The Queen of My Self

The Queen of My Self


posted by Donna Henes

 

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first.

 

Sex Gets Better With Age

The Daily Mail, UK

Most women dread the march of time and the wrinkles, grey hairs and expanding waistlines that come with it.

But there is at least one thing to look forward to as they grow older – better sex.

A survey published today says women over 35 make love more than they did in their twenties.

Not only that, they reckon sex at that age is better than ever.

The findings will come as no surprise to stars such as Joan Collins, Goldie Hawn and Cher, who have enjoyed healthy love lives well into their fifties and, in Miss Collins’s case, beyond.

The 67-year-old former Dynasty beauty recently left her 42-year-old partner of the last 13 years, Robin Hurlstone, for an even younger man -theatre manager Percy Gibson, 35.

Neither actress has ever had any truck with the idea that sex begins to lose its appeal for women once they have had children or become deeply involved in their careers.

The survey, for a new women’s magazine called Your Life, suggests the typical British woman is in full agreement.

It involved one-to-one home interviews with professional women aged 35 and over across Britain.

Eighty-nine per cent of those questioned agreed sex had got better with age.

Most said they made love more now than at the beginning of their relationships.

Some 75 per cent of the women said they were happy with their sex lives. This figure increased to 82 per cent among those currently in a relationship, with the married women seemingly the happiest overall.

Sixty-two per cent of the women put their healthy sex lives down to the sexual liberation of women, which came with the introduction of the Pill in the 1960s. They believed the so-called permissive society improved women’s lives for the better.

A quarter admitted taking advantage of that climate by cheating on a partner while in a long-term relationship.

And a surprising 71 per cent of those who confessed to infidelity declared that they had no regrets about their indiscretions.

The women questioned told Your Life they had had an average of five sexual partners.

Only 21 per cent of them claimed to have had more.

Caroline Neill, chairman of the British Housewives League, said of the survey findings yesterday: “Couples in a happy marriage will do better. But they have to work at it sometimes. There can be bad times. But if the couple are committed to one another they get through them.”

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Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She is the Midlife Midwife™ offering counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™

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