The Queen of My Self

The Queen of My Self

Our Deepest Fear

We have now passed the milestone of 250 posts on this Queen blog! Hurray! To celebrate, I will give away 3 signed copies of The Queen of My Self to the first 3 readers who request one.

June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy.

But while June is the jolly season for Brides and Grooms, Brides and Brides and Grooms and Grooms, it is important to remember that the most primary and important love is that of Self Love. All relationships are built on the respect, esteem and affection that we have for our self.



Our Deepest Fear

By Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.


We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?


You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking

so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.


We are all meant to shine, as children do.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.


It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone.


And as we let our own light shine,

we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,

our presence automatically liberates others.

From A Return To Love


Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She is the Midlife Midwife™ offering counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.



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  • cjwright

    Congratulations on your milestone, Mama Donna! I’m a follower from way back when you were writing Celestially Auspcious Occasions for Free Spirit in NYC and always enjoy catching up with your blog.

    • Donna Henes

      Hello Queen Auntie Moon,
      What a treat to hear from someone from the “olden days!” Thanks for finding me here. I will sign you up for a complimentary subscription to my monthly Ezine, The Queen’s Chronicles.
      With regal blessings,
      xxQueen Mama Donna

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