The Queen of My Self

The time when women hit their absolute sexual peak may surprise you.

By Zaynep Yenisey for Maxim (a magazine for men)

Turns out sex for women is like a fine wine. It gets better with age! But then it gets weird and gross after a certain point, because our biological clock takes no prisoners.

According to new research, the age at which women have the best sex is not in their young and perky 20s, unlike what was previously believed. Two separate studies revealed that middle aged women have the best sex! So all those soccer moms and bored housewives out there are living their best sex lives as we speak, be it with their husband or the pool boy.

For the studies, researchers conducted interviews with over three dozen women between the ages of 45 and 60, and found that sexual satisfaction was higher at midlife, despite all the unsavory side effects of getting older, like vaginal dryness, low libido, and needy children trying to get in bed with mommy.

The researchers believe that the sex-is-great-even-though-I’m-old phenomena is due to multiple factors, including more self-confidence, better communication skills, and the inevitable peace women are forced to make with their bodies after a midlife crisis.

That said, these findings are quite interesting, and frankly a little weird, considering everything that was once perky starts to droop once ladies enter middle-age territory, which can definitely f**k with self-esteem and sexuality.

“We were surprised to find a group of women who said that sex actually gets better for them as they got older,” lead author Holly Thomas told Today.

“As doctors we were assuming that sex gets worse for women,” she added, insinuating her bewilderment at the fact that childbirth and getting wrinkly and saggy and stuff doesn’t ruin sex for women forever.

That said, if you’re single and ready to mingle, go find yourself a middle-aged woman if you’re looking to have some stellar sex. Hot 20-somethings are out, MILFs are in.

(Ha! Who has the last laugh!!! xxMama Donna)

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Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™

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