your World – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

Happy Halloween

posted by Donna Henes

Congratulations to the three winners of Queen of My Self T-shirts: Lynn Caverly, NC Angel Rodriguez, AZ Joanna Stern, FL   I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the […]

I Bless the Future

posted by Donna Henes

Do you believe it? This is my 350th post! Happy Anniversary to the Empowerment of the Queens! To celebrate, I am offering 3 The Queen of My Self T-shirts to the first 3 Queens who request one. Just send me […]

A New Life – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

A New Life – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

A New Life – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

‘ I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

To Be Present to the Present

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Mommy Has Dreams, Too – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Mommy Has Dreams, Too – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Getting Rid Of

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Letting Go of All that Does Not Serve

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

When Everything You Think You Know Changes

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Letting Go – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Letting Go – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Wear the Ring of the New!

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

A Birthday Declaration of Independence – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

A Birthday Declaration of Independence – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

Happiness — A Work in Progress

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Field Notes on an Empty Nest – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Field Notes on an Empty Nest – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE PARTS

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Get a Life

posted by Donna Henes

    I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions […]

You Think You Are Not Enough

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

If I Had My Life to Live Over

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

The Awakening – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

The Awakening – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

The Awakening

posted by Donna Henes

Congratulations to the winners of the Queen of My Self T-shirts: Caren Catterall, CA Marta Schmidt, NY Smoky Zeidel, CA Wear your sovereignty with pride!   I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the […]

Autumn: Season Of Ripe Maturity

posted by Donna Henes

This is my 325 post. I would like to share this harvest by thanking you who read these words. So I am offering The Queen of My Self T-shirts to the first three people contact me at thequeenofmyself@aol.com and request […]

Today is the Day

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Birthday Party in the Sky

posted by Donna Henes

   I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Happy Birthday! – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

Happy Birthday! – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

To Make A Difference

posted by Donna Henes

  I just came across this touching testament to the power of one person’s devotion to peace. It is the perfect wrap up for this week’s posts about 9/11.There IS still a chance for peace!   To Make A Difference […]

Urban Shaman’s Prayer

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

A Walk Your Talk Pilgrimage – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

A Walk Your Talk Pilgrimage – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are […]

A Walk Your Talk Pilgrimage in 3 Parts

posted by Donna Henes

I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on […]

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for the next while. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions […]

What I Know For Sure – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for the next while. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions […]

Begin Again

posted by Donna Henes

  Fall always feels like New Year to me. It carries so much more significance than does January 1. The first crisp hint of a chill in September always shakes me out of my summer lethargy, wakes me, makes me […]

Have a Love Affair with Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

What Could Be More Sexy?

posted by Donna Henes

    It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever […]

Sex Goddess

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Anoint Your Self for Pleasure

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Good Vibrations – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

    It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever […]

Good Vibrations – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  Congratulations to the three winners of  The Queen of My Self book giveaway: Susan Aubin, CO Geri Hearne, IL Smoky Zeidel, CA Enjoy!!! It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going […]

Masturbation Queen

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Sex, Sensuality, and the Midlife Single Woman

posted by Donna Henes

  Congratulations, Queens! This column has reached the milestone of 300 entries. To celebrate, I am giving away an autographed copy of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. to the first three readers who request one […]

Homage to My Hips

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

All About Eve’s Garden

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Queen of Camp – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Queen of Camp – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Sexy Brain

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

The Beauty Of A Woman

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Learning to Love Yourself – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Learning to Love Yourself – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Learning to Love Yourself – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

In Praise of Older Women

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

Words of Self Love

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 3

posted by Donna Henes

  How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 3 By Evelyn Lim www.abundancetapestry.com 10. Make Positive Affirmations Everyday. Post affirmations that can help raise your self esteem everyday. For instance, say this to yourself “I love and accept […]

How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Queen of Midsummer

posted by Donna Henes

  Today is Midsummer. The halfway point of summer is like a well-seasoned woman. The galloping growth and sweet blush of spring have slowed and faded in her sweltering heat. She’s slower now, and surer. Strong and steady. She’s salty […]

A Lot of Hot Women

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

According to Dr. Ruth

posted by Donna Henes

  Why do women over 50 lose their sex drive? By Dr Ruth Westheimer    Q. Why do a large percentage of women over 50 lose their sex drive? It is not just my wife, but many others that I […]

A Question of Queenly Sex

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Peaches – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Peaches – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

I Am

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Redefining Beauty – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Redefining Beauty – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Loving Our Bodies

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Desert Cougar Queen – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content! I came across this article […]

Desert Cougar Queen – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content! I came across this article […]

EcoSex Manifesto

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content!   I received this response […]

Playing with Fire – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content! Emotional Sex Explore the full […]

Playing with Fire – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content!   Regular sex, according to medical […]

Poem for the Woman Who Doesn’t Want a Daughter

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content!   Poem for the Woman […]

Calendar Girls

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content!   In 1998 Angela Baker […]

A Hymn To Venus

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content!   A Hymn To Venus […]

Ancient Venuses

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content!   Paleolithic carvings and figures […]

Happy Interdependence Day

posted by Donna Henes

  I was recently invited to address a gathering of clergy who are being trained to serve as resident chaplains in the pastoral care department of a major urban medical center. Specifically, they asked me to present the shamanic point […]

3 Love Poems

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

Self-Love: A Definition – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

Self-Love: A Definition – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

Summer of Lust

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

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