The Queen of My Self


Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we not need these cosmetic and quasi-medical accoutrements, they are downright insulting and sometimes even dangerous.)

I have been inundated lately by articles, poems, and stories about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is a subject very much on the minds of many, many women. The writings that I have been sharing with you cover the gamut of opinions, ideas, and suggestions about coping with a Midlife Crisis, ours or someone else’s. I offer them up to you to for your interest and edification.

As always, I invite you to send me your stories — experiences, advice, and inspiration to share with our community of Midlife Queens. And special thanks to all oof you who have shared their ideas, research, and creativity with us.

Midlife Crisis or Midlife Consciousness? You choose!

xxQueen Mama Donna


Mid Life Crisis

By Poetry Granny

Many changes are coming my way;

A midlife crisis is what they say.

I’ve always controlled, my feelings and such

But here, lately, it seems like too much.


At night I can’t sleep, I toss and I turn

My body feels cold then suddenly it burns.

I pull up the covers then throw them all back

I think, “Oh, my Lord. I’m under attack.”

I turn on my fan to stir up the air

My pajamas are soggy and so is my hair.


I’m happy, then sad; How should I feel?

My head just keeps spinning. It’s starting to reel.

My thoughts make me ponder, why am I here?

Do I have a purpose? What do I fear?


Who am I? Is my identity lost?

Placed by the roadside, from whence it was tossed.

Am I somebody’s wife, or somebody’s mother?

What is my title? I feel I might smother!

Is this the reason I can’t get any sleep?

It just makes me worry, as I start to weep.


Reality jolts me; I remember it then.

It’s life’s little circle, as I start to grin.

Life’s ever changing ; it’s never the same

I think I’ll survive this. I’ll win in this game.


Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She is the Midlife Midwife™ offering counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™

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