I see “Begin Again” as an ideal theme for this season. We have the supreme opportunity now in the autumn of our midlife to begin again. How shall we reinvent our Selves? What new programs, projects and passions are on the horizon for us? Please send me your stories of change, transition, and transformation. Our shared experiences serve to inspire and empower us all.
This amazing poem is from a Queen-in-progress right here in Exotic Brooklyn.
Please keep your fine and inspiring stories coming!
xxQueen Mama Donna
Getting Rid Of
By Sharon Mesmer, NY
if I’m not going
to live like this
anymore I must will
every cell to stand away
— CA Conrad
To cast aside
To cast away
To throw away
To toss, fling, dispose
To slough off
To ditch, defat, degrease, delocalize, kern, pith, scum, prune
To remove unwanted elements
But what unwanted elements? I’ll tell you …
CheckingCheckingCheckingCheckingCheckingCheckingChecking … For Infection
Did I Cause It? Will I Cause It? Did I Cause It? Will I Cause It? Did I, Will I, Did I, Will I??
Poor Me Poor Me Poor Me Poor Me Poor Me Poor Me Poor Me Poor Me Poor Me
Got Lost in the Past Got Lost in the Past Got Lost in the Past Got Lost in the Past
Wondering Why Me Why Me Why Me Why Me Why Me Why Me Why Me Why Me
Oh, Me: Whiney — WhiningWhiningWhiningWhiningWhiningWhiningWhiningWhining
Why Can’t It Be This Way, Why Can’t It Be That Way, Why Can’t It Be This Way, Why Can’t It Be
THAT WAY — THAT WAY: MY WAY MY WAY MY WAY MY WAY MY WAY —
(and I don’t even know what that way is, really, except for … )
Has To Be Now / Have To Know Now / Has To Be Now / Have To Know Now /
Has To Be — Has To Have — Has To Know … NOW
No Faith No Faith No Faith No Faith No Faith No Faith No Faith No Faith No Faith No Faith
No Trust, No Confidence — No Trust, No Confidence — No Trust, No Confidence, Despite Evidence
TO THE CONTRARY
And even now:
BEATING MYSELF UP BEATING MYSELF UP BEATING MYSELF UP BEATING MYSELF UP
Wondering, why can’t I be like my friend, who said about her husband’s illness:
He’s slowly getting better, but he’s not the person he was. And may never be again.
Let me know how it goes with you.
What do I really want to get rid of?
This inability to be happy with who I am and where I am
Because I know
I will look back on all this
in ten years
Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She is the Midlife Midwife™ offering counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™
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